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 Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 5:58 pm
So for about a day now I've been talking to this kid I met on YouTube. He first asked me out and asked for my Facebook and phone number but then I told him I wanted to take it slow and just start off with Skype. He agreed and made one. After our Skype call, I realized he seemed like a cool guy, so I decided maybe giving him my number wouldn't be so bad after all. Then he started calling and texting me and stuff....always telling me I'm cute and that he loves me. He even mentioned how big my boobs are and later he asked if he could have a picture of them. I, of course, said no, and that I wasn't into sexting. Then he told me he was just kidding, but reassured me how sexy I am and stuff. He told me to say "I love you" back when he says it to me. I told him I didn't want to rush anything.
Look, I'm only 15 and this is kind of my first official relationship. He seems like a nice kid and everything, but he seems to be rushing it. i've never even officially met him because he lives in Vegas and I live in Boston. I know this has little to do with LGBT, but I just want some advice.
Is this worth it to change my Facebook relationship status? How can I tell my parents? I'm pretty sure they wouldn't like it if they knew I was texting a guy I met online. I'm kind of happy, but kind of overwhelmed. Does anyone know if online relationships are worthwhile? Please help!
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 6:14 pm
hun, do like you said you were and take it slow. part of this sexy stuff, asking for a boobshot, and racyness could be because, as you said, he lives in vegas.
but just keep with what you've been doing for a while. if he really does like you then he can wait. dont change your relationship status just yet. wait until you're postive and without a doubt that he truely loves you. dont just beleive him when he says it, because actions speak louder than words, so to speak.
just remember to do your best and stay completely rational, and not get too lovey dovey. and if you do, dont let it go to your head and cloud your judgment.
-someone who's been there before.
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 7:36 pm
I'm sorry, but how does that mean anything? I live in vegas and I have never once asked for some dudes no-no over a text. Even if I knew them in person or not.
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 7:40 pm
Online relationships. Especially long distance. Do not typically work out though in some cases have and those people got married and blahblah. But it's not very common. To me this relationship doesn't sound like a good idea. You're young, and he's rushing it, and mentioning your breasts and sexting and asking for nude photos. Do yourself a favor and NEVER send a nude photo of yourself through the internet. Or anywhere for that matter. You're too young. x.x It's generally safe to say that if you put a nude photo on the internet, you might as well assume everyone who has access to the internet is going to see it. Even if you trusted the person you sent it to, things might go bad and they might show it to everyone in the world just to get revenge or just cause they're perverts and perverts sometimes get a kick out of sharing with eachother. Also unless you have some sort of proof that someone on the internet is who they really are. Do not trust that they are actually the person they are claiming to be. It's easy to fake your identity on the internet. No matter how nice they are, it doesn't mean they're really a good person. Sometimes people are just nice to get what they want and as soon as they have it they'll show their true nature. Also you've only been talking to him for a day and he's rushing it wayyyyy tooo fast. You don't really know each other at all. Bottom line, don't go along with this relationship thing. There's a huge chance he's a creep and you'd regret it. I know it feels nice to be called cute and attractive and receive all sorts of compliments. But you don't owe anyone anything just because they tell you that. You should only go for boys who you know are trustworthy and have been your friends for a while and you are sure they don't just want you for anything sexual.
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 7:53 pm
Fuuta De La Stella I'm sorry, but how does that mean anything? I live in vegas and I have never once asked for some dudes no-no over a text. Even if I knew them in person or not. thats because you have sence. straight guys are WAAAAY different, hun xD
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 7:55 pm
LithiumXwolf Fuuta De La Stella I'm sorry, but how does that mean anything? I live in vegas and I have never once asked for some dudes no-no over a text. Even if I knew them in person or not. thats because you have sence. straight guys are WAAAAY different, hun xD Um and I know straight guys who have lived here since they were born. One of them is 24 and he is innocent, as well as never gotten further then cuddling a girl...sweetie, don't talk about a group of people in a city, especially if you don't know everyone there.
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 10:12 pm
i'm in the same bout dear. my first relationship and its online. lucky for me, its with a guy burne same reason i do!! blaugh
anyways, we were friends first so we had facebook and stuff and didntere who we said we were or not, but once we started dating (which is still weird to me >< ) he asked forse pics with a name in it for proof, and i have my own special ways to determine if someone is who they say they are ninja
anyways, you're doing the right thing taking it slow and being careful.
@fuuta: i believe lithium meant that vegas was lmmon for people to meet for the first time a night in vegas and be married the next day, so acting like that (serious or joking) is probably pretty common thing, especially among strait guys. im sure lithium didnt mean to call everyone in vegas perverts with no boundries......
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 10:18 pm
Lol my first relationship was online and that bombed. Though I met John right after I joined here and now we're dating lol. Its all about trust really.
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Posted: Wed Jul 20, 2011 10:27 pm
I'd say you should leave him. I can already tell he just wants you for your body.
Cyber relationships don't work that well. Unless you both meet each other IRL a few times.
When I 'cyber date', it's with my boyfriend whenever we're too busy to get together. We get on Skype and play games, have dinner, watch movies, etc. But I only do that because our relationship didn't start online. He was my boyfriend even before we had our first online date. Our first IRL date was a week after we started dating. Our first online date was 5 months after we started dating when he was out of town for a week.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 12:00 am
I have never had a good experience with cyber dating. They've all ended in misery. I'm glad you told him you wanted to take things slow, though. Seeing as you're only 15, you should just wait for someone in real life to come along. It will save you a LOT of heartache. Believe it from someone who's had 4 internet relationships.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 12:51 am
I've been through that a lot. And trust me, you seriously need to dump this guy. You should do it like now, at this exact second, because your gonna get hurt later on, emotional and/or physically hurt. He's obviously some weirdo who has a thing for 15 year old girls.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 1:02 am
Trust me. I have been there. Guys have asked me many times over the internet for nude pictures. They also called me cute, sexy and everything like that before they asked. Im not saying he's a creepy person. He just doesn't like you the way you should be liked. Im 15 so i know how you feel. XD So i'd agree with @TheMadHatterLovesYou and dump his sorry butt. You could find a lot better guy. A guy that likes you for who you are. Though everyone says an online relationship goes horrid, it doesn't for me. Im dating someone from online as well. He lives in South Carolina. Everything's going great between me and him. Its nearly 3 months now. Well basically, just dump him if you know whats good for you. And also, if you every wan't to talk. Im here. ^^ I don't bite ether! XD
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 3:26 am
Fuuta De La Stella LithiumXwolf Fuuta De La Stella I'm sorry, but how does that mean anything? I live in vegas and I have never once asked for some dudes no-no over a text. Even if I knew them in person or not. thats because you have sence. straight guys are WAAAAY different, hun xD Um and I know straight guys who have lived here since they were born. One of them is 24 and he is innocent, as well as never gotten further then cuddling a girl...sweetie, don't talk about a group of people in a city, especially if you don't know everyone there.
She wasn't insulting your so amazingly pure
and righteous city of Vegas. She was mentioning
the fact that they live in two separate cities. As in
far away from one another. As in not close. As in
long distance relationship where she cannot validate
if he is sincere about his feelings.
And furthermore, you and your friends don't account
for everyone on the planet, least of all in your
city. And as for someone who lives in California, even
if she WAS insulting Vegas, I wouldn't blame her.
It's VEGAS. You know, what happens in VEGAS
stays in VEGAS. -rolls eyes-
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 3:35 am
Anyways. Now that I have said that, girl,
if some dood you have been texting and
skyping with for like... what.. a day!?
And he wants to see your sweater
puppies? That is a redflag girly. Some
doods SOME DOODS, before anyone
twists my words around, have a natural
knack for getting you to do things for them
by telling you what you want to hear. Like: "Oh
I love you babe, don't you wanna show me you
love me back by letting me get a peek at yo
sweater puppies?"
Girl. He needs to WORK FOR THAT!
GIVE HIM SOMETHING TO STRIVE FOR. Cause
if you want yer boobies to be the ultimate prize, he
has got to put more than a day's effort.
And furthermore. Telling your parents about your
online relationship is just as bad as telling them
someone has already been up in your fur burger.
Don't tell them. That's moth to flame.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2011 7:17 am
..s.k.i.t.t.l.e.s.. Fuuta De La Stella LithiumXwolf Fuuta De La Stella I'm sorry, but how does that mean anything? I live in vegas and I have never once asked for some dudes no-no over a text. Even if I knew them in person or not. thats because you have sence. straight guys are WAAAAY different, hun xD Um and I know straight guys who have lived here since they were born. One of them is 24 and he is innocent, as well as never gotten further then cuddling a girl...sweetie, don't talk about a group of people in a city, especially if you don't know everyone there.
She wasn't insulting your so amazingly pure
and righteous city of Vegas. She was mentioning
the fact that they live in two separate cities. As in
far away from one another. As in not close. As in
long distance relationship where she cannot validate
if he is sincere about his feelings.
And furthermore, you and your friends don't account
for everyone on the planet, least of all in your
city. And as for someone who lives in California, even
if she WAS insulting Vegas, I wouldn't blame her.
It's VEGAS. You know, what happens in VEGAS
stays in VEGAS. -rolls eyes-Yea, I know. But I never said it was so righteous and pure because I sure as hell know it isn't, and if she meant a different city she easily could have just said "in a different city" I know that as well. Did I ever once say he meant for EVERYONE? Please show me exactly where I said "he is everyone in vegas" because I sure know he isn't. Yes, so what if its VEGAS not every ******** person here is a sexually addicted,chain smoking, drinking, STD loaded human.
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