I wonder how I would've turned out had I been born to someone who'd actually wanted me.
My birth mother did drugs (not marijuana) & I'm told when I was born I was unresponsive, & they thought I was blind 'cause my eyes wouldn't focus or follow movement. They tell me I just snapped out of it one day & started reacting to things like normal; the woman who adopted me says it was a miracle, heh. My kidneys were ******** up too, had to have surgery to fix 'em. That I do remember, unpleasant s**t.
I think the heavier s**t has a higher chance of just killing you outright, but weed & alcohol are both depressants. It won't show in a newborn, but once they start to develop, fetal alcohol syndrome kids have pretty distinct features:
And they develop slower. They're much slower at picking up/retaining information.
That baby might appear to be "fine" right now, but it's developmentally ********.