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 Posted: Sun Aug 29, 2010 10:50 am
Your Neglected Sex Toy I know it, I think I know it from a hymn.
They said so - it doesn't need more explanation. To be honest, I'm not planning on coming out to my parents that I'm gay until I have my own place of living and stabil place of work. I'm actually almost 17 and still in school so actually I'm 100% set on not telling them. You ask why? I'm afraid of their reactions. I really don't know what they think about homosexuality, so that's the reason behind it. And even if I'd know, I'd keep that 'secret' to myself for a long time. I'm not in relationship so I don't mind it now, but it'll get "tougher" for me when I'll be like 20+ and my parents will keep asking me if I have a girlfriend... I think this will hurt them when I'll tell them, so I'd rather wait...
[ It's one of my first posts in here, huh, feels weird. :> ] A box to open up with light and sound,
making you cold, very cold... I think that's most peoples plans e.e" but the problem wif it is..what if you doo meet sumbody.gah I hate that feeling.
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Posted: Sun Aug 29, 2010 11:04 am
iNuffin Your Neglected Sex Toy I know it, I think I know it from a hymn.
They said so - it doesn't need more explanation. To be honest, I'm not planning on coming out to my parents that I'm gay until I have my own place of living and stabil place of work. I'm actually almost 17 and still in school so actually I'm 100% set on not telling them. You ask why? I'm afraid of their reactions. I really don't know what they think about homosexuality, so that's the reason behind it. And even if I'd know, I'd keep that 'secret' to myself for a long time. I'm not in relationship so I don't mind it now, but it'll get "tougher" for me when I'll be like 20+ and my parents will keep asking me if I have a girlfriend... I think this will hurt them when I'll tell them, so I'd rather wait...
[ It's one of my first posts in here, huh, feels weird. :> ] A box to open up with light and sound,
making you cold, very cold... I think that's most peoples plans e.e" but the problem wif it is..what if you doo meet sumbody.gah I hate that feeling. I know it, I think I know it from a hymn.
They said so - it doesn't need more explanation.
I'm going to keep it a secret 'til I move out from my home. I'm not going to put myself into possible troubles before I have my own place of stay. It's not being coward to do that, I want to be ensured by myself that I'll be able to care about myself while possibly my parents won't like to talk with me anymore. Ekhm.
A box to open up with light and sound,
making you cold, very cold...
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Posted: Sun Aug 29, 2010 8:37 pm
I first came out to my closest friends, one by one, growing more here and there. After a while I stopped for a bit, got them all together and said that they could be public about it if they want. What really started it off was my friend was with me on the bus and when I got off, she decided to yell ," BYYYEEEE BESTEST GAY BUDDY!!!!"
Needless to say, withing a day or so, almost everyone in my school was curious about it. Most people know, with the occasional one who missed it the first time around.
The only people that don't know is my family, spare for my grandmother and she just did the "oh youre young and confused" speech
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Posted: Sun Aug 29, 2010 10:30 pm
I am still in the process of coming out, I am doing it systematically. I started in December of last year at Disney World.
Me and my two sisters were in one room, and my parents in an adjoining room, one day, my cousin was in our room and my younger sister was out at one of the parks with our aunt and uncle. So in the room was my cousin, my older sister, and I; were talking, and my sister called me gay, then laughed for a brief moment. After that I said something to the effect of "Only half-gay". My cousin squealed and gave me a HUGE hug, and my sister, said "I knew it" and hugged me. Then later that day I was laying with my cousin in a hammock, and she told me she was bi as well, and that she hadn't told anyone but me.
Later this year I plan to tell my friends (the entire GSA at school which I am a part of) that I am bi, once they know I will move to the rest of my family; I am having more trouble figuring out how to approach my parents, than my friends.
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Posted: Tue Aug 31, 2010 5:44 pm
i started talking more and more about stuff concerning the lgbt community, and then one night wrote a letter to my parents. i set it on their pillows and then just waited till they read it. dad didnt care, mom hates it. then after that i started telling my closest friends and the news slowly spread to the rest of my friends and slowly even the whole school sweatdrop but its all good now 4laugh
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Posted: Thu Sep 02, 2010 10:07 pm
I had a pretty hard-core crush on my best friend's older sister for awhile, and really didn't know what to do about that. (I knew she was bi, just considered her quite unattainable... she's older, and I just never felt like I had a chance. ^^; ) So I'm having this dilemma because I've never quite crushed on anyone quite so hard before and was convinced that it was pointless. I went to my mom and just blurted out "I have a crush on this girl and I don't know what to do!"
Well, my mom was.... insane against the idea. Acted completely batshit insane, was upset and disgusted etc. I went to my friends and they urged me to tell the gal anyway, and whatever happened with mom would happen.
So... I told her. Blurted out, "Hey, I've got a crush on you." and the panicked and walked off laughing, "Ahah, didn't really expect anything of it, sorry if that annoys you. Just ignore it, eh?" and walked/ran off.
Found out a few days later that she'd just been shell-shocked, because... she had a crush on me for awhile, and had thought I was unattainable (I'd previously been vehement against dating, and was quite vocal about it. I didn't want to have to turn people down.). So we got off to an awkward start in dating, and are now seven months in, and just now is my mother starting to cool down over it.
Any other family members or friends.... I really am pretty uncaring about what people think. I don't exactly go around introducing myself as such, but if anyone asks, I have no reservations about saying that I'm bi. For the most part, my mother was the only one bothered at all. =/ Everyone else has just been, "Huh, OK. Whatever."
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2010 10:54 am
With my friends, I kinda passively came out xd
Like, I didn't tell them unless they specifically asked "are you gay?", although I did hint it alot hehe 4laugh
...And occasionally I got found out.. Like at this one rave I was making out with this guy, one of my friend's friends (who is now my friend xd )
I haven't told my family yet though... I don't really plan to until I leave home/the country LOL whee
My mother is one of those people who make a big deal out of everythinggggg~
So yeah.. Eventually xd
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Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2010 11:21 am
I don't plan to come out, I'm way too scared of my parents reaction. it's hard to live like this though xp
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Posted: Sun Sep 05, 2010 9:53 pm
I haven't specifically told anyone straight out, but my sister knows. We've just talked about a lot of related stuff before, and I even expressed to her my desire to date a girl (maybe that counts as straight out telling her lol).
I think at least a couple of my friend have guessed, and my parents have no idea. Honestly, I don't plan on telling them until I actually am dating a girl. And if and when that goes down I figure it I will just say something like "Hey mom, I'm seeing someone. .... *pause* and I'd like to bring her over for dinner."
I know that my mom would come around. She's even taken the time to make sure that I know that she would still love and accept me no matter what. My dad...is a different story. I probably would not hear the end of it from him, and I don't even think he would be okay with me having girls in the house.....=__=
Ach, ah well. Should I ever have to come out to my parents, I'll let you guys know how it actually goes, lol.
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Posted: Sun Sep 05, 2010 10:15 pm
As of right now im really just bi-curious!
I have seen a couple guys and thought they were real cute.
But for now I really don't have anything to come out about!
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Posted: Sun Sep 05, 2010 11:28 pm
I've only come out to a few so far. A lot of my friends are pretty conservative Catholics, and I'm afraid to come out to them because I don't want to lose them. I've come out to my two best friends, because I knew they'd be okay with it (one of them is actually a pretty strong advocate for allowing same-sex couples to marry and adopt). And they were okay with it.
Since I realized that I'm gay I've been out to every new person I meet. Last semester in my communication's class I gave a speech on homosexual-based harassment and how it is causing a great deal of pain in today's youth, and I essentially outed myself when I did that. It was difficult and pretty terrifying and I didn't know if I'd be getting nasty comments after that, but everyone kept their thoughts to themselves. I figure if people are going to get to know me, they might as well know the real me.
I haven't said anything to my family yet. Which means I had to lie about my ex-girlfriend to them, and say we were just friends. crying My oldest sister is gay, but she hasn't talked to any of us in the family for years so I can't really turn to her. When my parents found out they were upset, but they decided that if that's what makes her happy then they'll accept it. And they were accepting of my cousin when he came out, and they were glad to have him and his boyfriend over to visit last year. I'm still not ready to tell them though. I'd feel more comfortable telling them when I don't live at home anymore, so then if they're upset I don't have to be around them.
I actually think my mom may have figured it out. I guess since I've always had only female friends and I've never really shown any interest in getting to know guys it's been a little obvious. She made a comment recently about how I need a "boyfriend or a girlfriend" because she doesn't want me to be lonely. If she thought I was straight I don't think she'd say that I need a girlfriend. confused
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Posted: Wed Sep 08, 2010 10:46 am
.... today, I came out to my mom about being a boy.
Me and my support worker drove to catch her and my new TV from my old house, and headed for the psychologist.
There, we sat down and I immediately started sobbing and hyperventilating like the sissy gay I am, and my psychologist said "... so, you know we're here to talk about the transsexuality issue."
I froze and wanted to throw up at the place, but mom just leaned back in her chair and said "Yes. I knew it already. She said it already when she was, well, not 10 but more like 13, 14..."
In came a long story about my past and mom chilled, we went through the process and explained her it won't be happening overnight but there'll first be a lot of meetings and tests by various specialists and then the hormone treatment will take time, too.
All she had something against was the surgeries. I'm not getting a lower surgery, so she was practically telling she didn't like me cutting off my breasts - because every man needs his pair of cup Ds. If he doesn't have them on his wife, apparently himself goes as well.
She wasn't all that sure I wouldn't want to get pregnant, either. I explained I never wanted to in the first place and my first choice would be adoption or artificial insemination.
She proceeded to ask me "what if your wife doesn't want AI or adoption but really wants children?"
I blinked and said "well, I don't think I can marry her in the first place, then. It's not like she wouldn't know I'm not able to conceive."
She said the last ten years have been a time when she has gotten used to my gender identity and she had even told her sister I'm not sure which sex I am.
Which is hilarious, because I didn't believe I'd ever go through the process and tried to live as a girl instead, and she knew it all along.
We proceeded to buy some wallpapers and books for my language course.
I still can't believe it was that easy.
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Posted: Wed Sep 08, 2010 1:24 pm
i first started telling my friends. most of my friends were just like oh okay, im pretty lucky to have friends that dont care about that kind of thing.
the biggest reaction i got out of my friends was i was having a sleepover at my friends house (there twins). and there was a couple other friends there. but i told them i was bi and my friend ciara (loud and wont stop talking) shouted "WAIT YOUR BI?!!!"
not in a bad way though, i think she was just surprise.
then
i think after that i was having dinner with my family and i just told my parents straight up that i was bi. they reacted well to it. at least my dad did. my mom was pretty quiet so im not sure how she felt about it but she wasnt mad or opposed to it, so that was good.
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Posted: Thu Sep 09, 2010 1:14 am
I'm not sure where I am. I've only talked to a few people about it(one bi, one almost in my position, and one of the opposite gender) and they all said they were cool with whatever I wanted to be. Most the people in my school thought I was gay b/c I proffered not to hang out with guys until I started dating my third girlfriend from that school. I also lived with a lesbian couple before I dated her, and I guess if you live with lesbians in Nebraska you're automatically gay. I haven't completely come out b/c I don't even know if I'm "in." Damn the gray areas. stare
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Posted: Thu Sep 09, 2010 2:44 pm
This is what i look like... When i told my 'rents, they kicked me out of the house and disowned me at the age of 16. I lived in my school cat walk for a year. then i met Alex, and he found out how i was living and decided to help me. He gave me a place to stay in my senior year, with him, i found a job, got a car, and found love. I still think comming out to my parents was worth it, because anything is beter than living a lie and being afraid of messing up and lettin slip, and if i hadn't, i wouldn't be the person i am today, and i wouldn't be as happy as i am now. ...This is how i feel.
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