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 Posted: Thu Jul 15, 2010 7:48 am
I sent separate emails to my parents telling them I was bi. My mom called at dinner later and was like "So who's your girlfriend?"
....it's not like I'm gonna drop the boy I've been with for a year just because I decide to tell you I'm bisexual. get over yourself.
"But that's what bi means, is that you're with a girl."
...no, it means I like girls. get over your preconceived notions.
I told my boyfriend (who had already guessed), and my really close friends, and they're all cool with it -- the majority of my friends are lesbian/gay/pan as it is lol, so it wasn't at all uncomfortable to tell them.
I don't think I hide it, exactly, but I don't go around broadcasting it either. If it gets brought up, I might mention it if it has some sort of impact on conversation, but I don't make a scene of it. One of my new friends at KSU this year is gay and was dealing with what his roommate thought, what we as his friends thought, and the guys he was having feelings for, and seemed to be having a rough time. He and I got away from the rest of our friends for a bit and I outed myself to him in an offhand sort of way, and he was all super-shocked lol. I'm just glad he knows he has someone he can talk to now smile
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Posted: Thu Jul 15, 2010 10:45 am
My first boyfriend dragged me out, I was kicking and screaming the whole way to glad he did tho I have better friends because of it but a few key people in my life still don't need least they attempt to "cure" me
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Posted: Thu Jul 15, 2010 11:18 pm
I just came out lesbian 3 days ago! biggrin
Very proud of myself.
Well.
I came out to my family 3 days ago.
With my friends, in 6th grade my friend told me she was bi and I was like, "wtf does that mean?" and she explained it and I was like, "osht, I'm bi!"
So she knew, then she slipped and told our two other friends because we had come up with a code for what bi meant, the number '41'.
Well, I told my friends I was bi when I was in 7th grade and they were like, 'lol, knew it. you queer!"
I didn't start to identify as lesbian until 9th grade when I let go of my hope of ever liking guys for my mother's sake.
As far as my family goes. I came out 3 days ago.
Pretty much, I went to Colorado to see my aunts, uncles, and cousins and was like, "okay, I'm 19, time to come out."
Sooo, on my last night there I was at one aunt's house and she was the one I had wanted to tell first. She's EXTREMELY liberal, loves the gays, huge fan of Oprah, ect. So, we were having a serious discussion about my mom's poor health and stuff and drugs, and all of that good stuff and I was just like, "I'M GAY."
She was like, "I CALLED IN 5 YEARS AGO!"
So she was all good with it and we talked about it for a couple of hours and I told her I needed her support and my other aunt's support to tell my mom. Because I had tried to tell my mom many other times and she had none of it.
The next morning, my other aunt comes by to say bye to me and she needed to use the computer so I went in there closed the door and was like, "I need to tell you something...I'M GAY."
We talked for an hour, then my other aunt joined for another 30 minutes.
Then that night when my mom got me at the airport and we were driving home, I told her.
She was in complete denial and I was crying because I was upset and scared. So I told her to call her sisters and talk to them, then I left the house to go to my gay BFF's apartment to chill. While I was there my mom texted me to tell me she loves me and believes me.
Since then she has told her friends. She doesn't care. She accepts me, she loves me, her friends all called it. Things are just like normal. smile
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Posted: Thu Jul 15, 2010 11:22 pm
the way i came out was i kissed my girlfriend infront of everybody! worked the easiest way for me.
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Posted: Fri Jul 16, 2010 11:21 pm
I'm one of those people that never bring it up unless someone asks.
So yeah, I pretty much forgot how it went exactly, but I first told my older brother that I was bi after some sort of discussion, and he was a bit surprised, but okay with it.
I've only came out to four of my closest friends, and my siblings, but I think that eventually I will tell the rest of my friends.
And I have yet to tell anyone else in my family, simply because I don't want to be rejected. But I think my mom will be okay with it, 'cause she's pretty expecting.
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Posted: Sat Jul 17, 2010 12:31 am
first of all, Mikael, i love ur sig!
my parents found out the hard way...the very hard way, from my girlfriend's mom. during marching band season last year, i began to realize my feelings for my best friend Sarah. i talked to some of my bi and gay friends, and realized that i was bi. she realized at about the same time, and with us being so close we started talking about it. one day on the phone she admitted that she had feelings for me and asked me out. i said yes, and we dated for a while. i slept over at her house a few times, and her parents really liked me, so we were discussing coming out to them. we went toour youth pastor and told him, and he helped us figure out what we should do. but then one day Sarah's mom took her phone and started reading the texts, and she flipped out. her parents are very religious, and she believed that Sarah was committing a horrible sin for liking girls. she called me and asked me who i would rather her tell, my dad or my stepmom. i told her my stepmom, because i figured my dad wold flip out and disown me. he always says that he's not against gays, but they really freak him out and make him uncomfortable so i was scared to tell him, so i told her to call my stepmom. apparently she told my dad though because he came in a few days later and grounded me and told me i wasnt allowed to speak to sarah. we stayed together, but the pressure got really bad and about a month later we broke up. i was only living with my dad at the time, and didnt get to talk to my stepmom much, but the next time i saw her i mentioned that i liked a guy and she teasingly said "are you sure its not a girl?" when she said that, i knew i ccould talk to her about anything because she wouldn't judge me. i still don't know if my mom knows, but i don't want to bring it up just yet. as far as everyone else oe, all of my friends know. when i meet new people, i tell them if they ask or if it comes up in conversation, but otherwise i don't mention it. most people ive met are accepting, others not so much, but that's ok. people can believe what they want, it wont bother me. smile
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Posted: Tue Jul 20, 2010 10:57 pm
I don't plan to anytime soon.
I'm afraid of losing the friends I currently have and the support of my family.
Unfortunate.
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Posted: Sun Aug 01, 2010 1:43 pm
I don't really have any plans to tell my family that I'm bisexual, unless something came up where it would be stupid not to tell them. I think my parents would be accepting of it though.
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Posted: Mon Aug 02, 2010 9:31 pm
i chickened out about it.
instead of telling my aunt and uncle face to face, i left a letter on the table so that they would see it before they went to work. cowardly? yes. terrifying? very. over with? you bet your sorry little brains it isn't. over half a year gone and i know this is not the end, considering my homophobic grandparents (who i LIVE WITH btw) don't know yet and there's only so much time before a secret like this can be kept from them. i'm counting down the days until their harsh words rain down upon me and i'm out of house and home, having to move in with my more understanding aunt and uncle
but a friend of mine found out in the worst way. when i had a sleepover a year or two ago, we were sharing the same room. i had a thing for him and wondered what it would be like to kiss him, just really quick. i did and...he woke up. though he was freaked out out of his mind, he turned out to be okay with it later, and actually promised not to tell anyone. haven't spoken to him much since cry
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Posted: Mon Aug 02, 2010 10:20 pm
Well like half of my friends knew before I graduated high school, I roamed around a few social circles and some knew while others didn't. Mostly they knew though because I broke it off with my ex because he wanted to stay in the closet and I didn't, so he outed us to his family and all of our friends. My twin brother was the only family member who knew I liked guys, and the rest of my family only found out after we graduated and he blabbed to my dad and uncles. So really I've only ever actually told like two people and usually the info just gets around =.=
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Posted: Mon Aug 02, 2010 11:17 pm
I did the wrong way to tell the parents. See, my family is military. So being anything but the norm is horribly wrong. So for the only daughter to be gay was the worst sin ever to them. So, scared to come out, I just packed up my things and moved across the country from the east coast to the west coast with my partner. I wouldnt have even told them, but my partners mom thought they should know, and took the liberty to call them herself.
Needless to say my family was pissed, and at the end of it I went from a large extended family, to only my mom and step dad talking to me. But after they knew the truth I felt alot better, and regretted not telling them in the first place.
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Posted: Tue Aug 03, 2010 12:24 pm
It just sort of happened over time. The first time I admitted it was in a group therapy thing at school, 3 years ago. The two other girls in my class and I had this session with a teachers' aid and I mentioned my confusion (I was curious at the time). My friend Ada wouldn't stop badgering me about it. She would call me up and say, "So, are you still like- confused?" I was so annoyed with her that after a while I just told her, "YES, I'm gay, ok?" After that I just sort of realized that it was true.
The time I "told" my mom was on a long car trip. It's annoying when your mom brings up topics like that in a car, because you can't walk away. So she just turned off the radio and said, "Do you like Ada?" I didn't say anything for like a minute, which meant I basically told her. So I nodded and reclined my seat back as far as it would go.
When I went to the high school part of my school (It's k-12) I decided to just be out to the new people I met. I wasn't blunt and up-front with them, but I never hid behind a straight cover. I found out that Ada was bi, and I met Bruce, who was kind of a guardian for me until he graduated this year. On my first day of silence, all of the jerks had fun harassing me, but my teachers managed to keep it under control for the most part. Aside from the occasional sneer from a total jacka**, my experience with intolerance is very limited. I mentioned I was a lesbian to my cousin Daniel at a family dinner, and he looked at me as if I had told him that I was related to him. He said, "Yeah, and?"
Since then I've actually said the words, "I'm gay." Only two or three times, one being in a hospital with other insane people (quite literally). I'll be moving this year. New state, new school, and a whole new group of people to introduce myself to. We'll see how it goes.
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Posted: Sun Aug 15, 2010 5:56 am
Came out to my parents. They told me it was natural, and all that. Of course, my mother has a lesbian for a sister, and my father is quite a tolerant man. Then I left to go home with my father (my parents are split up), and when we got home, we talked about how I came to that conclusion and that there are only certain people I should tell. I'm only out to two of my friends at school, including one guy whose girlfriend I had a crush on.
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Posted: Sun Aug 15, 2010 11:02 am
▶ I sent a message to my mother over Facebook. Because I was supposed to go on a double date with my girlfriend to the mall(it was valentines) and mom was lie, "I'f you don't tell me who you're 'in a relationship with' you can't go." (because i changed that status on FB)
So I sent her a message explaining that I think I was bisexual and explained why i didn't want to tell her, and that i was scared she wouldn't let me have sleepovers anymore and why i was so scared about it. She came inside and hugged me and said this whole "being a teenager is confusing, but i'll always love you" speech. Then the next day I went to spend the night at my friend Tiffany's house (she already knew, all my friends did before my parents and they were all cool with it) and he hugged me and said "s**t, that was really brave that you went to your mother about that" because usually i go to him because he's nicer than my mom the majority of the time.
I still haven't told my father and his side of the family and I don't plan to. His side of the family is far more closed-minded then my mom and stepdad. We don't really talk about it anymore, though. And I don't think it's gotten outside of them two, but at least they know about it. ◀
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Posted: Sun Aug 15, 2010 12:10 pm
Well, I came out to my friend James first, because he's gay, and I knew he would be accepting. Then I started to tell my other friends, but casually. I told my mum not long after that, but she didn't believe me. As for my dad, I had been talking about our school's LGBTQ group, and spontaneously decided to add that I was bisexual (now, I'm leaning towards lesbian, but at the time... razz ). He was extremely accepting, and thanked me for telling him. My sisters were in the vicinity, so they also found out. I told my extended family on my mothers side that I was queer, and was told that "I didn't look like a queer person", whatever THAT means... rolleyes My dad's side of the family is very conservative, but they all have Facebook, and as a result, know that I'm queer (because of course, I have set my interests to "women and men", although I shall probably change it to "women."). They choose to ignore it, but I'm not particularly concerned with them. So basically, I'm out to everyone! 3nodding
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