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LearningtoBreath63 Vice Captain
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 Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 9:24 pm
How should a Christian go about dating? What are good things Christians can do? And for those who plan on waiting for sex until marriage, how do we go about telling the person we're dating that we want to wait with out scaring them off? Their are other questions, but those are the big three. Oh, and 1 rule, no arguing about what age it is appropriate to start dating. That gets annoying and this isn't the debate forum.
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 9:50 pm
I don't know too much in this field...although I have had "girlfriends" I haven't actually gone out on many "dates" exactly.
I guess an important thing would be to respect them. Treat your lady like she is the most important person in the world to you. Show them that you love them.
Be honest. Lying can kill relationships...and it just stinks. Tell the truth, even if it hurts.
Also, the relationship shouldn't be all about lust and sex. It should be about love. Love goes beyond sex. Love is patient. Love can wait.
If the relationship gets to the point where your boyfriend/girlfriend wants to go to "third base," you should simply tell them that you want to wait until you're married (if that is the case...which is a good thing to do.) If they ask why, tell them because you believe sex was created by God as a gift to a man and a woman bonded in holy matrimony. If they cannot accept that, even after continued discussion, then it may be wise to consider the option of calling the relationship off.
That's what I think. biggrin
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LearningtoBreath63 Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 9:52 pm
Well how far should we go then? I've always thought (if your thinking of the same base system as I am people) that second base was as far as I would go until marriage (meaning the pants stay on no matter what.)
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 10:00 pm
Well I can't really say. It's really up to you.
Then again...I suppose you could look at how you kiss...
For instance, do you kiss on the lips just to show her how much you love her? Or do you start frenching and start going at it? sweatdrop
Maybe that's not so wrong...but you have to look at where it could lead. If you go from holding hands, to pecking a kiss on the lips, to kissing a little longer, to frenching... It's eventually going to lead to someone's bed, if you know what I mean. I suppose it's all about control and making sure you don't go too far. You have to be careful what situations you bring yourself into.
(By the way, it's great to see you back! mrgreen )
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LearningtoBreath63 Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 10:14 pm
flyingemu27 Well I can't really say. It's really up to you. Then again...I suppose you could look at how you kiss... For instance, do you kiss on the lips just to show her how much you love her? Or do you start frenching and start going at it? sweatdrop Maybe that's not so wrong...but you have to look at where it could lead. If you go from holding hands, to pecking a kiss on the lips, to kissing a little longer, to frenching... It's eventually going to lead to someone's bed, if you know what I mean. I suppose it's all about control and making sure you don't go too far. You have to be careful what situations you bring yourself into. (By the way, it's great to see you back! mrgreen ) Thanks, it's great to be back. No I'm not too worried about kissing, but here's something that annoys me about some Christian couples. They think the act of sex before marriage is the only bad thing, when your really not supposed to do other things (if you are under the age of 14, close your eyes, I'll try to make this quick,) such as fingering, oral, a**l, etc. I know a girl who gives oral to her boyfriend because she doesn't want to lose her virginity until marriage. What the heck?
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 10:38 pm
LearningtoBreath63 flyingemu27 Well I can't really say. It's really up to you. Then again...I suppose you could look at how you kiss... For instance, do you kiss on the lips just to show her how much you love her? Or do you start frenching and start going at it? sweatdrop Maybe that's not so wrong...but you have to look at where it could lead. If you go from holding hands, to pecking a kiss on the lips, to kissing a little longer, to frenching... It's eventually going to lead to someone's bed, if you know what I mean. I suppose it's all about control and making sure you don't go too far. You have to be careful what situations you bring yourself into. (By the way, it's great to see you back! mrgreen ) Thanks, it's great to be back. No I'm not too worried about kissing, but here's something that annoys me about some Christian couples. They think the act of sex before marriage is the only bad thing, when your really not supposed to do other things (if you are under the age of 14, close your eyes, I'll try to make this quick,) such as fingering, oral, a**l, etc. I know a girl who gives oral to her boyfriend because she doesn't want to lose her virginity until marriage. What the heck? Yeeeaaah...in my opinion, she already lost her virginity. sad I reeaally don't think you should do that. Even when you're married. sweatdrop There's making love...and then there's sexual indulgence. neutral
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LearningtoBreath63 Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 10:46 pm
flyingemu27 LearningtoBreath63 flyingemu27 Well I can't really say. It's really up to you. Then again...I suppose you could look at how you kiss... For instance, do you kiss on the lips just to show her how much you love her? Or do you start frenching and start going at it? sweatdrop Maybe that's not so wrong...but you have to look at where it could lead. If you go from holding hands, to pecking a kiss on the lips, to kissing a little longer, to frenching... It's eventually going to lead to someone's bed, if you know what I mean. I suppose it's all about control and making sure you don't go too far. You have to be careful what situations you bring yourself into. (By the way, it's great to see you back! mrgreen ) Thanks, it's great to be back. No I'm not too worried about kissing, but here's something that annoys me about some Christian couples. They think the act of sex before marriage is the only bad thing, when your really not supposed to do other things (if you are under the age of 14, close your eyes, I'll try to make this quick,) such as fingering, oral, a**l, etc. I know a girl who gives oral to her boyfriend because she doesn't want to lose her virginity until marriage. What the heck? Yeeeaaah...in my opinion, she already lost her virginity. sad I reeaally don't think you should do that. Even when you're married. sweatdrop There's making love...and then there's sexual indulgence. neutral I kept telling her that with oral sex, a guy can get an infection on his member even if neither are virgins with std's and she still wouldn't stop. Let's just say she's a cheerleader (no offense to cheerleaders, but she fits the stereotype of a really dumb cheerleader like the ones on t.v., even though I know not all cheerleaders are dumb, it's a bad stereotype, just like blondes.
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Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 9:52 pm
A Christian relationship should not be based on lust. Therefore, the sex and all the...other stuff should be abstained from until marriage, because then you know for sure that it's for real, and you already have an actual foundation. At least that's what I think, but I'm no expert on the subject, either.
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Posted: Tue Jun 26, 2007 11:30 am
*eats a mib* yeah..I'm back from kentucky...so like...why are we talkin about this again?...is little johnny havein some problems wit his girlfriend? (just mibbin ya mon) but yeah just becareful when you kiss....cause like mike said...it can lead to things...I highly doubt it though...but temptation can be a really big son of a mib..but yeah
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Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 8:27 pm
mibster *eats a mib* yeah..I'm back from kentucky...so like...why are we talkin about this again?...is little johnny havein some problems wit his girlfriend? (just mibbin ya mon) but yeah just becareful when you kiss....cause like mike said...it can lead to things...I highly doubt it though...but temptation can be a really big son of a mib..but yeah Little Johnny has more like problems getting a girlfriend, to the more experienced, how do you tell who you should date opposed from who you should stay away from?
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LearningtoBreath63 Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 8:32 pm
LearningtoBreath63 mibster *eats a mib* yeah..I'm back from kentucky...so like...why are we talkin about this again?...is little johnny havein some problems wit his girlfriend? (just mibbin ya mon) but yeah just becareful when you kiss....cause like mike said...it can lead to things...I highly doubt it though...but temptation can be a really big son of a mib..but yeah Little Johnny has more like problems getting a girlfriend, to the more experienced, how do you tell who you should date opposed from who you should stay away from? Well, if the person your dating doesnt let you belive in christ (ex. They said dont go to church) in would be best not to go on.
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Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 3:35 pm
Spooptie LearningtoBreath63 mibster *eats a mib* yeah..I'm back from kentucky...so like...why are we talkin about this again?...is little johnny havein some problems wit his girlfriend? (just mibbin ya mon) but yeah just becareful when you kiss....cause like mike said...it can lead to things...I highly doubt it though...but temptation can be a really big son of a mib..but yeah Little Johnny has more like problems getting a girlfriend, to the more experienced, how do you tell who you should date opposed from who you should stay away from? Well, if the person your dating doesnt let you belive in christ (ex. They said dont go to church) in would be best not to go on. I agree. When I was a camper at Trout Lake Camp a couple weeks ago, I went to a guy's only seminar. We talked about various things, but at one point the counselors leading the seminar talked about this triangle diagram thing. The top point of the triangle is God, and the bottom corners are you and your girlfriend/boyfriend. The point is that the closer each of you get to God, the closer you will get to each other. So as you go through a relationship with someone, it is vital that you both put God first in your lives and grow close to Him. God knows what true love is all about and so if you're in Him, you can experience love the way that He designed it. Does that make sense? I think it does. biggrin
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Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 8:42 pm
I think a huge thing is that both you and your girlfriend (or boyfriend if your a girl) are christians! If you both have a strong relashonship with Jesus then I dont think either one will encourage the other to have sex before marrage or any of the other inmorall things the world does.
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Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 4:58 am
just ask yourself this question "WWJD" well i know during his life he didn't even get married but still he was and is holy in every way and if you are close to God then everything would work out between your boy/girl friend.
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Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 8:32 am
To answer yar questions, in my opinion: Quote: What are good things Christians can do? Christians can do (almost) everything a normal couple can do. They just cant go get drunk together, sleep together, etc. There's not too much different.. Quote: And for those who plan on waiting for sex until marriage, how do we go about telling the person we're dating that we want to wait with out scaring them off? Oh the big, tough question. "Do you want to save sex for marriage?" Obviously when you date someone, you should know them pretty good before you do so. I mean...if they're yar bf/gf, then they should be your regular friend first right? Well, if you're planning on asking this person out, then something like your opinion on sex after marriage should be brought to the persons attention, in a non-awkward way, before you ask them out. Then they wont have any surprises. If you're already dating the person, you should take comfort in the fact that they're with you for a good reason (other than lust, which would be a not good reason) and that they wouldn't dump you over not wanting to have sex. You should probably tell him/her before they try to pull something though, otherwise they'll feel stupid. Anyways....heh XD That's all I got =]
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