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 Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 10:10 pm
Cabron LaSwan Medeus Cabron LaSwan Medeus Cabron LaSwan It doesn't have to be. Everyone's got flaws and everyone's got merits; you just don't always see them at first glance. Whenever I catch my thoughts comparing myself with someone else, I try to remind myself that behaviors I find abrasive someone else might find endearing, and that things I consider virtues someone else might consider flaws, so trying to gauge whether something is 'better' or 'worse' is pointless because it's only better or worse in my opinion.
Besides, if we all conformed to a personality archetype, life would be boring. This is true too. Which is why I find it extremely self-defeatist to go out looking for people to 'love me for who I am'. I wonder if people who say that actually KNOW 'who they are', and I wonder if they would be surprised by the people who end up loving them for the reasons that they do...... o-O did that make sense? lol Sorta. I don't agree with entering a relationship for the sake of being loved in the first place; generally that comes hand in hand with jealousy, bitterness, revenge. you should see what kind of people frequent Online Dating sites.... I frequent the Chatterbox and have a sister with zero self-esteem. I've seen so much of those kinds of people that I think it's partially what scared me away from romance. Aww. Yeah, they're pretty much everywhere, unfortunately. But I don't think that should scare you away from Romance, eh?
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 10:18 pm
It seems sappy and mushy and all that in the movies, but actually being a part of the "I love you"'s and staying up texting someone until you pass out is so nice. It isn't about love, once you feel for someone you want to better yourself to be good for them and make sure they are okay and happy. It isn't about your happiness, it's also about theirs.
But besides that you don't know until you try. I stayed away from relationships until my BF because I didn't want to deal with anything stupid. I don't think I can break up with someone, lol. And he was in a (failing) relationship for 4 years until she broke up with him. And he stayed the night last night/this morning and we talked for a good two hours about life and plans. The future and all that. Kids, marriage, all those things gays need to worry about, lol.
So yeah, Romance is nice.
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 10:27 pm
Medeus Aww. Yeah, they're pretty much everywhere, unfortunately. But I don't think that should scare you away from Romance, eh? It doesn't scare me away from it as a whole, I just generally only date men I'm already well-acquainted with so I know they're not like that. lol I don't like to hurt feelings, so I feel a little pressured when someone is emotionally reliant on me.
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 10:31 pm
Cabron LaSwan Medeus Aww. Yeah, they're pretty much everywhere, unfortunately. But I don't think that should scare you away from Romance, eh? It doesn't scare me away from it as a whole, I just generally only date men I'm already well-acquainted with so I know they're not like that. lol I don't like to hurt feelings, so I feel a little pressured when someone is emotionally reliant on me. You are already on a better track than the majority of America's Marrying Demographic.
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 10:58 pm
I don't have a single interesting thought to contribute here, in fact I'm not thinking about anything interesting or even remotely thought provoking at all, which is kinda making me wonder why, but I've got nothing even searchingly significant, so I come up short even asking why. XD
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:05 pm
I wouldn't say better. Every rose has its thorn and vice versa. I get really mean when I lose my temper and I know better than I'd like to how to hit people where it hurts.
Anyway, speaking of vice versa, I went downstairs to put my water bottle away and got $20 and a drunken apology from my sister. surprised She's actually been pretty nice to me recently, even when sober. Lots of 'please' and 'thank you' and notice of when she's going to be having people over. I can tell it's a conscious effort, and that's probably the part I appreciate the most.
Hope she doesn't take it personally that I'm going to leave regardless; we get along better when we don't live together.
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:12 pm
Cabron LaSwan I wouldn't say better. Every rose has its thorn and vice versa. I get really mean when I lose my temper and I know better than I'd like to how to hit people where it hurts.
Anyway, speaking of vice versa, I went downstairs to put my water bottle away and got $20 and a drunken apology from my sister. surprised She's actually been pretty nice to me recently, even when sober. Lots of 'please' and 'thank you' and notice of when she's going to be having people over. I can tell it's a conscious effort, and that's probably the part I appreciate the most.
. One of my managers at Work was -literally- Shouting a her boyfriend right before he proposed. 3nodding You said yourself, maybe someone will find it endearing? Also, I know this sounds kinda sexist, but I'd like to observe that the Bolded phrase seems to be a particularly Feminine Mindset, and I feel like you've just embodied with that phrase why such situations like This are the socially accepted archetype for the way Male-female relationships function.
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:14 pm
A few days ago someone asked me what the point of "marriage" as a grand ceremony was, and I honestly wasn't able to come up with an answer that I couldn't immediately shoot down as being redundant or nonsensical.
I mean, the idea is to vow to live and love with one person until the end with the higher power of your choice as witness, right? So why need a priest if your God happens to be all-seeing? Why is it all so buried in tradition when the concept can be explained in a sentence and in effect takes nothing more than two people and a mutual agreement to monogamy?
Maybe I'm being a little ignorant. confused
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Sharkbutt The Orgiastic Crew
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:21 pm
Medeus Cabron LaSwan I wouldn't say better. Every rose has its thorn and vice versa. I get really mean when I lose my temper and I know better than I'd like to how to hit people where it hurts.
Anyway, speaking of vice versa, I went downstairs to put my water bottle away and got $20 and a drunken apology from my sister. surprised She's actually been pretty nice to me recently, even when sober. Lots of 'please' and 'thank you' and notice of when she's going to be having people over. I can tell it's a conscious effort, and that's probably the part I appreciate the most.
. One of my managers at Work was -literally- Shouting a her boyfriend right before he proposed. 3nodding You said yourself, maybe someone will find it endearing? Also, I know this sounds kinda sexist, but I'd like to observe that the Bolded phrase seems to be a particularly Feminine Mindset, and I feel like you've just embodied with that phrase why such situations like This are the socially accepted archetype for the way Male-female relationships function. ...I don't really follow how my sister trying to be respectful of other people's feelings for a change has anything to do with that. xd All I meant by it is that I can tell she's biting back some of her acid remarks. Care to elaborate?
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:26 pm
Cabron LaSwan Medeus Cabron LaSwan I wouldn't say better. Every rose has its thorn and vice versa. I get really mean when I lose my temper and I know better than I'd like to how to hit people where it hurts.
Anyway, speaking of vice versa, I went downstairs to put my water bottle away and got $20 and a drunken apology from my sister. surprised She's actually been pretty nice to me recently, even when sober. Lots of 'please' and 'thank you' and notice of when she's going to be having people over. I can tell it's a conscious effort, and that's probably the part I appreciate the most.
. One of my managers at Work was -literally- Shouting a her boyfriend right before he proposed. 3nodding You said yourself, maybe someone will find it endearing? Also, I know this sounds kinda sexist, but I'd like to observe that the Bolded phrase seems to be a particularly Feminine Mindset, and I feel like you've just embodied with that phrase why such situations like This are the socially accepted archetype for the way Male-female relationships function. ...I don't really follow how my sister trying to be respectful of other people's feelings for a change has anything to do with that. xd Care to elaborate? xD no no, your sister has nothing to do with anything... sorry, I just got done mind-splurging to cookeh, and some of it carried over. Basically, Men don't understand Women, and often wonder why. And most often, they wonder why they're doing something Wrong when the woman they're with isn't pleased by....who knows what? xD And I think part of the reason is because Women are intuitively aware of the intentions behind actions, whereas Men feel that the actions themselves should be enough. Am I Making sense? lol it's not totally random. My best friend and I always have these discussions about how and why Men and Women are different, and I have a feeling that this is going to come up at some point. xd
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:29 pm
Wantcookie A few days ago someone asked me what the point of "marriage" as a grand ceremony was, and I honestly wasn't able to come up with an answer that I couldn't immediately shoot down as being redundant or nonsensical. I mean, the idea is to vow to live and love with one person until the end with the higher power of your choice as witness, right? So why need a priest if your God happens to be all-seeing? Why is it all so buried in tradition when the concept can be explained in a sentence and in effect takes nothing more than two people and a mutual agreement to monogamy? Maybe I'm being a little ignorant. confused Why do people get presents and parties on their birthday? Because it feels good to be singled out and celebrated. I think marriage is a silly concept too, but if it gives people something to be happy about, it's worth having around.
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:35 pm
Fun fact: My grandpa and grandma (father's side) were together for well over 50 years. They had a ton of kids (including my dad, obviously), and generally loved one another. They were never legally married.
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Sharkbutt The Orgiastic Crew
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:42 pm
Cabron LaSwan Wantcookie A few days ago someone asked me what the point of "marriage" as a grand ceremony was, and I honestly wasn't able to come up with an answer that I couldn't immediately shoot down as being redundant or nonsensical. I mean, the idea is to vow to live and love with one person until the end with the higher power of your choice as witness, right? So why need a priest if your God happens to be all-seeing? Why is it all so buried in tradition when the concept can be explained in a sentence and in effect takes nothing more than two people and a mutual agreement to monogamy? Maybe I'm being a little ignorant. confused Why do people get presents and parties on their birthday? Because it feels good to be singled out and celebrated. I think marriage is a silly concept too, but if it gives people something to be happy about, it's worth having around. I guess so, but to be honest the object of interest for me is the person, not the celebration.
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:45 pm
Medeus xD no no, your sister has nothing to do with anything... sorry, I just got done mind-splurging to cookeh, and some of it carried over. Basically, Men don't understand Women, and often wonder why. And most often, they wonder why they're doing something Wrong when the woman they're with isn't pleased by....who knows what? xD And I think part of the reason is because Women are intuitively aware of the intentions behind actions, whereas Men feel that the actions themselves should be enough. Am I Making sense? lol it's not totally random. My best friend and I always have these discussions about how and why Men and Women are different, and I have a feeling that this is going to come up at some point. xd I dunno if I agree with that. I mean, women do seem to read into actions to try and find the intention behind them, yeah, but as that video exaggerated, they often end up with a snap judgment based on their own desires or insecurities and not the true intention behind the action.
As for men, well, that's a big part of why I'm straight. Most men are simple; they let you know exactly what they want and they don't try to analyze your every move.
I think both genders simply assume the other gender thinks the same way, and that's where the majority of the misinterpretations come from.
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Posted: Sat Jun 11, 2011 11:48 pm
Cabron LaSwan Medeus xD no no, your sister has nothing to do with anything... sorry, I just got done mind-splurging to cookeh, and some of it carried over. Basically, Men don't understand Women, and often wonder why. And most often, they wonder why they're doing something Wrong when the woman they're with isn't pleased by....who knows what? xD And I think part of the reason is because Women are intuitively aware of the intentions behind actions, whereas Men feel that the actions themselves should be enough. Am I Making sense? lol it's not totally random. My best friend and I always have these discussions about how and why Men and Women are different, and I have a feeling that this is going to come up at some point. xd I dunno if I agree with that. I mean, women do seem to read into actions to try and find the intention behind them, yeah, but as that video exaggerated, they often end up with a snap judgment based on their own desires or insecurities and not the true intention behind the action.
As for men, well, that's a big part of why I'm straight. Most men are simple; they let you know exactly what they want and they don't try to analyze your every move.
I think both genders simply assume the other gender thinks the same way, and that's where the majority of the misinterpretations come from. lol I never commented on what happens Afterward, I just think it's a minute facilitative difference between genders. Neither good nor bad either way, until you get to the snap judgments and s**t. xd LPS knows whats up. But yeah, that makes sense...
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