Leolilac
Aislinn_Paige
MistressxLithia
Randi The Rogue
Never used a sex swing but I totally would. They look like a lot of fun.
However, even though I've made progress, as I am now, I'd still be a bit worried about my weight in one. I'm not quite comfortable in my skin yet and any non-standard sex position kinda pulls me out of the moment because I get too caught up in my head worrying about how I must look.
As for words like b***h and slut, it's all about context. I love when my Master calls me a slut during play. But if anyone who isn't Mästare calls me a slut or a b***h (joking around doesn't count) I will defend myself and it won't be nice.
The word is a hard limit for kitten due to her former 'master'. He was an abusive ******** who used the word to demean her whenever the mood struck him. We've run into him a number of times at gatherings, the last time we did I had to hold my boy back from beating the s**t out of him because he caught kitten away from us, we didn't know he was there, and he had her close to a panic attack. After the debacle we had in here with that Lune person sending kitten over the deep end so that she was cutting, we're even more protective of her than before.
i'm glad you guys are watching out for her. If her old master was abusive, why is he still allowed at gatherings in Your area? :/
Lots of BDSM communities have one hell of a problem when it comes to acknowledging abusers. It's so much easier for them to blame the victim. It's gross and completely unacceptable, but you see it everywhere.
it can be an issue. recently there was this
http://www.people.com/article/nebraska-man-forced-woman-into-slave-contract
and I sat reading and raging at it. Both for the woman and for what it is going to do to the community.
Unfortunately people outside of the BDSM world will see -that- as an example of what it is about.
Often it is that outsiders to a situation may see it as a "domestic" situation. I.E. a partner dispute...they may not realize it is abuse till too late.
But there are those that make a purpose of keeping people informed about -safe, sane, and consensual- and trying to educate people the difference between BDSM and -abuse-.
Sometimes it can be hard to differentiate without knowing the full situation.
Say, you see someone with bruises, you may believe it is abuse that the person is keeping silent. It may be the result of hard play. Or sparring.
Even if you see what you may believe is abuse, it may be something the two people have consented too. Some people get off on public humiliation. To those outside of it, it will look like abuse. To those involved it may be their form of "play".
That is what makes it hard for people.
That is also what makes it hard for authorities.
The best bets are being familiar with those you are around. That helps with noting the difference.
communication is
vital.
Unfortunately, it doesn't stop the crazies from getting everywhere
sad