I'm gonna stop y'all right there. If people would keep their mouths shut about their opinions of a fat body, there would never have been a need for this. I think shaming of any kind is shitty and shouldn't be done, but the fact of the matter is skinny shaming came about because people think fat shaming is okay, and quite frankly, fat people are ******** sick of it.
"Don't just complain about it, do something about it!" "You can change it!" etc
Not always. For some people, being fat is just a part of their genetics. And no, it isn't always unhealthy. Just being fat raises the risks of some things, but if you look after yourself, you're going to be okay. I'm fat, and aside from some diseases I was born with, and one that led to my weight gain (it can't really be cured, only managed), I'm perfectly healthy. I eat right and exercise daily because simply put, it's good for me. It's good for anyone. If I have to be fat, I'm going to be ******** healthy.
But losing weight is just not something my body can do very well, even when I was trying to limit myself to under 300 calories a day (counting things like toothpaste and a vitamin, it was godawful) and trying to burn several times that, I was just getting really sick, and I wasn't losing weight at all. The only good thing that came out of it was that we found out I had insulin resistance, which is what made me gain weight and makes it so hard to lose it.
And to be perfectly honest, you shouldn't have to change your body by losing weight because SOMEONE ELSE is unhappy with it. Yes, I can change it, but a lot of people don't stop being assholes for me, so I don't see why I should have to lose weight for them.
Just because someone is fat, does not mean they are unhealthy and just because a person is skinny doesn't mean they are healthy. They are not the same thing. A fat person can be healthy just as much as a skinny person can be a junk food binging couch potato.
Obese also is not synonymous with fat. Obese is a medical condition where you become so fat and so unhealthy that you cannot function properly in your daily life. Just because someone is fat, does not mean they are obese.
Yes, skinny shaming sucks. And all you skinny people have probably been made fun of, and yes, you can hate your body. When I was skinny I was teased and people had some good jabs at me, and I hated my body. But you know what? Society didn't. Society as a whole didn't tell me my body was ugly and disgusting and something to be ashamed of.
Society put my skinny, 108lbs frame on a pedestal because it was the "ideal" body type. As a skinny person, when you're shamed, you can go home at the end of the day knowing your body is accepted as the norm. Fat people don't get that. They're made fun of all day, and then have to go home while society treats you like the plague.
No one's body type should be shamed, but "skinny shaming" was born out of fat shaming and a need to say "I'm still beautiful". Skinny shaming is a really shitty way to go about it, and I don't condone it because being shamed and made fun of feels like s**t, regardless of what it is, but there are reasons for it and they can't be ignored.
The true body positivity movement doesn't promote unhealthy lifestyles simply by saying "being fat is okay". "Being fat is okay" is NOT the same thing as "being unhealthy and eating yourself to death and never moving is okay". It's not the same thing.
The true body positivity movement is about loving yourself regardless of the skin you're in, promoting taking care of yourself and good self-esteem. It's about teaching people to love themselves as they are and teaching others to not be so goddamn ignorant and shitty and ending unrealistic body standards, and fatphobia (which yes, is very much a thing, as this thread is only evidence of).
But as with anything, some people get out of hand and miss the ******** point.
