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 Posted: Sun Nov 11, 2007 10:09 am
Luna-wa says :
>.>;;;;
i told my mom i was wiccan and i was told
"no your not"
end of story
she thinks it the devils work.... but then again someone who bases her info off children of the corn is bound to have a few snags against wicca
so i let her live in her delusion and pretend im not wiccan, but practice at night or when no one is home xD
and you'd be brain-missing not to listen
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Posted: Fri Nov 30, 2007 10:11 pm
My family is weird. My dad and brother are basically nothing in terms or religion and my mom is this weird combination of Christian and Native American beliefs, leaning more toward the Native American side. So they really didn't give much either way. My one grandmother doesn't really know about it cause she would probably give my mom hell for it and then it'd come back to bit me in the butt. So I don't tell her for the sake of my mom. My other grandmother was totally ok with it, but I can't tell if that's cause she's actually ok with it or if she's just gotten so senile she doesn't realize what it is. Either way it's okies. My boyfriend is ok with it too, but he's not exactly a huge Christian either. The only issue I had with him was that once I asked if I could try and help his insomnia with a spell and he said he didn't want to agree with it cause the whole "magick gets you sent to hell" thing. It bugged me a bit cause he said he was totally ok with me being Wiccan but when I asked to try and help him with a spell he was all the sudden afraid of going to hell. Which I thought was a little hypocritical considering he doesn't worry about me going to hell and I'm the Wiccan! I talked to him about it though and he realized that it was kinda not right on his part and now he's ok with me helping him with spells. whee I love him for being so understanding. But yeah, I've always thought it just better to come out and tell your parents, unless it involves you getting booted out of your house or something. I just always figured that it'd just be a pain to hide.
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Posted: Sat Dec 01, 2007 7:29 pm
dark_angel_32189 You know what I dislike??... when people use the word "witch" as an insult. It makes me sad. cry My mom does it sometimes even when I'm sitting right next to her and she knows that I'm Wiccan. If that's not a slap in the face, then I don't know what is. *sigh* my mom always uses witch instead b***h in front of me, but she doesn't know i'm a witch. she thinks she's being less offensive that way, but its actually more offensive. i told my parents a few years ago that i was agnostic. they're still mad at me about that. so i won't be telling them i'm a witch for a while.
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Posted: Sun Dec 02, 2007 8:10 am
Leavaros dark_angel_32189 You know what I dislike??... when people use the word "witch" as an insult. It makes me sad. cry My mom does it sometimes even when I'm sitting right next to her and she knows that I'm Wiccan. If that's not a slap in the face, then I don't know what is. *sigh* I agree. It is upsetting--and actually, the word "pagan" derives from a Latin word meaning "redneck" (basically, rural person with a slur on it) which was coined when Christianity became the state religion of Rome, and people in the country did not convert. As far as I know, Paganism is still the only religion that takes its name from a slur that another religion put on it. As to what could be a worse slap in the face, I'll tell you: when people say "that's so gay" as an insult around me. Which happens all the time. The worst thing is that you chose the Wiccan path, and though I don't fault you for it--I am in the guild, aren't I?--having chosen it, you at least understand that you'll get some of that. I didn't even get that choice. Can you imagine how it must feel? Even my best friends say it, without even thinking about it.... So understand that I understand, Darkangel. Love and Vale, -LD Not is not entirely true, Pagan also meant Peasant folk, which was not offensive.
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 12:03 pm
I'm lucky... I told my mother and since she doesn't get out much sweatdrop she had no misconceptions about it to fog my explanations. She asked for more info, and I told her I'd give her some when we had more time (it was late that night). She said, she'd like it if I could get a book for her to read or something.
Anyone know any GOOD books? Most books I have read are good, partially. Then they get into stuff that not everyone does, like practicing skyclad and having ritual sex and I don't want to scare my mom off thinking that I'm a nudist and a sex fiend.
My grandparents don't know, and I recently bought some wiccan supplies (why I told my mom) and they keep asking what I bought, but I am scared to tell them because they DO get out a lot. And so, they think I am buying drugs or sex toys or something. When really it's just some runes and silk tarot cloths.
Any advice?.. Should I just have a family sit-down once I find a good book, or source of knowledge? Write my own little essay about it?
The only book I currently have is Solitary Witch by Silver Ravenwolf. I know many people dislike her, but her books are the ONLY ones my local bookstore carries. (on a sidenote if you live in ohio and know of some pagan/wiccan stores, please tell me. Yellow-pages just brought up 'religious organizations' upon searching for pagan/wiccan terms and it was all christian and catholic. )
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 12:25 pm
Controller-Tamer I'm lucky... I told my mother and since she doesn't get out much sweatdrop she had no misconceptions about it to fog my explanations. She asked for more info, and I told her I'd give her some when we had more time (it was late that night). She said, she'd like it if I could get a book for her to read or something. Anyone know any GOOD books? Most books I have read are good, partially. Then they get into stuff that not everyone does, like practicing skyclad and having ritual sex and I don't want to scare my mom off thinking that I'm a nudist and a sex fiend. My grandparents don't know, and I recently bought some wiccan supplies (why I told my mom) and they keep asking what I bought, but I am scared to tell them because they DO get out a lot. And so, they think I am buying drugs or sex toys or something. When really it's just some runes and silk tarot cloths. Any advice?.. Should I just have a family sit-down once I find a good book, or source of knowledge? Write my own little essay about it? The only book I currently have is Solitary Witch by Silver Ravenwolf. I know many people dislike her, but her books are the ONLY ones my local bookstore carries. (on a sidenote if you live in ohio and know of some pagan/wiccan stores, please tell me. Yellow-pages just brought up 'religious organizations' upon searching for pagan/wiccan terms and it was all christian and catholic. ) Check out the book list...that might help!!! Here's the Link!!! Book List Here
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 12:30 pm
There are books for beginners but not really any geared towards family members. I might pick up some of the beginner books I suppose.
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 12:33 pm
oh...well sorry it wasn't more helpful...I don't really know how to deal with family members considering I am never going to tell my family!!! I know how to deal with hiding it but that is about it!!!
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 3:02 pm
There's one by Scott Cunningham that you're suppose to be able to give to your parents to read. It just talks about what Wicca really is, what it isn't, and so on.
I can't remember the name of it and I'm not at my house right now to get the title. I PM you the title later tonight, and if I don't, please send me a PM to remind me.
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Posted: Tue Dec 04, 2007 10:43 am
Controller-Tamer I'm lucky... I told my mother and since she doesn't get out much sweatdrop she had no misconceptions about it to fog my explanations. She asked for more info, and I told her I'd give her some when we had more time (it was late that night). She said, she'd like it if I could get a book for her to read or something. Anyone know any GOOD books? Most books I have read are good, partially. Then they get into stuff that not everyone does, like practicing skyclad and having ritual sex and I don't want to scare my mom off thinking that I'm a nudist and a sex fiend. My grandparents don't know, and I recently bought some wiccan supplies (why I told my mom) and they keep asking what I bought, but I am scared to tell them because they DO get out a lot. And so, they think I am buying drugs or sex toys or something. When really it's just some runes and silk tarot cloths. Any advice?.. Should I just have a family sit-down once I find a good book, or source of knowledge? Write my own little essay about it? The only book I currently have is Solitary Witch by Silver Ravenwolf. I know many people dislike her, but her books are the ONLY ones my local bookstore carries. (on a sidenote if you live in ohio and know of some pagan/wiccan stores, please tell me. Yellow-pages just brought up 'religious organizations' upon searching for pagan/wiccan terms and it was all christian and catholic. ) My first book that I got about Wicca was The Complete Idiot's Guide to Wicca and Witchcraft and it's got a great overview of Wicca without too much that would scare family members too much, when the mention skyclad they say it's not totally necessary and such. I got it at my local Barnes and Noble so it shouldn't be too hard to find, assuming you have a B&N in your area. Hopefully I helped ya out a bit.
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Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 9:09 am
I talked to a counselor about this one day, and she told me that she has found bieng Wicca is a lot like being homosexual, and to talk to one's family about it is very akin to coming out. I would have to agree, and though my parents are well aware that I am not a follower of Christianity, I try whole heartedly to avoid the subject. Why fight when we aren't going to get anywhere?
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Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 10:11 am
My mother brought me up as a Pagan smile
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Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 1:48 pm
CosmicCrystal I talked to a counselor about this one day, and she told me that she has found bieng Wicca is a lot like being homosexual, and to talk to one's family about it is very akin to coming out. I would have to agree, and though my parents are well aware that I am not a follower of Christianity, I try whole heartedly to avoid the subject. Why fight when we aren't going to get anywhere? I talked to my counselor about Wicca one day, and I found out she's a hardcore christian and then had to endure hours of stories as to why she believes in God. sweatdrop But the good part is, my family is pretty ok with it. My mom wants to learn more and get involved actually. But, my mom isnt a very committing person... and she likes having knowledge fed to her as opposed to finding it herself confused Not sure if I should teach her. Then again I shouldn't withhold her from it either, as I'd not want her to do so to me.
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Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 3:46 pm
Controller-Tamer I'm lucky... I told my mother and since she doesn't get out much sweatdrop she had no misconceptions about it to fog my explanations. She asked for more info, and I told her I'd give her some when we had more time (it was late that night). She said, she'd like it if I could get a book for her to read or something. Anyone know any GOOD books? Most books I have read are good, partially. Then they get into stuff that not everyone does, like practicing skyclad and having ritual sex and I don't want to scare my mom off thinking that I'm a nudist and a sex fiend. My grandparents don't know, and I recently bought some wiccan supplies (why I told my mom) and they keep asking what I bought, but I am scared to tell them because they DO get out a lot. And so, they think I am buying drugs or sex toys or something. When really it's just some runes and silk tarot cloths. Any advice?.. Should I just have a family sit-down once I find a good book, or source of knowledge? Write my own little essay about it? The only book I currently have is Solitary Witch by Silver Ravenwolf. I know many people dislike her, but her books are the ONLY ones my local bookstore carries. (on a sidenote if you live in ohio and know of some pagan/wiccan stores, please tell me. Yellow-pages just brought up 'religious organizations' upon searching for pagan/wiccan terms and it was all christian and catholic. ) When the world ends...
The Idiots Guide To Wicca and Witchcraft Is the perfect book for people of other religions to see what the Wicca Religion is all about. The writer is not actually a Wicca ( he has people who are Wiccan help him write it though, so it is accurate) and so it takes an approach that is careful and very soothing about subjects that would otherwise be inappropriate.
DragonSummoner66 My first book that I got about Wicca was The Complete Idiot's Guide to Wicca and Witchcraft and it's got a great overview of Wicca without too much that would scare family members too much, when the mention skyclad they say it's not totally necessary and such. I got it at my local Barnes and Noble so it shouldn't be too hard to find, assuming you have a B&N in your area. Hopefully I helped ya out a bit.
OMG, Great minds think alike is officially true! wink Yeah I love that book, it helped me a lot to see it from a stand point when I decided to start learning about Wicca that did not make me feel like Wicca was anything what the common misconceptions are. ( am sure I could have reworded that sentence, O well I will have to let it pass) so yeah.
... I will still be singing my song.
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Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 11:09 pm
My mother and I are estranged for the most part because of religion. We exchange a few snail mail letters a year, and thats it- her choice. I do know she has a myspace page, and I frequently (1-2x/wk) check it. Well lately she's been posting Christian Religious stuff about witches & homosexuals. Both of which I happen to be(well I consider myself *open* sexually- attracted to the person, not the sex of the person- I am happily married to a man however), and she knows I'm Wiccan and Bisexual.
The most recent ones were quotes from the Bible that said both Witches & Homosexuals should be put to death. There was also one about Oprah being a demon-worshiper and the most recent was a list of comparisions between Santa & Satan. *sigh*
I found the quotes about Witches & Homosexuals very hurtful. Granted she may not know I visit her myspace, but she knows I'm Wiccan- does she really want me to die? How can she spread hate like this? I also want to know how a hard-core Christian can think that spreading hate of any kind is a "good" thing. How can people think this is a "calling"?
I'm just so frustrated over the whole thing. Thank you for letting me vent.
About books for non-pagans; if your family is coming from a Christian background you may want to get "Pagans & Christians" by Gus DiZerega. I haven't finished it yet; but it helps to explain alot of the similarities and good parts of both religions as well as to answer general questions about paganism. I'm thinking I'll pick up one as a Yule gift for my mother.
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