Nick Madison 1978
He is having a difficult time in the second grade, and he is in the danger of having to repeat the grade. The issue is him doing his homework, he apparently hit his English homework book so he did not have to do it and he is behind. His mother and I are divorced and here are some issues that I have had with her and I feel she is contributing to the issues.
It is a struggle to get my son to do his homework and he gets mouthy. When he gets rude, or uses profanity I put pot sauce in his mouth. I have used the belt on him. When my ex found out she contacted CPS and they told me that hot sauce and using the belt was unacceptable punishment. But I am on my last straw. Basically if I discipline my son this way they can take him from me. He is also being influenced by an older boy(16) to disobey me he is also influencing two other kids. 8 and 9.
My son just got a DS system for his 8th birthday and I put the power on full waiting for the power to run out because that is one thing that distracts him.
He is way behind and I have set up a schedule for him. Where he comes home from school and does his homework to catch up until his bedtime He is two weeks behind, On weekends I want him to eat breakfast, and then do his work until lunch, then eat his lunch and do more homework and then eat supper and do homework until his bedtime. But my wife and I are disagreeing on this. She said that he needs a break, and I am making him work on homework basically for three to five hours straight, basically his own fault. It took two weeks for me to find his English workbook and he is two weks behind. Curently doing the work he was to do on April 19th. The issue is when I try to discipline him as I see fit my ex called CPS and they told me I cannot use my methods of discipline.
Where do I begin?
First: Corporal punishment has been shown to have detrimental effects to a childs physical and mental well being. You are not disciplining, you are abusing. Using the belt...what an archaic form of physical abuse. Shame on you.
I'm a teacher at an elementary school. You are most definitely being to hard on him. Children do not respond to constant work. They need breaks or they will not absorb information. Do you ever wonder why he might be hiding his books? Is he not understanding the material? You say that he gets distracted...but maybe he's not understanding, and he is getting discouraged. You and your ex need to be involved, talk to the teachers, ask what you can do to help him. Shoving him in front of books, beating the snot out of him, and putting hot sauce in his mouth are NOT going to help, and you should be ashamed. He is 8, not 20, and should be allowed to make mistakes. You should be guiding him, and I hope they take your kid away if you are leaving marks. There are other, proven methods of discipline that work better than what you are doing. You shouldn't want your son to fear you....because then he will rebel.
Limit TV time and DS time to an hour a day, give him a half hour break for every hour of work, and be a PARENT, not a drill Sargent.
Why do you think he's going to the 16 year old? His fathers abusing him and he's looking for a male who he can trust. This is a crucial time for a boy. He can't trust you, I wouldn't, and you seriously need to think about the consequences that your actions are having on the boy.
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