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Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2012 9:31 am
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 8:36 am
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 8:50 am
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 4:01 pm
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 8:48 pm
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 11:06 pm
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Posted: Sun Jun 10, 2012 11:25 pm
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Esiris There's a thing called serial monogamy which really is closer to serial monoamory- the idea is that true monoamory/monogamy would mean that in your whole life you only ever had one love/partner/spouse. I really don't know anyone like that- not that it's impossible, it's just so rare people consider serial monoamory to be the norm and shorten it to monoamory/monogamy. I think my grandparents fall under the more strict version of monogamy. I know my grandmother fell head over heels with my grandfather when she went and toured her college of choice when she was a high school senior. She waited for him, he waited for her - they dated until both graduated then got married. I think it is sweet emotion_bigheart . Though with today's interconnections via the internets and cell phones I think serial monogamy is far more... common. This isn't backwater West Virgina like it was for my grandparents.
shares_stomach_acid Personally, I could never handle that kind of relationship, I'm to selfish of a lover really. But that doesn't mean that other people can't have that kind of relationship. And it's totally possible to love more then one person, just look at people who's spouse may have died, and then they found someone else. In this case it just so happens that they found both partners at the same time. And as long as everyone is consenting adults, then I have absolutely no problem with it. I actually used to say the same thing."Oh, ya know I can't handle it, I am too jealous and needy." Really. It was several mental gear shifts that lead me to understand I can and do love more than one person. My biggest shift was that I had been madly in love with my high school sweetheart - he cheated on me and broke my heart to shards. Several years later I met my now husband but I still loved my high school sweetheart. That "v8" moment hit me really hard, I can and do love more than one person. Out of that breaking point in my life (my high school sweetheart busting my heart to shards) came the foundation for THE reason why I am THE happiest I have ever been. That is also the reason I get huffy when I am accused of cheating. Sorry, I have been there, I have done that and I have had my heart destroyed by the careless acts of another. I am not EVER going to do that to anyone.
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Posted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 6:47 am
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Posted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 8:18 am
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Posted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 8:39 am
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Posted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 3:53 pm
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Esiris Annette was almost like that. cat_ninja And I think your love story is very sweet too ya know emotion_bigheart . It makes my heart go emotion_kirakira . Then I am a sucker for romantic stories and happenings.
Esiris I think the thing that bothers me most about the anti-poly rhetoric is how familiar it is. All those accusations about being unfaithful and stuff were used to keep interracial marriage illegal for so long. Same with the stereotypes about gays being uncommitted. I guess bigotry just never sits well with me- and the fact it is a source of so much cross-marginalization in the LGBT community is really disheartening. I know the feel. emotion_hug
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Posted: Mon Jun 11, 2012 5:01 pm
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