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 Posted: Thu Aug 16, 2007 6:40 pm
Alright.. If your under 14, dont read this.
I have a friend, who's 16. She has had a rough life. Major drugs addict, sex, that kind of stuff. Anyway, she was saved a about 6 months ago. Those 6 months were great. Than she started working at this place, and ment this guy, let's call him Mike, and he is 25 years old with 3 kids and in the middle of a violent divorce. So she starts talking to guy and falls for him. But all this guy wants is sex. and my friend doesn't relize that. So she eventualy does foreplay or presexual activitys.
But, thats not it. She went to party and got high and drunk off her a**! Which lead to her being token advantage of, and now we have reasons to believe she's pregent...
The thing is, she is a major Christian and gave her life to God very very willingly. And now, the devil's taking her, I am trying all I know that God has gave me to try and help her. But its not enough, I cant tell anyone cause I am risking our friendship, and i dont wanna lose that.
Can you guys help me? THANKS AND GOD BLESS!
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Posted: Thu Aug 16, 2007 6:56 pm
ooh that's a sticky situation she has herself in.
First and foremost I have to say, you should tell a trusted adult. Trust me. I had a friend who was (and to a minimal extent still is) caught up in the same lifestyle, and not telling anyone just makes it worse. I know that it's hard because you don't want to risk the friendship, but it will be better in the end if she can get some help from an adult.
Is she getting more and more involved with Mike? Because if she is - someone has to pull her away. A 16 year old getting involved with a 25 year old (especially one who's going through a divorce) is bad news. And that will generally lead to sex and bad decisions.
Was Mike the one who took advantage of her at the party? Or was that just some other person? confused
Also, if she is pregnant - I hope she doesn't decide to abort the baby. Off topic, but I just needed to say it.
Continue to pray for her, and if you have other friends who know her, ask that they'll pray for her too.
And I know that you don't want to, but telling a trusted adult will help. Especially if it happens to be a religious figure, because they can give you advice on what to do, but they can also offer help to the girl.
Good luck and I hope everything goes well :]
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Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 9:52 am
How come everytime i check up on you... something like this is going on? Alright. One of the first things i sugest like Daughter of Christ has suggested already, is telling an adult. Preferably a female leader in the church, this is because they understand alot better than us dudes what women go through... they're women. secondly, i suggest trying to open her eyes to the truth. If you've tried that, and it isnt working... ummmmm... can't think now >.< my strongest advice is... a female adult leader in your church... if u have one yet o.O Also... I'll try and help you, but try and get a few friends to look through out the bible for verses that might help her see whats really going on... the bible has a lt of good advice, and eye openers for those willing to see them. If shes willing, she'll see them. lemme know if ya needs anything wink
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Posted: Fri Aug 17, 2007 2:05 pm
pray hard and pray with her
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Posted: Sat Aug 18, 2007 10:50 am
Well, first and foremost, if she was taken advantage of while under the influence of alchohol then that is legally considered rape, and you should take the proper legal recourse. Thats not right, and the people who did that need to be punished.
Secondly, whats done is done. If she is pregnant or not, the past has already happened, and theres no use dwelling on spilled milk. Right now, you need to focus on getting her out of this unhealthy relationship and getting her to godly counsel to help her avoid such problems in the future.
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Posted: Sun Aug 19, 2007 11:06 am
agreed
focus on what to do next
may want to avoid conversations about fire
being on fire is not fun
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Posted: Sun Aug 26, 2007 6:59 pm
purttyinpink pray hard and pray with her ONLY pray? Is that all? Implying that all you need to do is pray to God and poof, all will be better? Shouldn't one be proactive in such a situation, such as telling a trusted adult, instead of just praying to a God and hoping for a miracle? Byut why not take matters into your own hands, create your own miracle?
Anyway, that being said, dirtdevilgrunt13, I suggest you tell a trusted adult or school counselor.
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