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Nikolita
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PostPosted: Mon May 02, 2005 10:45 pm


The Oral & a**l Sex Sticky


I know Gaia has its ToS and PG-13 rules, so I'll keep this as simple and as basic as possible.

Oral sex can be defined as "tongue, mouth, or lips to stimulate a partner's p***s, vulva, clitoris, v****a, or testicles."

Oral sex can also be combined with other things, such as manual play (using hands for stimulation), toys, food, pornography, a**l sex, and so on. You can combine it with a lot of activities, both sexual and non-sexual. 3nodding

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If you're wondering about how to perform oral sex with your partner, you have several options:
- Read a book about it (local library, buy a book, etc).
- Look it up on the internet. Remember, Google is your friend.
- Ask a friend/someone else you trust.
- Ask your parents.

But most importantly, if you know what oral sex is and you and your partner have discussed it, ask your partner what he/she likes! Communication is important in a relationship. If you want to know something, ask your partner. Always ask your partner what they like and don't like, what feels good, and so on. They will appreciate your concern and your interest, and it helps keep the lines of trust, respect and communication open.

~

ButterBalls has been kind enough to list the urls for 2 websites on oral sex, and I'll list them below. All credit for the websites goes to ButterBalls.
WARNING: These websites contain mature and explicit information not suited for some people. It's posted for educational purposes only! If you think it will bother you, or if you have something against oral sex, etc, please don't read it! You've been appropriately warned.

- Oral sex for performing on girls: "Mature Content"


- Oral sex for performing on guys: "Mature Content"

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- Another site for guys, volunteered by Rinaqa - thanks! heart
More "Mature Content"
PostPosted: Tue May 03, 2005 11:15 am


As the title suggests, just some questions and information I found on a**l sex.
More information will be added when I find it. heart

All I ask is people keep an open mind on this "taboo" subject.

WARNING: This thread contains very mature content. If you're not comfortable with the topic of a**l sex and what it entails, or if you just don't like the subject, then please leave this thread now. These links are posted for EDUCATIONAL purposes only!
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Taken from: http://www.minou.com/aboutsex/analsex.htm


Some Questions About a**l Sex

Why would anyone want to have a**l sex?
For many people, a**l sex is the ultimate taboo. ******** makes it sound crude and dirty, sodomy sounds technical. In the 1990's, a**l sex has been given the bad rap because HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is most easily transmitted by a**l intercourse.

But some people love a**l sex. Others hate it. Others haven't tried it yet and are curious. And many people are attracted to it precisely because it's so taboo and mysterious.


What is analingus?

One other part of the body that some people enjoy licking, or having licked, is the a**s. The a**s has half the nerve endings in the pelvic region and many people find touching it to be sexually arousing. Although we haven't mentioned safer sex yet as part of this series, we will here: the a**s and rectum carry many diseases that live quite benignly in your lower digestive tract, but which can be harmful in your mouth or stomach. Performing analingus is a very risky behaviour for a variety of bacterial infections. Refer to the section on safer sex techniques for ways to protect yourself if you or your partner enjoys this activity.


Does a**l sex hurt?

a**l sex should not hurt. If it hurts, you're doing it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's entirely possible to enjoy a**l sex as a safe and fulfilling part of your sex life. However, some people may never like it, and if your lover is one of those people, respect their limits. Don't force the idea upon them.


Can a**l sex actually give pleasure?

The pleasure of a**l sex is derived from many things. Doing something "nasty" appeals to many people, especially about sex. Doing something different to spice up a sex life that has become something of a bore can be part of it. And the physical sensations available during a**l sex are uniquely different from anything else. The rectum is lined with nerve endings, some of which signal the brain to 'reward' you with good feelings when stimulated. For men, the prostate gland can be a source of powerful pleasure. And for a thrusting p***s, the ring of the a**s can be a new and strong sensation to enjoy.


What do I need to have a**l sex?

The most important pieces of advice anyone can give on a**l sex are: lubricants, condoms, and patience. The most commonly available lubricant is KY-Jelly, a greaseless, odorless substance available at most drug stores. Better lubricants include Astroglide, ID, Wet, or ForePlay, some of which are available at better drug stores, and most of which are available in some form at adult toy stores.

Do not buy anything that is oil-based. Make sure the lubricant you buy is rated "condom compatible." Nothing else will do. Oil-based lubricants such as vaseline or baby oil will destroy a condom long before you're done having sex. And many oil-based sub-stances will coat the lining of the rectum, providing a haven for many potential infections.


Do I have to use a condom?

Even if you're sure that both you and your partner are disease- free, you should still use a condom. The rectum is home to lots of infectious bacteria that can cause burning and urethritis of the p***s. It will also help you clean up afterwards.


I'm worried that a**l sex will be messy.

a**l sex should not be messy. Most first-timers fear that it will be, but most people can tell when they have to go. A condom will help with cleanup, of course, and if you're really concerned, a commercial enema, like Fleet, will help beforehand.


How do we prepare for a**l sex?

Patience is the third and final thing you need to make a**l sex possible. Initial penetration is always the most difficult part of a**l sex -- the a**s is a tight ring of flesh at the opening of the rectum designed to control the elimination of bodily waste. It is partially under voluntary control, and partially reflexive to stimulation. Your partner has to relax, and you have to go slow to coax it into opening enough to receive your p***s.

Start with a well-lubricated finger or a slim (smaller than your p***s) d***o. The d***o is more realistic, but your fingers can flex and feel what they're doing inside his/her a**. Slide one finger in slowly, letting him/her adjust to it. Take your finger all the way out, then push it back in again. Give their a**s time to get used to this kind of activity. Then slide a second finger in. Consider how big your p***s is and realize that two fingers is probably enough.


What position should we use for a**l sex?

For actual intercourse, picking a position can be important. Many men and women want to be on top, to regulate how fast penetration occurs. Other like to lie on their stomachs, or crouch doggy-style, or to be penetrated while lying on their sides. Choose what's best before you start.

As always, control yourself. Take your time and use lots of lubricant. People who like a**l sex say that "too much lube is almost enough." Listen to her -- if he/she tells you it starts to hurt, back off.

Eventually, a time will come during your lovemaking where his/her a**s will relax enough to allow the head of your c**k to 'pop' into them. If they are completely relaxed, that pop should feel completely painless. Now just because you're inside him/her is no reason to start pounding away like mad. Let their body adjust. Take your time. Eventually you will both be ready for more.


Can I get pregnant from a**l sex?

It is not technically possible to get pregnant from a**l sex; there is no way for semen to get from the rectal tract to the vaginal tract.

However, a**l sex is still not a very good method of birth control. Semen leaking from the a**s after intercourse may drip across the perineum (the short stretch of skin separating vulva and a**s) and cause what is known as a 'splash' conception. The failure rate for this is surprisingly high! 8% of couples of who use a**l sex as a method of birth control have babies each year.


What if I don't like it?

You may find that a**l sex just isn't for you. That's fine. Nothing says that you have to indulge in something that doesn't make you feel good.

~

Some Information and How-To's About a**l Sex

Taken from: http://sexuality.about.com/cs/sexualtechnique/ht/analmasturb.htm

The a**s is full of sensitive nerve endings that feel great when stimulated by a finger, toy, tongue, or p***s. Before you explore a**l sex with a partner, it's wise to practice a**l masturbation first. Once inserted, a butt plug will feel good against a man's prostate, and it can also indirectly stimulate a woman's G-spot since the wall between the v****a and the a**s is so thin.

Difficulty: Average

Time Required: 1 hour

Here's How:
1. Choose your toy. Butt Plugs (also known as a**l plugs or a**l toys) are a good way to start a**l play. These are usually short toys that bulge in the middle, but have a narrow neck at the base. Once the widest part is inside of you, your sphincter muscle contracts around the narrow neck, lodging the toy in place. The toy must have a flared base, which prevents it from slipping up inside you.

2. Bring on the lubricant. Ample use of lubrication is key to a good a**l sex experience, since the a**s does not self-lubricant. So have a pump-style dispenser on hand, and choose a thicker water-based lubricant like Slippery Stuff Gel.

3. Get ready. Make sure your fingernails are trimmed and clean. If you're concerned about hygeine, have a bowel movement first. Bathing is also a good idea.

4. Turn yourself on. Listen to sexy music, read or watch erotica, play with yourself in the mirror - do what you usually do to get yourself excited.

5. Find a comfortable position. Try different positions till you get one that gives you good access to your butt. Lying on your side, stomach, or squatting are all good. You can also do this in the shower, so you'll be warm and clean.

6. Get the lay of the land. If you've never seen your a**s, get out the mirror and have a look. Apply some lubricant to your fingertips and explore the skin all around the a**s. Then gently tap on the a**s, watching how it reacts as you do, noting any special sensitivity as well. Breathe deeply, focusing your mind on relaxing your butt muscles (unclench them if you've tightened up). You'll find that this muscle control will help you relax so a**l penetration will not be painful.

7. Insert a finger. As you exhale, gently insert a lubed-up fingertip in past the a**l sphincter, which has a tendency to contract when it meets resistance. If you have difficulty, massage the a**s, and try pushing out (as if you were going to the bathroom), as you push your finger in. Once inside, hold still while you get used to the sensation. When you're ready, move your finger around as much as you feel comfortable. Many people enjoy a gentle circling motion - do this as long as it's pleasurable.

8. Slip in the a**l plug. Withdraw your finger, add lubricant to your butt plug, and then try to insert the toy. If your toy is long or a bit soft, it might help to hold the toy near the top and guide it in. If you have trouble, stop for a bit, massage your a**s, relax your muscles and try again. Once inside, hold still with just a bit of the toy inside you, rather than pushing it in to the hilt, as your rectum will need a minute to get used to the object coming up (rather than going out).

9. Lodge the butt plug in place. Once inside, slowly push the toy further in if it feels good. Keep adding lubricant, because slipperier is better. Your butt plug should get smaller at the base, and when it's inserted as far as it will go, it'll stay lodged in your rectum.

10. Get busy. At this point, you can leave the toy in place and go on to stimulate other pleasure points, or you can explore subtle variations in movement -try turning the plug slowly, gently pushing or tapping on it, or turning on/up the vibration if you've got a vibrating plug. If you've chosen a butt plug with a gentle curve, make sure that when it's inside your a**s the curve points toward your stomach. This will put pleasurable pressure on the prostate and may indirectly stimulate the G Spot.

11. Have fun. Because the plug is designed to be "worn," you are free to get up and go about whatever business you like. I suggest spending some time exploring different possibilities: walking around the house, taking a stroll outside, riding a motorcycle, having cybersex, anything that'll keep you tuned into the sensations in your butt. Chances are, the longer you go at it, the more turned on you'll get.

12. Bottom's up! You can just enjoy your a**l plug and then remove it when it loses its thrill, or you can take your play to the next level, and try to orgasm with the plug in place. Get in a position that is both comfortable and gives you access to your c**t or p***s. Use your favorite masturbation technique. You may want to remove the plug quickly after you come, but remember to do so gently.

Tips:

- If you find you like movement in and out of your a**s, try a slim d***o rather than a plug. To get a better grip, use a d***o with a long handle on one end or one of the bent double dildos.
- If you get a plug or d***o with a suction cup on the base, you can attach it to a wall, back yourself up against it, and penetrate yourself without having to use your hands.

- a**l beads are another great toy for exploring a**l play, as the sphincter muscles contract around each bead as they are inserted, which many find pleasurable.

- If you don't want to worry about toy cleanliness, invest in a silicone plug or d***o. These are non-porous so you can wash them off easily with soap and water. Porous toys (those made out of rubber and cyberskin) can also be used with condoms.


What You Need:

- butt plug or small d***o
- lubricant
- towel for clean up
- vibrator (optional)

Nikolita
Captain


Nikolita
Captain

PostPosted: Tue May 03, 2005 11:17 am


Yukito Yu
I think it should be pointed out that Oral sex IS sex and has the same emotional effects.

Oh! And:

Q. I want to have oral sex involving candy. Will this cause a problem?

A. Candy has sugar in it. Sugar in your v****a changes the alkaline/acid balance in your v****a. You will be more likely to get yeast infections. If you get one, then quit the candy. I'm not going to worry about it until the yeast flares up. Then try yogurt - yummy, yummy.
PostPosted: Tue May 03, 2005 11:22 am


Nikolita
Yukito Yu
I think it should be pointed out that Oral sex IS sex and has the same emotional effects.

Oh! And:

Q. I want to have oral sex involving candy. Will this cause a problem?

A. Candy has sugar in it. Sugar in your v****a changes the alkaline/acid balance in your v****a. You will be more likely to get yeast infections. If you get one, then quit the candy. I'm not going to worry about it until the yeast flares up. Then try yogurt - yummy, yummy.


I know that a general candy people like to use during oral sex is Pop Rocks, these actaully contain no sugar. So generally it just makes a sticky odd mess.

I do not use them for oral sex, they've just always been my favorite candy. But I do know some people who have tried this and did not report any bad things happening after, if they've done this more than once I haven't been told about it, so I don't know if extended use did anything.

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PostPosted: Fri May 06, 2005 12:29 pm


What about women who don't like to receive oral sex or give it? I find myself (not from lack of trying to like it/doing it) to hate both giving and receiving oral sex. It's less because I'm ashamed of my body (because I've had the same sex partner for close to 2 years) but more because it just stops feeling good after about five seconds. We've read tons of books on the subject (he is for some reason, really gung ho about doing it to me) but to no avail.

I hate giving oral sex because semen is gross tasting, and I was forced to give only oral sex to an ex boyfriend because he wanted to make sure I wouldn't ever get pregnant. However, he also wanted to make sure that he didn't have to do anything to me in return, physically. I don't think he even tried to manually stimulate me until he was sure I was going to break up with him.

Do you think it's more something wrong with me (ie: not being able to enjoy oral sex/handjobs) or something that's wrong with the techniques being used?
PostPosted: Fri May 06, 2005 3:33 pm


Oni-Angel
What about women who don't like to receive oral sex or give it? I find myself (not from lack of trying to like it/doing it) to hate both giving and receiving oral sex. It's less because I'm ashamed of my body (because I've had the same sex partner for close to 2 years) but more because it just stops feeling good after about five seconds. We've read tons of books on the subject (he is for some reason, really gung ho about doing it to me) but to no avail.

I hate giving oral sex because semen is gross tasting, and I was forced to give only oral sex to an ex boyfriend because he wanted to make sure I wouldn't ever get pregnant. However, he also wanted to make sure that he didn't have to do anything to me in return, physically. I don't think he even tried to manually stimulate me until he was sure I was going to break up with him.

Do you think it's more something wrong with me (ie: not being able to enjoy oral sex/handjobs) or something that's wrong with the techniques being used?


I'm tempted to say it might be because of the past experiences you had regarding oral sex, like with your boyfriend and such... because he made you do it so you wouldn't get pregnant, and because he never bothered to return the favor and stimulate you?
Hopefully someone else might be able to give you a better answer, but if you want, try looking in the links for Bondage Zombie's Sex Education thread, or you can try going to Bondage Zombie's Sex Education guild. He's very very informative and helpful, and knows a lot! 3nodding

Nikolita
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Angyles Cerddoriaeth

PostPosted: Fri May 06, 2005 4:21 pm


Some women do not enjoy it. Personally I do, but my sister hates it. It is all your preference in life.
PostPosted: Fri May 06, 2005 6:18 pm


Angyles Cerddoriaeth
Some women do not enjoy it. Personally I do, but my sister hates it. It is all your preference in life.

There's that perspective too. smile
I personally love it, but others might not stand it.

Nikolita
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novemberine

PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 7:48 pm


Angyles Cerddoriaeth
Some women do not enjoy it. Personally I do, but my sister hates it. It is all your preference in life.

Quite right. I don't enjoy receiving oral sex at all. For a variety of reasons. As you say, Oni-Angel, my boyfriend is also "gung-ho" about it, but I just tell him no. I don't like it. I don't think anything's wrong with me, though, I'm allowed to have likes and dislikes, as are you.
PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 7:51 pm


disinfected
Angyles Cerddoriaeth
Some women do not enjoy it. Personally I do, but my sister hates it. It is all your preference in life.

Quite right. I don't enjoy receiving oral sex at all. For a variety of reasons. As you say, Oni-Angel, my boyfriend is also "gung-ho" about it, but I just tell him no. I don't like it. I don't think anything's wrong with me, though, I'm allowed to have likes and dislikes, as are you.

It bothers me too, and it makes me self-conscious, but I let my bf do it because he enjoys it in the same sense I enjoy giving oral sex to him. And then once he gets going I end up enjoying it, so I don't mind too much.

Also, I'm sorry I still haven't replied, I'll do that tonight or tomorrow!! gonk whee *feels guilty*

Nikolita
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novemberine

PostPosted: Sun May 08, 2005 8:49 pm


Nikolita
It bothers me too, and it makes me self-conscious, but I let my bf do it because he enjoys it in the same sense I enjoy giving oral sex to him. And then once he gets going I end up enjoying it, so I don't mind too much.

Also, I'm sorry I still haven't replied, I'll do that tonight or tomorrow!! gonk whee *feels guilty*

Yeah.. sometimes I feel guilty and let him do it, but it's more for his sake then for mine. It just doesn't feel good for me, there are other things I like much better. xp It's hard for me to believe he actually likes it! gonk

Heh, don't worry about the email, I've been awfully lazy with email too, lately. Although I do miss hearing from you. 3nodding
PostPosted: Tue May 10, 2005 12:45 am


I do like both giving and reciving oral sex. I can't say anything about my girlfriend but she does both as I do. But however I do know that she doesn't like it if I c** in her mouth so I make sure I don't. I always tell her when I am about to and normally c** in her hand. I have recently found out that she prefers to give and not recieve (Its a past thing) but it does give her mental pleasure to give to me.

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Niarah Z`Ress

PostPosted: Sat Jun 04, 2005 1:31 am


I like giving oral sex occasionally, but I'm too revolted by my female genetalia to enjoy recieving it.

I havn't tried, and will never try a**l sex. It's just not for me.
PostPosted: Sat Jun 04, 2005 1:37 am


Niarah Z`Ress
I like giving oral sex occasionally, but I'm too revolted by my female genetalia to enjoy recieving it.

I havn't tried, and will never try a**l sex. It's just not for me.

I love giving oral sex to my bf. I'm such a whore. xd
Just kidding. It makes me really self-conscious to let my bf perform oral sex on me, but I let him do it from time to time because I know he really likes it. (as mentioned in an above post)
However I will never ever try a**l sex. Not my thing. *shudders*

Nikolita
Captain


Chalda

PostPosted: Sat Jun 04, 2005 7:43 pm


Nikolita
Niarah Z`Ress
I like giving oral sex occasionally, but I'm too revolted by my female genetalia to enjoy recieving it.

I havn't tried, and will never try a**l sex. It's just not for me.

I love giving oral sex to my bf. I'm such a whore. xd
Just kidding. It makes me really self-conscious to let my bf perform oral sex on me, but I let him do it from time to time because I know he really likes it. (as mentioned in an above post)
However I will never ever try a**l sex. Not my thing. *shudders*
I'm pretty much the same. Oral can be fun occasionally and thier enjoyment makes it more fun. I'm not that much into recieving oral. It usually tickles more then anything.

As for a**l I have tried it but it just didn't really feel good... So no more.
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