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 Posted: Mon Jul 12, 2010 9:41 pm
I'm curious. How did you all come out to your family/friends? or if you havent, do you have a plan?
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 12:13 am
One day I invited my friends over and sat them down in my room and said
"Guys... I think... I'm...Gay."
They just sat there for a minute and then one of them screamed
"I KNEW IT!"
They were all cool with it I didn't plan on telling my family but someone outed me to my mom and she's cool with it... And then one of my cousins outed me to everyeone in the family they aren't cool with it.
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 12:34 am
i just told my whole family at dinner that i thought i was bi. my dad and me talked a lot about it. not in a bad way though. dont worry. he was very accepting. im acctually not to sure about my mom. im pretty sure she has nothing agaisnt it but she didnt really say much. so i dont know how she feels about me being bi. hopefully nothing bad.
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 1:33 am
I came out to my sister first. She's totally cool with it.
Then I came out to my mom and I knew she wouldn't be cool with it because shes very homophobic. She still doesn't accept it which makes me want to smack her to her senses but apparently she doesn't have any.
My entire family doesn't know yet. I don't have any "plans" to come out, I will just tell them when I feel like it and if they don't like it, too bad for them.
The bible never told them to call me or anyone a f*****t.
That is all.
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 7:39 am
I was at the laundrymat with my mom when I told her I was dateing a girl. She just when "I figured" lol, kinda killed what I was maybe expecting.
For years I've been droping the "I should of been born a boy" bombs on the parentals, but I have yet to come out and tell them I'm getting asex change. But it seems thanks to facebook most of my family already knows, so I just have to make it official.
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 7:44 am
Most of my friends don't even know, because it's not one of those things that I introduce myself as. Like, "Hey, I'm Kelsey and I'm bisexual."
My family doesn't know, and I don't really want them to know, so I don't have a plan to tell them.
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 10:51 am
The first person I came out to was my mother. I was about tweleve or thirteen at the time, and I was very confused and insecure about my sexuality. I didn't even know being gay was an option for me. My older sister is gay and ever since she had come out, it was like I was suddenly defined as the straight sister, by default. Everyone kept talking to me about the day I'd start liking boys and so forth, none so much as my dear old mom, who was constantly talking to me about grandchildren and husbands. I probably should have taken a hint from that that it wouldn't turn out to tell her, but like I said I was so confused. I'd started hanging out in "gay" threads on gaia and was having so much fun there, and one of my then online friends caught me posting in there, and asked me point blank if I was gay. I freaked out about this question, I said no in a million ways, I actually cried.
sad But yea. So I was freaking out about it. My mother wanted me to be straight. And to top it off I decided to tell her durring one of our fights. (She's got BPD, she used to scream at me all the time.) It just sort of blurted it out point blank that
" I'm Bisexual!"
Yea.
That didn't go over well. She said all bisexuals are dirty whores. She then said bisexuality doesn't exist. And that I was just saying that to hurt her, and then she proceeded to beat me.
: /
Right. So the next person I told was my brother. This was some two-three years after I had told my mom. By this time I was pretty sure that I didn't like boys that much at all, was dating a girl, all while pretending to be straight so my mom wouldn't beat the crap out of me. I didn't really want to tell my brother, because I liked the way we related to each other on a sort of innocent, childish level, and I knew bringing up matters of sexuality would make us look at each other in a more grown up light. But I was having girl troubles, and I needed some one with a drivers license to help me with them, and mom sure as hell wasn't. So I had to tell him. We were driving to go to a family function out in the middle of no where, a nice long drive with just the two of us. And I couldn't tell him for about 4/5ths of it. Finally, right as we were getting close, I told him I had to tell him something. I was surprisingly afraid to tell him, even though I trust my brother more than anyone else, just cause I was afraid he might react like my mom had. I went silent for about ten minutes while he progressively got more freaked out, at first joking and then seriously asking if I had gotten into some kind of trouble with the law. Finnaly, feeling like my head had exploded, I told him I was "Gay", and it went very well. He laughed and sort of flipped happily. By which I mean he did a double take on a lot ofthe things he knew about me, but in a supportive, happy sort of way. Like, "Gosh I should have known you were more then a tomboy! Hah".
And the last person I told was my sister. Again, had girl troubles, needed some one to help, didn't really want to tell her, but did any way just to have her on my side. I sent it to her in a text message, and it went over the best out of all of them obviously, cause shes gay too. So now when I go visit her its like having a big gay party. She lets me shop for gender inappropraite clothing and takes me to gay parts of town, etc.
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 2:06 pm
When I started telling people I was so nervous, and I basically told my closest friends one at a time terrified of how they would react. (They were all perfectly fine with it).
A couple of years down the road and I have admitted my sexuality in front of my entire class in a speech. The more you do it, the easier it is.
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 2:11 pm
Sir Daniel Oliver When I started telling people I was so nervous, and I basically told my closest friends one at a time terrified of how they would react. (They were all perfectly fine with it). A couple of years down the road and I have admitted my sexuality in front of my entire class in a speech. The more you do it, the easier it is.
I outed myself in a class debate on gay marriage and after that I tell people i'm gay with no problem and if they don't like it then that's their problem. I'm very quick to ditch unsupportive people or set them right with how it really is to be gay since they all seem to think they know, but really they have absolutely no idea.
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 2:27 pm
I've outed myself, with the intention of doing so, to only one person and that was my sister. She basically raised me and had always been like a mother since ours was never around.
I value her opinion more than anything so I was a little nervous about it. I had messaged her on myspace since she was living in Texas at the time and told her that I was bisexual. Since then I've come to realize that I'm lesbian and she's aware of that as well.
I haven't "come out" to anyone since I don't bother hiding it. My friends asked if I was gay when I made a very dirty comment about a woman on tv that we were all ogling so I said yes.
I would assume that my mother knows. If my intense activism for Equality, the Gay Marriage book that I refused to move because it unnerved her, and the lesbian Kiss poster that I refused to take down before she tore it down herself isn't clue enough then that woman is damn stupid. >>;
My fathers side is very Christian though. While the uncle that I never met was gay, I'm not sure how well it'd go over with them. I doubt they'd hate me for it, they just might try and make it seem like it's something bad though. I'unno. I don't plan on telling them anytime soon though.
I'll certainly be more vocal about it on my facebook when I get into my career and have a home of my own though. Lololol. Prepare for a flood of Marriage/Adoption texts on my page, family members. PREPARE. >:O
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 4:20 pm
I'm not fully out, just to my close friends. And some not so close friends. The first person was the hardest. She's my bestest friend in the entire world, and if she didn't accept me, I probably would've locked my self in the closet (both literally and figuratively) and cried for a week. So I sent her a facebook inbox message on October 11, National Coming Out Day. I explained everything and she told me she still loved me and accepted me. Then I told two of my other best friends, they were kind of like "...kay." And then I told a whole bunch of my close friends all in the same day. (Like, 8 people) And slowly a few more people, like fellow queers and lgbt friendly teachers. Then, I told my first family member, my cousin. That was the second hardest to do. She's the second most important person to me, and has been mildly homophobic in the past. But surprisingly, she accepted me and we're actually closer than ever. So, yes. Most of my friends know, but my family is NOT finding out until after university is done. And I don't really have a plan for that. Meh, I have 5 years to figure that out.
Spoonfeed - Started off with online message to my best friend, told the rest of my friends in person, it got way easier, not telling family until much later.
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 6:55 pm
サヨナラは まだ言わないから
遠い空 同じ月 見上げ
離れていても 届く想い  I haven't exactly "come out of the closet," but I'm not exactly hiding in it either. Most of my friends, if not all, know that I'm gay... or at least think that I'm bisexual. I haven't told all of them the complete truth because, even though I'm good friends with them, I really don't know how they would react, and their parents happen to be good friends with my own. I'm a college student, but I'm living at home because there's absolutely no way I could make it on my own right now. I can't risk the chance that my parents might find out about my sexuality and dump me on a street corner. I mean, I'm almost 20 years old. It's not like they can get in trouble for abandonment. The law's not on my side anymore.
Anyway, I don't plan on staying in the closet for very long. I'm about to start my third semester of junior college, and I'm planning to transfer out of my hometown to a nice university with a good screenwriting program. I'm only going for a Bachelor's at the moment, and as soon as I have that degree in my hands and have a good job under my belt, I'm telling my parents that I'm gay. I'm tired of sacrificing my happiness for the sake of others.You're my DESTINY
普通の幸せ 少しずつ 叶えられたけど
置いてきたのは ちいさな夢 ~ 「DISTANCE」 Zwei
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 7:26 pm
Well I'm not totally out of the closet yet but i'm not really hiding it either. I wear rainbow bracelets and bi pride stuff. (Well the colors anyways.) about half of my friends know but they don't really care. My sister is the first person I told that I was bisexual and I was shocked when she told me that she was as well. My 2 best friends were the next ones. I was scared that they wouldn't accept me. I wrote them both a note saying I was bi and they were totally accepting of it. My parents probably suspect it but they haven't confronted me yet so I'm not gonna tell them until I have to. :]
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Posted: Tue Jul 13, 2010 8:04 pm
I'm not *completely* out yet, but I'm getting pretty close to it.
Somehow managed to very casually let my friends know, they're all totally cool with it and supportive and everything. The first friend I came out to actually bluntly asked me one day, just like "So hey are you a lesbian yet?" apparently having realized before I did. xD;
Telling my mom was.. super awkward and she decided to let me know every day for the following week that she was very busy "mourning the loss of her daughter." (I'm a girl, despite my avatar. )
She doesn't bring it up at all anymore.
And then I've only once told a completely random person who was in one of my classes. I started talking to her, and suddenly her friend jumps up with a "Do you have a boyfriend??" I simply told her "Naw, I'm gay." and she.. didn't believe me and tried to set me up with some guy. Took the entire class to convince her that her plan wasn't gonna work.
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Posted: Thu Jul 15, 2010 7:04 am
Family: Kinda spur of the moment, but I had been wanting to for a while. It was the episode of Glee where Kurt tells his father that he's gay, and right after that part I said "Mom, now might be a good time to tell you..." and she thought I was joking. I chickened out and let her think that it was a joke, but two days later, I told her that I was serious, and that I really am pansexual. It was kinda funny, but also scary.
*Sidenote: My mom is the only member of my family, besides a few distant cousins that I don't see often enough to bother telling unless they ask. Guess that means I got off easy lol only had to tell one person
Friends: On Day of Silence at my school, this guy at my table asked me if I was gay or just supporting. It was lunch break, so I got some paper and a pencil from my notebook and wrote "I am pansexual. It means that I can like/love/be attracted to someone of any gender." They all stared at me for the rest of the day lol.
It was cool though, because my best friend is really religious, and I didn't know if she would have a problem with it, so I wrote "Does it bother you that I'm not straight?" and she just looked shocked that I would think that and said "Of course not, you are who you are." It made me so happy!
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