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 Posted: Mon Jan 14, 2008 12:44 pm
kitsunegami First off, I don't think Christians should "date" the way the world defines it. "Courting" is a better term as it implies a search for a mate rather than a simple search for sex. Secondly, a wise man once told me, "God would not have given you a desire to be married if he didn't have someone special out there for you somewhere.
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Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 9:39 pm
I think it's perfectly fine for someone to date (im not sure on the difference between the words courting and dating, sorry biggrin )
altough, i think boundries should be set before things get to serious. the bf/gf needs to know the expectations, and either agree, or disagree...otherwise, it might be hard to stop where you had originally planned. you can't wait, you need to agree with this person in the begininng that you will follow god's rules in the relationship. god comes first...i think the gf/bf should agree with you on that. otherwise, they could drag you down in your faith.
it's perfectly fine to reach out to other people, who aren't christians and show them christs love. but i think that in our walk with christ, god plans for us to meet someone in a similar journey through faith. thats just my point of view biggrin
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Posted: Tue Jan 22, 2008 3:03 pm
I don't know...if ya love the person even if they don't believe in christ...it might be a little obsticle in the relationship but once they get to know you...ya never know...they might think Jesus is cool if he was able to make ya into who you are today
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 1:44 pm
Yeah relationships are quite complicated. But I have to agree with the person about courtship and getting to know the person first.
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Posted: Mon Feb 18, 2008 7:45 am
I can't answer these questions because I've never dated anyone but my bible study is reading a book called Dateable? and alot of those topics are discussed. I reccomend that you read it.
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Posted: Sat Mar 01, 2008 4:30 pm
My definition of dating is going on dates with people who are interested in you. On these dates you get to know them better, know them a bit deeper than if you were just their friend. This way you have teh chance to talk about things like your sexual expectations, beliefs, etc. This way, all the cards are already on the table.
I view a relationship with someone is when they ask you to be their boyfriend or girlfriend and you accept. At that point, you stop dating other people, and have a relationship with only this one person. Since chances are you were dating this person before they asked you to be their boyfriend or girlfriend, the cards are still already on the table.
The first thing I make clear in any dating relationship is my wish to keep my virginity until marriage. If the person has a problem with that, then the relationship/dating thing ends right there.
As for kissing and stuff, I would never go past cuddling, kissing, or caressing the person. I would not let them anywhere near my body when it's not properly clothed. My ex boyfriend and I french kissed a few times before, and we never felt the urge to take thinds further than that. We weren't tempted to have sex with each other. At one point I had to explain to him that I was uncomfortable giving him more than a pec while we were sitting on his bed because I didn't want to chance things going past kissing while we were on a bed. And he respected that.
Also, I have no problem dating or being in a relationship with someone who is of a different faith than me. I have before. I make sure from the beginning that this person is comfortable and accepts my faith, as I accept theirs. I would invite them to church with me, but I would not force them to go, or say anything like "If you don't go to church with me, our relationship is over." Because I don't view that as fair to the person I'm with.
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 4:13 am
i think that we shouldnt even have to ask that we should be dating other peopel who have the sames beleafs if we start dating people with different beliefes it can only turn out bad ether youll end up fighting and end up with a trebble realation ship or one of you will bring the other down like if ur dating a budist and they have statues and do all kinds of realationships and u really want to impress this person or wat ever u mit fall in to temtation and pray to the statues or wat ever and i geuss there is a chance that u may convert them but i say thats a much smaller chance then one of these 2 happening
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Posted: Mon Mar 24, 2008 8:40 am
Like Caleb said, It ultimently comes down to temptation. If your tempted to rape them, or pray to there Idols, It's probably not a Good Idea.
Micah
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Posted: Sat Apr 19, 2008 3:05 pm
flyingemublue If God has A Wife or a Husband for you. why would you want to date a bunch of people, if God will just Give you the perfect one. Micah Because I believe [righteous] dating is the process of FINDING a person God would want for you. Unless you have a better way (and if you do, seriously, TELL ME, because my mom would sure love to have grandkids xd ) we have to MEET those sons and daughters of God that Heavenly Father has in mind for us and learn about them and fall in love. And Dating, well, that's the way. mibster I don't know...if ya love the person even if they don't believe in christ...it might be a little obsticle in the relationship but once they get to know you...ya never know...they might think Jesus is cool if he was able to make ya into who you are today I agree. PERSONALLY I have chosen not to date those who are not of my faith, because relationships are hard enough with out that... BUT I WILL and do have plenty of FRIENDS who don't believe what I do. I don't think there is anything wrong with sharing your friendship and the gospel at the same time! biggrin number_1melissa I can't answer these questions because I've never dated anyone but my bible study is reading a book called Dateable? and alot of those topics are discussed. I reccomend that you read it. Who is the author? flyingemublue Like Caleb said, It ultimently comes down to temptation. If your tempted to rape them, or pray to there Idols, It's probably not a Good Idea. Micah tempted... to... RAPE THEM?! eek I find that a very VERY disturbing statement. I HOPE you somehow just mean tempted to have sex with them or something. Because if you are having temptations of actual rape, you need to get help, okay? Like psychiatric? Because that is scary.
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Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 11:42 am
LearningtoBreath63 How should a Christian go about dating? What are good things Christians can do? And for those who plan on waiting for sex until marriage, how do we go about telling the person we're dating that we want to wait with out scaring them off? Their are other questions, but those are the big three. Oh, and 1 rule, no arguing about what age it is appropriate to start dating. That gets annoying and this isn't the debate forum. To me if they really do love you they will understand that u want to wait. To me going about "dating", is to get to know the person first like, IDK being there for each other if God wants it to happen the pieces will fall into place. That is my belief
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Posted: Thu Jul 31, 2008 2:23 am
Taken from darkness LearningtoBreath63 How should a Christian go about dating? What are good things Christians can do? And for those who plan on waiting for sex until marriage, how do we go about telling the person we're dating that we want to wait with out scaring them off? Their are other questions, but those are the big three. Oh, and 1 rule, no arguing about what age it is appropriate to start dating. That gets annoying and this isn't the debate forum. To me if they really do love you they will understand that u want to wait. To me going about "dating", is to get to know the person first like, IDK being there for each other if God wants it to happen the pieces will fall into place. That is my belief Woah, that took a long time to read..... I totally agree with u
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Posted: Sat Aug 09, 2008 11:09 am
flyingemu27 I don't know too much in this field...although I have had "girlfriends" I haven't actually gone out on many "dates" exactly. I guess an important thing would be to respect them. Treat your lady like she is the most important person in the world to you. Show them that you love them. Be honest. Lying can kill relationships...and it just stinks. Tell the truth, even if it hurts. Also, the relationship shouldn't be all about lust and sex. It should be about love. Love goes beyond sex. Love is patient. Love can wait. If the relationship gets to the point where your boyfriend/girlfriend wants to go to "third base," you should simply tell them that you want to wait until you're married (if that is the case...which is a good thing to do.) If they ask why, tell them because you believe sex was created by God as a gift to a man and a woman bonded in holy matrimony. If they cannot accept that, even after continued discussion, then it may be wise to consider the option of calling the relationship off. That's what I think. biggrin i agree with what you said about waiting till you're married to have sex the only thing i cant relate to is the " i have had girlfriends" part smile
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Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 12:02 pm
I honestly don't know anything about dating sweatdrop
I've never tried it, and I don't plan to start anytime soon. Is that weird or wrong? Or am I better off this way?
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Posted: Mon Aug 11, 2008 4:37 pm
Zora Darkblade I honestly don't know anything about dating sweatdrop I've never tried it, and I don't plan to start anytime soon. Is that weird or wrong? Or am I better off this way? I'd say you're probably on the right track. There's not much point in dating until you're old enough where you honestly can consider marriage. Cause that's what dating is all about - seeing if the person is "the one." I suppose the only upside to dating at a younger age is it gives you experience and makes dating easier later.
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Posted: Wed Aug 13, 2008 11:05 pm
account banning service12 Well considering Jesus was a Jew, I would say he wouldn't date a Christian... hollyannabar Oh yeah, and btw - If you're a christian, you should date a christian. The Bible teaches, as does experiance and stats, that when you date someone who is of a different religious belief, the relationship will fall apart in no time. Well, maybe not in "no time." But fairly quickly. And you see, it should be easy to tell another christian that you dont want sex til after marriage =] See, this is where I have to call biggot ((again?!))
First of all not everybody as close minded as a 1730's science textbook
If a couple works together and truly loves one another they will push onwards and make the relationship work
For Example:
My mother is Catholic and my father is Athiest, and they have spent 16 happy years married to one another after 1 year of dating
They are not divorced
And they never argue about religion
Secondly, if the person you're with trys to push you into having sex, and doesn't respect your descisions on the matter...
Would you really want to be with that person?
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