Suicidal Dustbunny
I'm very sorry for your friends and your loss.
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It can be very difficult when someone close to us dies, and your feelings of confusion and grief are to be expected. It's perfectly okay for you to have emotions about this, don't feel like you have to bottle anything up, if you need to let it out, do.
As for your friend, she's probably going through a very difficult time right now, and needs you to be there. But don't be upset if she seems withdrawn or uninterested in doing anything with you. Many people who lose a loved one become slightly withdrawn from others, it doesn't mean you've done something wrong, but expect her to be a little distant for a while.
If possible, I suggest doing some nice things for her. People in mourning often forget to look after themselves. Here are some examples of what you could do;
Offer to cook her a nice meal, this way you make sure she's getting good nutrition and isn't forgetting to eat.
Maybe run some errands for her, and make sure she's not falling behind on anything.
Offer to come over and watch a movie / play games with her? Let her know that you're here for her if she needs anything.
Don't be too upset if she rejects these offers though, as I said, sometimes people become withdrawn and don't want others around them after a large loss. This is to be expected, but do let her know that you're here for her when she's ready to talk.
Thank-you, I'm also struggling because a good years back, while I was a little kid, I had another friend, who lost her dad to cancer, I tried my best to help her, her dad was looking forward to dying, Not to escape but he was a man of faith so he was looking forward to where he was going and that. But in the end my friend moved away, She was like a sister to me too, we were home schooled and her mom took me on as well when my mom was struggling because of what grade I was in. But we were really close, and when they moved No one explained why, I thought it was something I did, or didn't do, I've only talked to her twice since then, and it was hard to connect, I have a fear of that happening with this friend now...
As for helping my friend with loosing her mom, she's staying ad family's now, and my family has offered our home to her and her sister as well. Their not staying at their own home, and I'm sure where their staying, the people'll make sure they eat ant that... I've told her she can call or text me at any time if she needs to talk, and I'll be here for her. I might offer to bring a board game she likes, next time we see her...