FearlessDictator
the flying penguin
The first link you posted sounds a lot like my ex and is partially why I broke up with him.
I'm not the person who posted that, I blame it on my coworker.
But I have to ask, What are people like that like?
I can go on a
very long rant on why he has lost my respect, but I am going to at least try to keep it short.
One thing you need to know about this guy is that he does not take criticism well.
He never took advice because he hated being told what to do and despised not being seen as the leader figure. He always had to be in control (he would also mention wanting more minions too, to do whatever he wanted no matter how stupid the idea). He would be extremely mopey and come to me with his problems saying how everyone is against him and that they all dislike him and that I need to comfort him. The thing is that he is the one who is always being disrespectful to others but then expects them to still be courteous to him regardless of how he treated them.
He would make it seem that he is always the victim in every situation even though he was the one to do wrong. He just wanted me to give him sympathy. He could be all happy and carefree one moment, but if I were to say that I need to go stay at my own place because I am very stressed with my work, he would all of a sudden change in his demeanor and now he is the one that is "stressed" and saying that I can't leave because he has to have me there to comfort him and that he has it a lot worse then I do. He would guilt trip me
all the time so that he could get his way. I can go into it a lot more in depth description on this aspect of him, but if you read #8, 7, and 6 on that list it describes him perfectly.
Actually all but number 2 fit him exactly. Well, maybe a little bit of 2 too >_>
He would also say things like "oh yea, I need to apologize for doing blah the other day, but I know that you wouldn't have a problem with that because you are such an awesome girlfriend and not like all those other kinds of women who complain..."
He seemed to have the mentality that so long as he said "I'm sorry" that I would dismiss everything he did and be okay with it. He didn't even
try to appear sincere anymore.
He would make a promise with me but then when he finds something he would rather do more, he would guilt trip me into letting him postpone or call off the promise all together to make him happy event though it ment a lot to me. Or he would say that I don't remember the promise very well and that it was really worded in a different way that all of a sudden is more convient to him.
In some ways I take small promises very seriously. My view is that if you are unable to keep a very small promise then how can I believe all of your future promises to me, not to mention the larger ones.
He admitted to me once that he was very selfish and even put himself first before me. This was hurtful because I have put my plans to the side in the past to be there for him and make him happy, but he wouldn't do the same for me.
There is a
ton more to his behavior that I won't get into, otherwise I would be here forever trying to explain.
He was just no longer fun to be around and used me all the time, not to mention made me become very depressed.