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I don't think a gamer/non-gamer situation is disastrous. I've never encountered problems with such a thing, and I'm more likely than not, the gamer in the situation.
It sounds to me as if people are trying too hard to overcompensate for things. A girl, or guy, shouldn't have to go through something like that. I'm not saying someone should give up video gaming, but if it gets to the point where you're clearly blowing off your significant other for video games, maybe it's time you slow it down some, or re-evaluate what you actually want. As in, maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship period.

I've been playing video games since I could even hold a controller. heh.
I don't understand why everyone's holding the girl to be in the wrong. Assumption to be made, 'hard-core gamer' most likely was the one that showed interest first, probably was the one that asked her out, though I could very well be wrong. Either way, saying 'yes' to being in a relationship with someone typically means just that, that you're going to be in a relationship with them. I can understand just wanting to sit inside and play a few games, I do that quite a bit. But when it gets to the point that you're blowing them off, hell, if you even think of really placeing video games above someone you're in a relationship with, then don't be in a relationship. If they actively wanted to be in it, they'd try and do something, not just claim that their significant other "doesn't understand".
And I don't understand the concept of not understanding it. There's a difference between having a heavy, what appears to be uncontrollable obsession, and actually being actively interested in something. If anyone's being that addictive to anything, why shouldn't questions be asked?
For the sake of the discussion, a relationship pretty much is like... any really given two player video game (with the exception of fighting and or raceing games when the two players are competing), or better yet, simply an RPG of sorts. You need to work together. Sacrifices are to be made, that's a given. But those sacrifices typically need to be made by both parties or it won't work out. If someone's not willing to cut back on their gaming if it's seriously getting in the way of having a healthy relationship, then they shouldn't be in the relationship. However, if the said gamer in question isn't "hardcore", or is hardcore and is still able to balance gaming with their girlfriend but their girlfriend is becoming controlling, then that girlfriend, wait, boyfriend even depending on said situation, needs to actually try and maybe sacrifice their self-righteousness to help the relationship work out if they really want it to.
Either way, if you're not willing to make some sort of sacrifice and I DON'T mean giving up video gaming completely because that's just stupid, but rather to just cut it out, then don't enter a relationship or don't be surprised if you're dumped to the side by your significant other.

And I mean come on, the guy was even skipping classes because of his obsession. How is that not unhealthy and something to be questioned?

I feel as though any possible logical empathy and or understanding of the girls situation is completely incapable of people.
This was more than just a kid gaming. This was a kid with an addiction. You can't say 'he didn't try hard enough'. He was evidently addicted to it. It's like saying someone on crack is a fool for not ceasing to use the drug even if he's both mentally and physically dependant on the drug. Anything can be a drug. Anything can be addicting. And it's plain as day that the kids in said article are addicted to the point that they cannot get their priorities straight. That kid was in a relationship. A relationship, right? Okay, so that means what? You spend time with that person, correct? I can understand, as I've stated over and over again, that said person in relationship might still want to play video games. But when it gets to the point that you're blowing off your significant other, there's something inherently wrong with the given situation.
And for the record, if you experience withdrawal with anything, that's a serious problem. There's no reason why you should seriously be that dependant on something.
The thing that bothers me the most about this entire situation is how people are acting as if the kids don't have problems. They're obsessed. It's not even like a small obsession that some people get. This is something that gets unhealthy and needs to be acknowledged regardless of how 'hardcore gamer lol" you might be. People are becoming far too defensive on the subject, making it seem like a war on video games itself. But it's not. It's an article pointing out a problem. I'll admit, it's possible those girls might have taken it too far, and most likely didn't understand the situation the guy was in. But I don't mean they didn't understand the 'value' of video games, I mean more of the fact that they didn't know that they were heavily mentally addicted and dependant on the video games and probably should have seriously sat them down with it. The only problem is that they most likely would have reacted as defensive as a lot of the other people would and denied the existance of said problem.

I don't understand why girls don't play games WITH guys. I'm not saying that they need to spend hours upon hours gaming, but if you're trying to keep a relationship, how about try to look into one another's interests. Having things to do together is a key part of a relationship. My boyfriend and I spend a lot of our time together gaming.

Sometimes he can get a little obsessive about videogames - which is funny because I'm better than him at them. Our current scorechart resides at: 8 - 5. I'm winning.

Wow. xd I agree with the people who think that for a gamer/non gamer relationship to work, they both have to be willing to compromise and spend time doing things they both enjoy. Even if he has to drag her away from the T.V. (Heh, that's pretty much me xp )

yeah, ive seen that before, but Im still only 13, hopefully they'll still be here when im older, Lol