There are a number of things that I long ago (more than a decade) made up my mind I would never do. Here is a list of ones that I made regarding relationships… (This list may not be perfect, since this is really the first time I’ve actually tried to put this stuff into a list like this)
That I would never be an insincere friend, pretending to care more than I actually did. That I wouldn’t use anyone as a last-resort friend, only turning to them because no one else was available. That I would be friends at least a little bit with anyone who sincerely wanted to be friends with me.
[please note: “date” in the following section doesn’t refer to going on one single date, it means “dating” as in going out with repeatedly in an official relationship]
That I would never pretend to be interested in someone romantically if I really wasn’t. That I would never knowingly lead someone on to think I was interested in them if I wasn’t. That I would never date anyone just because no one else was available, or out of any other form of desperation. That I wouldn’t ever use anyone for a sort of “practice” relationship. That I would never, ever, use anyone as a “replacement”, to purposely get into a relationship with someone in order to use that to get over someone else. That I would never say I loved someone if I didn’t. (I have never been able to express as much as I feel, so I might not always say I love someone as much as I should say it… I might say it less than I feel it, but I’m not ever going to say it more than I feel it.) That I would never date someone I wasn’t attracted to, mentally and physically, or who I didn’t love for who they were as opposed to who I wished they were. That I wouldn’t date anyone who I didn’t believe was attracted to me as well, or who I believed didn’t really sincerely love me for myself. That I wouldn’t date anyone if I believed it had no chance of going anywhere. That I would never try to get someone to leave whoever they were with in order to go out with me instead. That I would never ever, ever, try to chase after someone who expressed that they did not have interest in me or otherwise wanted me to not pursue a relationship with them.
I have not broken any of those resolutions.
delbosque · Tue Aug 25, 2009 @ 08:25am · 1 Comments |