Shaqueefalot
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- Posted: Tue, 11 Nov 2014 06:16:40 +0000
This thread was posted in General Discussion but that was definitely a mistake if i wanted a genuine discussion on such a hot topic.
This thread isn't to say that cultural appropriation isn't a thing but there's a lot of things that people seem to not understand when it comes to the difference between White gay male culture and Black female culture that kind of irk me.
This is a topic (mostly the whole cultural appropriation and white people bit) that i've been pretty unsettled about.Now i don't mean to start any heated arguments, although i know it might end there by how i'm trying to go about this. i'm also not trying to say who suffers more in society, obviously people who are a racial minority suffer but i won't say worse than other minorities only because it's circumstantial and subjective.
This whole idea about black female culture being "stolen" by white gay men started, for me, when this U of Mississippi senior Sierra Mannie wrote "Dear White Gay Men...". i took the liberty of highlighting some points she makes that i think are completely wrong and i will explain why, but first i will say she is completely correct when she says it is wrong for a white gay man to throw out any stereotypical "black" phrases or just really anything that can perpetuate a negative idea about black women or just black people in general.
"..you do not get to claim either blackness or womanhood."
"But here’s the shade."
"while you’re gasping at the heat and the steam of the strong truth tea I just spilled."
"if you are a white male, gay or not, you retain so much privilege."
"(You know what I’m talking about. Those “anonymous” torsos on Grindr, Jack’d and Adam4Adam show very familiar heterosexual faces to the public.)"
"So, you aren’t a strong black woman, or a ghetto girl"
First i just want to start this off by saying YOU do not own womanhood; you do not own femininity and saying so is sexist, homophobic and transphobic. Now that i've gotten that off my chest there are a few more things she touches on that are a bit offensive and hypocritical.
"Shade" is a phrase that started along with the ballroom scene in Harlem, gay men, not just black gay men (but yes a highly population of gay men of color) used this phrase as a way to reiterate the power of a "read".
Telling us that we can hide our sexuality to "fit in" is another way of enforcing the taboo of sexuality on the public and instills a sort of shame on the gay community. it's basically saying "you're not normal, but you can act normal and pretend to be normal."
You also don't own the phrase "ghetto girl" nor are you allowed to label anyone with that identity because no race or gender owns that phrase, GURL.
Also, "truth tea" is a pretty silly way to just say "t" which is widely used in the gay community to emphasis the "truth" we just spilled as a double entendre. Yeah cultural appropriation hurts, especially when you do it in an article in Times magazine.
Really good read, a reply to "Dear White Gay Men..."
tl;dr
"Gay men do not experience patriarchal power or white privilege in the same way gender normative white men do." - Anthony Michael Dagostino
also, can it with the ******** "you can't talk about race, you're white" s**t. This is about White gay men (me) and Black female culture.
This thread isn't to say that cultural appropriation isn't a thing but there's a lot of things that people seem to not understand when it comes to the difference between White gay male culture and Black female culture that kind of irk me.
This is a topic (mostly the whole cultural appropriation and white people bit) that i've been pretty unsettled about.Now i don't mean to start any heated arguments, although i know it might end there by how i'm trying to go about this. i'm also not trying to say who suffers more in society, obviously people who are a racial minority suffer but i won't say worse than other minorities only because it's circumstantial and subjective.
This whole idea about black female culture being "stolen" by white gay men started, for me, when this U of Mississippi senior Sierra Mannie wrote "Dear White Gay Men...". i took the liberty of highlighting some points she makes that i think are completely wrong and i will explain why, but first i will say she is completely correct when she says it is wrong for a white gay man to throw out any stereotypical "black" phrases or just really anything that can perpetuate a negative idea about black women or just black people in general.
"..you do not get to claim either blackness or womanhood."
"But here’s the shade."
"while you’re gasping at the heat and the steam of the strong truth tea I just spilled."
"if you are a white male, gay or not, you retain so much privilege."
"(You know what I’m talking about. Those “anonymous” torsos on Grindr, Jack’d and Adam4Adam show very familiar heterosexual faces to the public.)"
"So, you aren’t a strong black woman, or a ghetto girl"
First i just want to start this off by saying YOU do not own womanhood; you do not own femininity and saying so is sexist, homophobic and transphobic. Now that i've gotten that off my chest there are a few more things she touches on that are a bit offensive and hypocritical.
"Shade" is a phrase that started along with the ballroom scene in Harlem, gay men, not just black gay men (but yes a highly population of gay men of color) used this phrase as a way to reiterate the power of a "read".
Telling us that we can hide our sexuality to "fit in" is another way of enforcing the taboo of sexuality on the public and instills a sort of shame on the gay community. it's basically saying "you're not normal, but you can act normal and pretend to be normal."
You also don't own the phrase "ghetto girl" nor are you allowed to label anyone with that identity because no race or gender owns that phrase, GURL.
Also, "truth tea" is a pretty silly way to just say "t" which is widely used in the gay community to emphasis the "truth" we just spilled as a double entendre. Yeah cultural appropriation hurts, especially when you do it in an article in Times magazine.
Really good read, a reply to "Dear White Gay Men..."
tl;dr
"Gay men do not experience patriarchal power or white privilege in the same way gender normative white men do." - Anthony Michael Dagostino
also, can it with the ******** "you can't talk about race, you're white" s**t. This is about White gay men (me) and Black female culture.