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I'm honestly very proud that you got up the courage to talk to your mom about it. heart Not very many teenagers take the time or think about it enough before going ahead and having sex.

As for your question, it varies for everyone. I guess, no, just because it takes you both a little while to get off from masturbation, doesn't mean that you will both take a long time to get off during sex. But then again, as I said, it varies for everyone. I could make my ex come from a b*****b in 5 - 10 minutes, but our first time having sex we went for an hour, and he still didn't come.

Remember to use condoms if/when you have sex with your boyfriend. And talk to your mom about it beforehand. 3nodding

Technically you're a minor, and would have no say in anyways. A possibility would be to go and meet him, and not have sex. Then talk about it with your mother once you get back - that way she can't keep you from going.

But it depends on how you think she might take the news. If you think she might flip out and overreact, then maybe it might be best to wait until you're older to have sex/go on birth control and tell her. Then again, she might appreciate your honesty, and might be willing to put you on birth control.

I guess it's your call to make then, and your risk (and your boyfriend's risk) to take. All I can say is I really don't advise keeping it from your parents. I've been doing it for 2 years, and I've come close several times to telling my parents just because I'm sick of keeping it a secret. When I was dating my ex, it caused a lot of stress, having to pay for the Pill each month (and later on Depo) with cash, behind my parents' backs. I had no job, just a small allowance, so I had to ration the money each month. I often had to borrow money from my ex to help pay for it, just because I had no money myself. There was always the worry of getting pregnant and our parents finding out, and in my opinion it's not worth the risk or the stress.

In my opinion, if you really love your boyfriend, then sex can wait until you're in a better situation to handle it and the resulting birth control. Besides, sicne it's a long distance relationship, once you're 18 (or the age of being a legal adult), you can do what you want anyways whether your parents like it or not, no?

However I know that since I'll hopefully be moving out within the next 2 - 3 months, I will be telling my parents AFTER I'm out of the house. That way they can't restrict me from seeing my boyfriend, or kick me out of the house.

im gonna be out and open, the first time i had sex was in my basement on my brothers bed. my boyfriend and i really werent thinking at the time and just went into it. it didnt really hurt only because he had "stretched" me out before. but i so wasnt worth it, and your first time should be special. i cried a lot afterwards, and was so scared about being pregnant. A little while ( like a few days later) we kept going at it (an i dont know why sweatdrop ) but my mom eventually found out, but never had any proof. She made me go on the pill, which for those how have depression, or a chemical emballance i recomend DO NOT TAKE! it will make you extreamly bitchy at everyone during you first and second pack (which is about 2 months) and you wouldnt want to be bitchy for 2 months. during sex you should really use a condom but for some reason i dont, i guess im a really bad example, (only cos im on the pill i dont use a condom) but i have gotten pregnant yet. my boyfirend and i are still together after one whole year, and if you plan to give yourself up to someone make sure you can really trust them, dont lose your virginity because of those urges. and always plan for the worst case sinario beacuae when its not as bad as that you feel so relived. Anyways thats my advice for now, but i think that more will come within my own exp.

It's just personal experience. The Pill doesn't work for everyone due to the hormones, just as Depo doesn't work for everyone, latex condoms don't work for everyone, etc. I was just fine on the Pill, aside from nausea in the beginning, and I was on it for over a year.

As for people losing their virginity, it's up to them when they are comfortable with losing it.




Intercourse is full-blown sex. So p***s and v****a sex, etc. I would call a**l sex "full-blown sex" too, because it's still penetration, just not in the v****a. That's just me though.

Oral sex is when a guy puts his mouth on a female's v****a, licks her, etc. It's also when a girl gives a guy a b*****b (putting her mouth on his p***s/scrotum). If you read the stickies, you'll find more information on both types of sex.

Ughhh I'm so scared it'll hurt..
all my friends say it hurts so bad you cant walk or go to the bathroom.

This post actually changed my mind.

Lemme explain.

I'm dating this wonderful guy. He treats me amazing, and I plan tp be with him a long time. Right now, I dont want to have sex with him. It's too soon. Heavy petting is all we can get about now.
But I was kind of nervous that I might just go over the edge and do him, ya know, just let my body take over and my mind go away. I was concidering buying condoms and asking for birth control pills, which would be very difficult because i'm my mother's "little girl".

And then I read this post, and she was saying how hard it would be to be scared that you're pregnant, and now I am sooo going to wait. I'm 16, but I dont want to deal with it now. I'm fine with petting and cuddling (we can go on for hours and hours and hours just being a big mush of love). If he loves me, he should understand, right?

Plus, another good thing to think is - If you're too afraid of getting caught, you probably shouldn't be doing it. Its like if its too public, you probably shouldnt be doing it.

Its like a mantra - "If I'm so afraid of getting caught, i probably shouldn't be doing it"