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 Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 9:22 am
Thanks for all the advice guys, but the thing is I have no clue if he was kidding about the boob shots. He sent the request over a text, and when you text stuff your tone of voice and stuff is lost. But after I told him I wasn't interested he told me he was kidding, but I don't know if he said that because he meant it or that he didn't want to look stupid. I texted him recently and told him to cut back on the compliments and "I love you's" because it was too overwhelming. I keep telling him to take this slow. I hope he gets the message. Honestly, I don't think I'll marry him, I think this will probably last maybe half a week or so. I'm going to see how things go and if they continue to be all awkward and lovey-dovey I'll break up with him. I don't think this will really last, but I'm just glad I'm finally getting into the game of dating.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 10:12 am
Fuuta De La Stella ..s.k.i.t.t.l.e.s.. Fuuta De La Stella LithiumXwolf Fuuta De La Stella I'm sorry, but how does that mean anything? I live in vegas and I have never once asked for some dudes no-no over a text. Even if I knew them in person or not. thats because you have sence. straight guys are WAAAAY different, hun xD Um and I know straight guys who have lived here since they were born. One of them is 24 and he is innocent, as well as never gotten further then cuddling a girl...sweetie, don't talk about a group of people in a city, especially if you don't know everyone there.
She wasn't insulting your so amazingly pure
and righteous city of Vegas. She was mentioning
the fact that they live in two separate cities. As in
far away from one another. As in not close. As in
long distance relationship where she cannot validate
if he is sincere about his feelings.
And furthermore, you and your friends don't account
for everyone on the planet, least of all in your
city. And as for someone who lives in California, even
if she WAS insulting Vegas, I wouldn't blame her.
It's VEGAS. You know, what happens in VEGAS
stays in VEGAS. -rolls eyes-Yea, I know. But I never said it was so righteous and pure because I sure as hell know it isn't, and if she meant a different city she easily could have just said "in a different city" I know that as well. Did I ever once say he meant for EVERYONE? Please show me exactly where I said "he is everyone in vegas" because I sure know he isn't. Yes, so what if its VEGAS not every ******** person here is a sexually addicted,chain smoking, drinking, STD loaded human.
time because I don't think you get it.
"I've never even officially met him because he lives in Vegas and I live in Boston."
That was a direct quote. I pulled it right
from the paragraph. Now ask yourself this.
Where is the insult? Where is she talking
s**t about Vegas? HMM!? Because if there
is some secret insult there inbetween the lines
that some how only YOU can read, then I will
apologize for my dumb. But since that isn't true
then I suppose you need to chill the hell out.
Because you are acting like a jerk when obviously
it wasn't necessary. And JUST because someone
calls you out on it, doesn't mean you go all even
more pissy. Just take when you are wrong and
move on.
And further more, your argument doesn't have any
room to walk because you are sounding like a child
screaming at nothing. Either learn to read and stop
seeing what you want to see to start an argument,
or.. well. that is the lesson you need to learn.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 10:18 am
..s.k.i.t.t.l.e.s.. Fuuta De La Stella ..s.k.i.t.t.l.e.s.. Fuuta De La Stella LithiumXwolf thats because you have sence. straight guys are WAAAAY different, hun xD Um and I know straight guys who have lived here since they were born. One of them is 24 and he is innocent, as well as never gotten further then cuddling a girl...sweetie, don't talk about a group of people in a city, especially if you don't know everyone there.
She wasn't insulting your so amazingly pure
and righteous city of Vegas. She was mentioning
the fact that they live in two separate cities. As in
far away from one another. As in not close. As in
long distance relationship where she cannot validate
if he is sincere about his feelings.
And furthermore, you and your friends don't account
for everyone on the planet, least of all in your
city. And as for someone who lives in California, even
if she WAS insulting Vegas, I wouldn't blame her.
It's VEGAS. You know, what happens in VEGAS
stays in VEGAS. -rolls eyes-Yea, I know. But I never said it was so righteous and pure because I sure as hell know it isn't, and if she meant a different city she easily could have just said "in a different city" I know that as well. Did I ever once say he meant for EVERYONE? Please show me exactly where I said "he is everyone in vegas" because I sure know he isn't. Yes, so what if its VEGAS not every ******** person here is a sexually addicted,chain smoking, drinking, STD loaded human.
time because I don't think you get it.
"I've never even officially met him because he lives in Vegas and I live in Boston."
That was a direct quote. I pulled it right
from the paragraph. Now ask yourself this.
Where is the insult? Where is she talking
s**t about Vegas? HMM!? Because if there
is some secret insult there inbetween the lines
that some how only YOU can read, then I will
apologize for my dumb. But since that isn't true
then I suppose you need to chill the hell out.
Because you are acting like a jerk when obviously
it wasn't necessary. And JUST because someone
calls you out on it, doesn't mean you go all even
more pissy. Just take when you are wrong and
move on.
And further more, your argument doesn't have any
room to walk because you are sounding like a child
screaming at nothing. Either learn to read and stop
seeing what you want to see to start an argument,
or.. well. that is the lesson you need to learn. Okay how about we talk about the girl with the next post that said. "part of this sexy stuff, asking for a boobshot, and racyness could be because, as you said, he lives in vegas." That easily could be taken the wrong way Actually you didn't have to just hop in. So you are actually the one to start the argument. So before pushing blame on someone else, please do remember who spoke to who first.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 10:22 am
You could have directly quote
THAT person, and told them to F
off instead of making it sound it
was her fault for saying Vegas.
And I did not start an argument,
I was merely pointing out you
don't need to be rude to
people when you disagree with
them about something. There is
a DIFFERENCE between just being
a poo head and presenting an argument.
Like calling someone, "sweetie." After you
have disagreed with them. You could have
easily done this.
Yes. Vegas has a horrible reputation for
sexual deviancy (Because let's face it
that's no secret.) But not everyone there
is a sexual deviant. Me and my friends,
we are normal people just happening to
live in a city that has a bad rap.
And I didn't come across as rude. Easy
as pie.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 12:49 pm
Well, thanks for all the advice, guys, but I only mentioned he lived in Vegas to show that we live far away from each other, not to suggest his libido being stronger than mine. Anyway, I don't even think he's a Vegas native. I think he told me he spent the first half of his childhood in the Phillipines.True, he rushing a relationship and acting kind of lovey-dovey could have something to do with him living in Sin City, but not 100% of Las Vegans are like that. I mean, look at me, I live just outside Boston and I don't eat clam chowder or Boston creme pie all the time!
So, hopefully you guys get it. I don't even know whether I'm in love or not, I'm just plain confused. Are relationships supposed to be like this? I feel as if this is making me less independent, but at the same time, I want to see if this works. I'm so confused. I originally wasn't even that obsessed with him but now he keeps texting me and I just want a real relationship, not to be complimented like no tomorrow. i'm overwhelmed.
I apoligize for my rant. xp
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 9:00 pm
You're young, he's rushing, and asking for a boob shot is-y'know-just the slightestbit perverted. If I were you (and I'm not so I'm not judging) I would change my ******** Skype and phone number.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 9:09 pm
he does sound like hes faking it. could dump him and try for someone whos willing to try for a real relationship.
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 9:58 am
Everyone said it already.
However, please note that there IS a difference between online dating and online relationships. Online dating is a perfectly normal and acceptable method to finding potential significant others, as long as both individuals are willing and able for in-person contact. Online relationships are, well... just refer to what everyone else said.
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 12:11 pm
The bickering back and forth about Vegas doesn't belong here- you two should get married or take it to the PM's. C:Back on topic- In my time I have ran across so many creeps, who like this guy first day- "Bewbs plox- pix- asl?" I agree with whoever mentioned the redflag comment. If something doesn't feel right- it isn't right. Learn to trust your gut- You said, "... if they continue to be all awkward and lovey-dovey I'll break up with him..." You've also said- - about a day now I've been talking to this kid I met on YouTube
- asked me out and asked for my Facebook and phone number
- I told him I wanted to take it slow and just start off with Skype
- he started calling and texting me
- telling me I'm cute and that he loves me
- mentioned how big my boobs are and later he asked if he could have a picture of them
- reassured me how sexy I am and stuff
- He told me to say "I love you" back when he says it to me
- I'm only 15 Serious Question: WHAT IS NOT AWKWARD ABOUT THIS IF IT HAS ONLY BEEN ONE DAY? I don't even care if it has been Three weeks- we're past awkward- we're on to creep. This guy is demanding you tell him you love him after he says it? Excuse me- nobody, and I mean nobody tells me what the f ck to say. I'll tell you I love you- when I f cking love you. Not when they tell me to. scream This person knows what you look like, has your facebook, your phone number- if they are willing to spend money on a site that does a background, they have all the information they need to find you. And they can find you with just your phone number. This isn't me trying to scare you, but I am scared for you. Please tell me what is smart about a 15 year old- male or female giving out their number to a total stranger online? I understand in this fast paced world it's all about staying connected but hot damn- that is a little too connected to strangers imo. On to answering your questions:Is this worth it to change my Facebook relationship status? NO. How many times did you just say you felt he was rushing things and now you want to change your relationship. Say what you mean, and mean what you say. If you want to take it slow- damn it take it slow. If the bonehead doesn't get it and doesn't like it he can move on to the next dumb person. How can I tell my parents? I'm pretty sure they wouldn't like it if they knew I was texting a guy I met online. I am shocked only one person touched this question and then told you not to tell. By not telling them- you admit guilt and you feel you're doing something wrong. Have you done anything wrong besides giving your number to a random guy online? If not- then this shouldn't be so bad. Even if you have done something worse, this shouldn't stop you from telling. I suggest going to them and being honest. God forbid something bad happens and they have no idea what was really going on. You do not have to tell them everything, but you could start by saying you're talking to somebody online. If you feel worried about giving out your number- Tell them you've made a mistake- you gave out the number, but now you realize how that could be a really bad thing. You want to be honest with them in everything you're doing because you do not want to break their trust. Keep in mind there could be consequences- but do not let that stop you from telling them because it could be a whole lot worse if you do not tell them at all. Remember- you're 15- what they give you- they can take away just as easily. Yes, they most likely are going to be angry. My parents were... mainly because I didn't tell them and they found out by looking at my computer files and asking the phone company for a record of my texts. Yeaaah- that didn't go so well. Tell Them. I'm kind of happy, but kind of overwhelmed. It feels good when a total stranger tells us everything we want to hear. At the same time- if that person is pushing you to do things you'd rather not do... when does enough become enough? How long are you going to stick around ignoring the flags? Somehow this reminds me of the people that are abused but don't leave for whatever excuse they can come up with. It's stupid to put yourself in danger. Your gut is telling you to run for the hills and that could be why you're feeling overwhelmed. Does anyone know if online relationships are worthwhile? Please help! The only reason I am posting is because my husband and I met online in 2001 (8th/9th grade) playing Starcraft and Diablo II on Battle.net. We had an online relationship/started dating in 2003. When June of 2004 rolled around I graduated HS and two weeks later he drove up to Minnesota from New Mexico in 19 hours. (It's normally a two day drive and that is with two people.) My husband, boyfriend at the time stayed a week at my parent's house and when it was time for him to leave- I packed my bag for a week and went to visit for a week. Well, that week turned into six months because I just fell in love. I moved back up to MN because life down in the Burque is mean- a year later he moved up with me and has been here ever since. Blah, blah, blah, years later- we've just celebrated our 1 year wedding anni this past May. So, there is a VERY CONDENSED story of online dating/relationships that turned out really well. It was work- hard work- but worth it IF it is the right person. While dating my husband he never once asked me for anything like a nude shot. Never. Please feel free to PM me if you'd like to talk more indepth. Be smart, stay safe.
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 5:04 pm
Fuuta De La Stella LithiumXwolf Fuuta De La Stella I'm sorry, but how does that mean anything? I live in vegas and I have never once asked for some dudes no-no over a text. Even if I knew them in person or not. thats because you have sence. straight guys are WAAAAY different, hun xD Um and I know straight guys who have lived here since they were born. One of them is 24 and he is innocent, as well as never gotten further then cuddling a girl...sweetie, don't talk about a group of people in a city, especially if you don't know everyone there. If he's 24 and only cuddles he's either lying to you, has deep seated issues, or is a freak one in a billion that can't ever be used to justify anything in an argument because the very fact that he exists goes against the laws of time and space.
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 5:05 pm
nately10 Fuuta De La Stella LithiumXwolf Fuuta De La Stella I'm sorry, but how does that mean anything? I live in vegas and I have never once asked for some dudes no-no over a text. Even if I knew them in person or not. thats because you have sence. straight guys are WAAAAY different, hun xD Um and I know straight guys who have lived here since they were born. One of them is 24 and he is innocent, as well as never gotten further then cuddling a girl...sweetie, don't talk about a group of people in a city, especially if you don't know everyone there. If he's 24 and only cuddles he's either lying to you, has deep seated issues, or is a freak one in a billion that can't ever be used to justify anything in an argument because the very fact that he exists goes against the laws of time and space. How is it against the laws of time and space?
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 5:17 pm
Fuuta De La Stella How is it against the laws of time and space? I'm not here to throw facts at you. I just thought you should know you've been duped.
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 5:19 pm
nately10 Fuuta De La Stella How is it against the laws of time and space? I'm not here to throw facts at you. I just thought you should know you've been duped. How? I really don't see. But eh, you can say what you want. ^^
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2011 5:47 pm
Fuuta De La Stella nately10 Fuuta De La Stella How is it against the laws of time and space? I'm not here to throw facts at you. I just thought you should know you've been duped. How? I really don't see. But eh, you can say what you want. ^^ Of course I can, I just did.
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Posted: Sat Jul 23, 2011 4:13 am
LithiumXwolf Fuuta De La Stella I'm sorry, but how does that mean anything? I live in vegas and I have never once asked for some dudes no-no over a text. Even if I knew them in person or not. thats because you have sence. straight guys are WAAAAY different, hun xD Oi, Straight Guy in a Long Distance Relationship. I can control myself. My relationship, though comparable, probably isn't the best one to compare it too.
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