I was on a plane recently and on the way to Texas I ended up explaining my collar to the man next to me, and on the way back home I ended up explaining poly to this other guy (because I was re-reading
The Ethical Slut, which is an amazing book by the way).
I have been told I tend to be very good at explaining things, because while I tend to be a bit blunt and sometimes rambly, I'm also honest and open about how things work and making sure if they have questions. It's finding a balance between talking a bit, getting feedback, asking if they want to know more or if they already know too much, then going on or stopping there, answering questions clarifying things etc. I've been told by those at the local dungeon I should be a spokesperson for BDSM and DD/lg.. I apparently do a good job explaining things while keeping in mind people have questions, concerns, and limits to what they hope to hear.
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As for mainstream media, I know a few DD/lg songs, as well as a couple kink songs.
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I personally, and I mean no offense, dislike people in the media using the lifestyle for shock value and attention in negative light.
It's one thing to advocate getting word out there in
a positive and healthy way for the community, it's another to make everyone
look ill or have something wrong that makes us this way, or that we're evil and twisted because of it.