Clover de Bellum
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- Posted: Wed, 18 Apr 2012 01:46:17 +0000
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Okay... Some of this will be personal experience, and some of it will be just how I feel. I'm Chinese and can very much relate to your parents' are treating you.
For one, you're 16. No, I'm not saying that you can't feel real love at that age, but you are still under your parents' roof. No matter how stupid their views are, they are your parents and there are limits to what you can do.
Have you actually met him IRL? Like... Went out with a few of your friends to meet him? From what I've read about other peoples' relationships, it's very possible to feel like you're in love online, and can possibly flip 180 after the first RL meeting. Possibly, but not every relationship.
As for race, honestly, it's just going to take time. I've been dating my bf since I was 18 and I met him online (I'm now 21, he's turning 25). I can't say my parents were welcoming him at first since he wasn't Chinese (he's Filipino). A year or two ago they'd still push me to marry a Chinese dude, but I know as well as you know that parents can't make their kids choose someone they approve of. What to do? Wait until you're 18. Introduce your boyfriend as a friend. Let them get to know him little by little. Don't push it. Telling your parents now will just get your parents to hate him automatically. Gladly you already know the 'meeting him online' thing is bad.
Hating him... They hate what you guys talked about, not necessarily him. Quick to judge, but you never have to say they're the same person.
No matter how much you think you're ready to tell your parents, don't do it. Not now. Wait until you're in college and have a valid reason for meeting someone 4 hours away from you. No matter what you say, you're young and you're jumping into telling your parents this too early. Trust me, even if your mom 'wants to know' about the guys in your life, you're better off not telling. I've been in that situation and it only led to my mother yelling at me more... Lol.
I didn't read anything besides the first post... So yeah 8D;
For one, you're 16. No, I'm not saying that you can't feel real love at that age, but you are still under your parents' roof. No matter how stupid their views are, they are your parents and there are limits to what you can do.
Have you actually met him IRL? Like... Went out with a few of your friends to meet him? From what I've read about other peoples' relationships, it's very possible to feel like you're in love online, and can possibly flip 180 after the first RL meeting. Possibly, but not every relationship.
As for race, honestly, it's just going to take time. I've been dating my bf since I was 18 and I met him online (I'm now 21, he's turning 25). I can't say my parents were welcoming him at first since he wasn't Chinese (he's Filipino). A year or two ago they'd still push me to marry a Chinese dude, but I know as well as you know that parents can't make their kids choose someone they approve of. What to do? Wait until you're 18. Introduce your boyfriend as a friend. Let them get to know him little by little. Don't push it. Telling your parents now will just get your parents to hate him automatically. Gladly you already know the 'meeting him online' thing is bad.
Hating him... They hate what you guys talked about, not necessarily him. Quick to judge, but you never have to say they're the same person.
No matter how much you think you're ready to tell your parents, don't do it. Not now. Wait until you're in college and have a valid reason for meeting someone 4 hours away from you. No matter what you say, you're young and you're jumping into telling your parents this too early. Trust me, even if your mom 'wants to know' about the guys in your life, you're better off not telling. I've been in that situation and it only led to my mother yelling at me more... Lol.
I didn't read anything besides the first post... So yeah 8D;
✖ ✖ ✖ Yup, I've met him twice in real life, both times with friends and we have had few hours each time alone together (nothing at the slightest inappropriate happened), and I have also met his entire family - mom, dad, brother, sister. And his two cats XD. Our feelings for each other grew even more after we got to know each other even more. so I know I'm not confused with my feelings, which is good considering I'm confused on what to do about everything else haha.
Well, I think even if I don't say they will know...they got his first and last name from his ID on skype and his name is spelled so uniquely I doubt they will forget when they come upon it again. So, okay, don't tell until I'm at least 18 XD advice understood. Thanks ^^ ✖ ✖ ✖
Well, I think even if I don't say they will know...they got his first and last name from his ID on skype and his name is spelled so uniquely I doubt they will forget when they come upon it again. So, okay, don't tell until I'm at least 18 XD advice understood. Thanks ^^ ✖ ✖ ✖