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its no one elses business who you tell or dont tell,if your happy the way you are,then you shouldnt need to tell your family unless you WANT to,most people either live in constant unhappiness due to the fact that they are hiding who they really are,and that would be a good reason to tell people,so that you can be who you are,or they tell,so they can at least not live a lie,but if your happy,its no one elses business.

Ya, I don't really share my preferences of men to my family. And just because I've never BEEN attracted to a woman before doesn't mean I think it could never happen. Does that make me bi? I'm not gona run up to my parents and tell them anyway. It might be different if you were hiding it or if your family was homophobic. My grandmother was extremely homophobic and after finding out one of my brother's is gay she eventually got over it. I guess if more people were open about it then people might be more understanding and not think of it as such a weird and unusual thing. Edit: like my dad for instance, thinks he can spot a gay by the way they act, just cause he has a gay son. Maybe most of the openly gays are feminine but that doesn't mean being feminine makes you gay or vice versa! And if more people he knew told him they were gay, he might get that through his head. But that's really not something you bring up in conversation lol.

One thing I also don't share with even some of my closest friends and my own family (I know this is probably weird) is religion. What I believe in is my own business, my parents never talked to me about religion never really forced anything on me. I was free to believe whatever I wanted. And if anyone straight out asked me I would tell them. Although I prefer to avoid that subject. I'm hesitant to let slip to most people that I'm an atheist because even though people have progressed a lot with acceptance of others. I get the feeling that people don't care what you call your god or how many gods you have, as long as you're afraid of God you are a good person. Like a person is automatically evil if they aren't afraid to go to hell. rolleyes

Sorry for going off topic on ya...

It's not anyone's business. If you want to tell someone, go ahead. If you just want to introduce them to your partner, that's good too. That's usually how I come out to strangers, if I feel it's necessary. smile

lol, i like the squiggle bit XD


my grandmother is anti gay because she says its agasint the bible so thats another reason i dont want to tell anyone but im not unhappy about it, she is entitled to read the bible how she wants, when i read it i get completly different answers.

@ gabby animalluver
reliion isnt really an open or closed subject in my family, we all believe what we want and let the rest believe what they want. if you dont believe in a god or anything thats fine, it doesnt make you any less of a person and anyone who thinks otherwise is crazy. and i hate the term god fearing, i see no reason why i should be afraid of someone who loves me

@ gabby shadowfire
thats why i dont believe the bible is the word of god comletley. as much as i would love to believe the bible can never be tainted human hands still wrote it, and humans as a whole and even the church are well known for changing the way things are worded to benefit themselves. if i have a question i pray to god, if i dont get an answer then i take that as god telling me ill find out later

Squiggle. *snort* I am straight but still talk about how hot girls and guys are with my friends!

Anyway, it is nobody's business unless you want it to be. So don't stress. It annoys me when people insist others "take a stand" about their sexuality. MAKE YOUR OWN STANDS, don't try and make others make them for you just so you feel more validated. Grrr.

I saw your comment about fearing God.
To fear God they don't mean to be afraid, the meaning of the word has changed since them.
By fear they really mean respect in laymans terms.

But anyway, you are who you are.
If they don't like it then tough cookies.
Be who you want to be and don't give a damn about others opinions.
If you are happy the way you are that is all that matters.

I know how you feel. I'm not bi, at least as far as I know. I'm happily married to a man, but certainly appreciate both the female and male forms.
But I get a lot of flak from the Pagan community because I haven't told my family. I don't tell most people unless they ask directly and religion is a no-conversation topic in my family. I live my life day to day, I'm happy, family's happy in their ignorance of my religious choices. And really it's no ones business but mine and the gods.