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 Posted: Fri Mar 30, 2012 8:13 am
So here's the thing: I really like this guy in this taiko drum group I'm in. I tried for a while to convince myself that I didn't (since I'm pretty sure he's straight), but obviously that didn't exactly work. Now I'm just not sure what I should do. Should I just gut up and tell him how I feel (I don't think he'd be the type to freak out and hate me), or should I just keep quiet about it (he'll be graduating by this semester)?
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Posted: Fri Mar 30, 2012 8:30 am
Go ahead and tell him. If it goes bed.... well he will be leaving at the end of the year, so what have you got to lose?
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Posted: Fri Mar 30, 2012 9:55 am
Yoseisame Go ahead and tell him. If it goes bed.... well he will be leaving at the end of the year, so what have you got to lose? 110% agree. Besides if you don't take the chance you'll always think "what if?"
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Posted: Fri Mar 30, 2012 10:33 am
What have you to lose?
Telling him would ease your conscience and what is the worst that could happen? Sure, he could reject you but isn't that a part of life?
A lot of guys would be flattered, regardless of your sexuality.
I say, bite the bullet and do it to it.
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Posted: Fri Mar 30, 2012 11:16 am
Tough question; tough answer. I don't want you to get hurt. What you see is different than what he will actuallty do. Use great caution if you still want to go through with this. I say don't since he is in the same group you are and what I stated earlier. If you want to go through with this, pull him aside away from the others and say you have a crush on him. Again, I fear the outcome so I say don't do it.
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Posted: Fri Mar 30, 2012 1:46 pm
Thank you all for the advice, I really appreciate it.
I think I'll probably test the waters, so to speak, and I may say something in a couple weeks. After all, I'm always the first one to practice so no one else would be around. confused
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Posted: Fri Mar 30, 2012 7:12 pm
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Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2012 12:06 pm
Hey, if you're still feeling uneasy about it I can tell you the time I told my first crush (who was straight) that I liked him.
Okay, so this boy lives on my block and I don't even know his name. At this time, I never ever came outside because I was bullied and scared (not for being gay, I was still closted and unsure). One day he apparently told my sister to get me to come outside and hang out with him. So I go out, and there he stood. He was... amazing. After three or so months we became great friends, and I came out as Bisexual at first. He didn't care. One day I felt really upset because I realized he couldn't like me back. He came up to me and asked what was wrong. Eventually he got me to speak, at which point I broke down in tears. I thought he would either, laugh, make fun of me, or tell other people. He didn't do any of those. Instead he sat down with me and just hugged me. After I stopped crying, he asked me if I was okay. I said yes and he said back, "I kinda figured you had a crush on me.... It's cool." And he smiled. We hugged again and separated, going in to our houses.
Me and this guy are still friends and still hang out today. I don't know if this helps, but I hope it does. I don't know the guy you like but if he's cool then I think you should go for it.
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Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2012 3:22 pm
Timid Mishu Hey, if you're still feeling uneasy about it I can tell you the time I told my first crush (who was straight) that I liked him. Okay, so this boy lives on my block and I don't even know his name. At this time, I never ever came outside because I was bullied and scared (not for being gay, I was still closted and unsure). One day he apparently told my sister to get me to come outside and hang out with him. So I go out, and there he stood. He was... amazing. After three or so months we became great friends, and I came out as Bisexual at first. He didn't care. One day I felt really upset because I realized he couldn't like me back. He came up to me and asked what was wrong. Eventually he got me to speak, at which point I broke down in tears. I thought he would either, laugh, make fun of me, or tell other people. He didn't do any of those. Instead he sat down with me and just hugged me. After I stopped crying, he asked me if I was okay. I said yes and he said back, "I kinda figured you had a crush on me.... It's cool." And he smiled. We hugged again and separated, going in to our houses. Me and this guy are still friends and still hang out today. I don't know if this helps, but I hope it does. I don't know the guy you like but if he's cool then I think you should go for it. This actually REALLY helps right now, since I've been feeling extremely unsure, scared, anxious, and stressed about going through with it. emotion_0A0 I really appreciate it! I just hope I can maybe turn a conversation towards the subject without being completely obvious... >_>
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Posted: Sat Mar 31, 2012 3:42 pm
Quote: This actually REALLY helps right now, since I've been feeling extremely unsure, scared, anxious, and stressed about going through with it. emotion_0A0 I really appreciate it! I just hope I can maybe turn a conversation towards the subject without being completely obvious... >_> Yeah it was wierd for me to bring it up too. Eventually you're able to pull yourself together and say it.
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Posted: Tue Apr 24, 2012 7:26 pm
Veneficus Monstrum So here's the thing: I really like this guy in this taiko drum group I'm in. I tried for a while to convince myself that I didn't (since I'm pretty sure he's straight), but obviously that didn't exactly work. Now I'm just not sure what I should do. Should I just gut up and tell him how I feel (I don't think he'd be the type to freak out and hate me), or should I just keep quiet about it (he'll be graduating by this semester)? Go head and tell him, he is leaving anyways so what does it matter. But what if he is gay and likes u to...then what???
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