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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 12:14 pm
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I have decided to become a masculinist in addition to being a feminist. I feel like a lot of the time, in the midst of our politically-correct--although, in many places, still necessary--feminist movement, men are too often generalized as "the enemy" and undervalued as people. The male sex is too often thought of as being the oppressor and lumped into one group rather than a diverse collection of unique individuals. Many feminists do the same thing to men that they are protesting for their own sex--put them into a box. Men are chauvinists, men don't want to liberate women, men are insensitive. Yes, there are men like this. Yes, gender inequality is a problem. But not all men are like that! Too many female feminists forget that there are males in their ranks--that's right! There are male feminists! Feminism seeks equality for all sexes (and genders, ye politically correct-minded folks), and so should be more careful that they do not trample the other half of the world too hard in the quest for gender equality.
Note: I'm speaking mainly of mainstream america, not the rest of the world
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 12:19 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 12:29 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 12:46 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 12:59 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 1:09 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 1:57 pm
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Belethiel Yeah, we need to keep things balanced.
I know a guy who can't get custody of his kids even though his wife is a very irresponsible mother. I'm pretty sure it's because he's male. Men get judged for wanting to work with children all the time, too, people assume they're ***** class="clear">
As I mentioned, these aren't misandry, they're misogny- because women aren't able to work and earn equal to men (aka the wage gap ). It's what happens when women are discriminated against in the work force.
And no judge is going to automatically assume that a father is a *****- however because our society teaches men to use sexual violence as a tool, hence why 99% of rapists are men. But that's not misogyny, not misandry.
Quote: There are still equality issues on both sides. But, I think issues with women are still too prevalent and we can deal with the men's stuff later... when anything deemed "feminine" isn't seen as something negative. I have never seen anyone offer anything much coded misogyny when they say stuff like that- and that is it's own form of protecting unearned Male Privilege.
Seravee Seraphim I can understand this, but the sad fact remains that most of the women I had worked with were more focused on personal endeavors and unfortunately at some point it wasn't even just about equal rights anymore. Most of the women I knew had been emotionally trampled by men and to be honest much of the time it was difficult to decipher when things were being done for the sake of moving forward or for mere spite of the opposite gender. I think that proves my point- that your problem isn't with feminism and there isn't a need for a masculine counterpart, but that people are having their problems represented as Feminism when it isn't.
Quote: I am not a fan of generalizations, so I only speak from personal experience, but I also do have a huge problem with the fact that some of the women that demand equal rights turn around and say that another certain group doesn't deserve them. It's really difficult to work with people who are too caught up in their personal opinions to think rationally. That's called crossmarginilization- it happens all the time. We even see it in this guild, like when it comes to poly issues and ableism, just showing that people who are fighting for LGBT rights aren't immune.
And then there's the cross marginilization in the LGBT community itself- my advisor for GSA talks about the problems she's had with gay men as a lesbian because of sexism. I've experienced cross marginilziation from gay men, lesbians and other members of the trans-community. It's really frustrating.
Quote: I understand that this isn't what feminism is about, but when the only "feminist" groups around all behave in such a manner it really gives the whole cause a bad reputation in some areas. But they aren't they only feminist groups around- which goes back to that whole generalization stuff you don't like. cat_sweatdrop
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 2:40 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 3:32 pm
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Seravee Seraphim LOL that's why I mentioned the certain areas. 3nodding I know it's not like that everywhere else, but where I am from pretty much all the organizations are the same, and I can only say this because there aren't many to begin with. I think the local culture here also doesn't do much to help, but that's something completely different. sweatdrop Anyways, I like to think that eventually we will find balance, and in the end all I can do is stay optimistic and do what I can in whichever way I can, so I guess I am happy enough with that. I gotta go now but it was nice talking to you! whee It was nice talking to you too!
Alashuko The Fighter Well I think people should learn to get along. We don't need any of this crap about "inequality". From the stuff I've read- that kind of attitude protects the privilege that causes the inequity. If you can't name the problem and can't speak it- it doesn't get explored or solved.
Quote: Men back then were considered the best out of the species than women because they were able to throw the spear to pierce the heart of a mastadon while a woman couldn't. So men are strong. Now in the modern day world, women are way smarter than men and much more wiser. The women can over tower men with their knowledge of things about their mate. So women are smart. There are women that are strong and men that aren't- there are men that are smart and women that aren't and our society discourages this stuff.
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 5:24 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 7:18 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 8:48 pm
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2012 9:44 pm
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lilla muchi well in my own view i say treat others as you want to be treated and treat none less than yourself. I think that's excellent advice! It's a good rule of thumb for people to avoid cross marginalization- I mean, how can there be equal rights for some and not others? It kind of makes it not "equal" rights at all. LGBT and Allies should be working to end racism, sexism, ageism, anti-poly bias, etc.
Quote: i know its gone on for centuries but i think we all should have evolved past this. Evolution really only targets genetic stuff- this is all learned behaviors.
Quote: It's kinda sad that there are still people whom choose to treat others as less then themselves merely because of (gender, race, sexual orientation, religion, etc.) but it falls into ignorance and the way they were taught/ brought up. Yep- it's all about privilege structures and bias, but when you're marginalized sometimes being underprivileged in one area makes you more likely to misuse your privilege in other areas. And there are so many things in the "etc" field- I mean, relationship configurations, biological sex, education level- it seems like it never ends! What kinds of things have you found useful to help in your own struggle with privilege so you don't cross-marginalize other people?
I catch myself doing it now and then and I've been working mostly on body language- kind of following the idea that if you smile you'll be happy, if I control my body language with people who I have been socially trained to be "uncomfortable" with- I can usually turn it around into something more positive.
That doesn't help with the internet though- and so many forms of prejudice slip into posts on FB and Gaia that it's a real uphill battle trying to stand up for true equality. cat_sweatdrop
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