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It's such a crock of shite.
My son has been terribly bullied his entire elementary school career and each year those same bullies put on their anti-bullying shirts and pretend to care and promise to be better to each other and those same teachers and staff who did nothing to help my son prance around pretending that their school is the safe space they promise it to be or that they give a s**t. They don't. The next day those same bullies are back at it and the same day those same staff are turning the other way while my son is slapped, shoved around, stabbed with pencils and so forth. The whole thing is a ridiculous circle jerk of hypocrisy.
Read my post.
teach your son how to deal with it. If the bullies are getting physical with him, teach him to stand up for himself. He might get a s**t kicking, but it'll make him a better person later in life.
Besides, a few hard knocks are good for a boy.
You need to teach him, don't count on anyone else, he's YOUR son. Teach him, give him the tools. Make his adversity the stone and give him the chisel. Let him carve out his own identity, and teach him to be proud of that.
Just telling him you love him and that those naughty boys at school can't see what a "sweet sensitive caring boy" he is and that they're "just jealous" or whatever you do, ain't helping your boy.
Get him involved in sports. Seriously, any sport. Bribe him with whatever he wants to just stick with it for a season. Get him into body building or working out. Give him an outlet and real *advice* instead of soppy sentimentality. No offense, he's your son not mine, but this is a thread on bullying and this is how I think it should be dealt with.
I'm not insulting your abilities as a mother, so please don't think that.
For the record, I'm pro-bullying, for reasons outlined in my previous post everyone ignored.
Being abused is not character building. It's abuse. You might survive it, but to suggest that elementary schoolers can benefit from being hurt and threatened is ridiculous. That attitude is exactly how we end up with bullied kids either lashing out like Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold did or taking it out on themselves and becoming the next Amanda Todd, Phoebe Prince or even Montana Lance who committed suicide at just nine years old because he was bullied so badly.
Beyond that you have no idea what I tell my son or how I deal with it. And to be frank, what I'm doing with him is far better than whatever your parents did for you because he's more mature, open-minded, caring, forgiving and inclusive at barely 10 than you are. Maybe if your parents had dealt with your childhood bullying with more empathy you wouldn't think that forcing 9 and 10 year olds into body-building and fist-fights is the answer to bullying.
And that mentality is exactly why your son is growing up with shame, and my father and his father and his father and myself are not.
You think bullying is new? You think kids being jackasses is NEW? No, it's your approach to the "problem" that is new.
How dare you make reference to Columbine as if it supports your position. They were cowards who lived a life of shame because, duh da da dahhhh, no one gave them the tools to overcome the adversity they faced, and because people like you gave them the impression they were happy little snowflakes.
I personally knew Amanda Todd, and I'm glad she's dead. She wasn't a good person, in fact she did everything possible to be the worst person she could be.
She attacked her mother on numerous occasions, she slept with another girl's boyfriend and when they beat her up for it she went home and drank bleach.
But,
You can't stop bullying. Being aware of it will change nothing, How many people are unaware of bullying, by a show of hands?
You can''t change or stop predatory behavior you can only give children the tools to rise above it.
Your mentality is exactly why your son is ashamed of himself, and exactly why his self-esteem is suffering.
Just based on your first 2 sentences, it's easy to surmise that simple fact.
*edit*
I never said that you should force him to do *anything* but the traits you listed aren't helping him stand up for himself ARE THEY?!
I'm guessing you're a single mother. Good job, you've raised another coward.
Okay, I was gonna respond politely, but you have crossed the ******** line.
First off, you don't
EVER wish death on someone, unless they have killed another person.
Second, Oh, I'm so ******** sorry, I didn't know kids were all perfect models able to fight back against bullying. Not everyone is strong enough, physically or mentally, no matter the ******** tools. What if the mother found out after he had developed self esteem issues that he was being bullied? Don't you
DARE try and tell me he could just get over it, because
that's not how s**t works. I had no idea I was even being bullied for years because the school I went to talked about it, but only covered physical bullying. They found ways to take advantage of me and get into my skin and convince me I was a useless, annoying piece of s**t. Once damage is done to self esteem it's really ******** hard to reverse it, and it can develop into later problems. Calling someone you don't even ******** know their name of a coward is god damn ridiculous. If anything, he's anything but a damn coward. Suicide is not selfish nor cowardly, either.
You claim that not standing up to bullies makes you cowardly and weak, yet those who do develop problems from these shitbirds can become the strongest ******** people you'll ever know later in life, and in many cases, this teaches them many more lessons than you'd learn from punching shitbird in the jaw and telling them to ******** off. Not everyone can be like you, shrugging what could have been a key to introducing bad problems for one person, but some simple words to you.
Not everyone can be as strong as you are. Humans are all different.
And honestly? Being happy someone killed themselves? Calling others cowards? Making assumptions and degrading them for how they chose to live and raise their child, without even knowing what she's telling her son to do to combat it? It sounds an awful lot like to me like YOU'RE the bully.
Cry me a river you coward. Stop making excuses. Everyone can be strong of character, don't make excuses for people of weak personal character.
I'm not talking about disemboweling your opponent, I'm not talking about valorous combat, I'm not talking about crushing your enemies.
The mind is stronger than the body, and the mind has no limits. You are the sum total of what you put into yourself.
So don't make excuses because it is as simple as that.
Arnold Schwarzenegger's 6 simple rules are a great place to start. Think about what HE accomplished living those very basic rules
The more excuses you make for yourself and other people the more you make yourself a victim. Stop acting like you don't have power over yourself.
AND MORE ******** OVER, IF A PERSON FEELS THEY'RE NOT AS STRONG AS ME AS YOU SAY, AND THEY CAN'T BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES THEY DON'T HAVE TO THEY CAN BELIEVE IN ME WHO BELIEVES IN THEM.
Let that message set in to everyone in this thread who is a victim. I am "strong" and you "aren't" apparently.
If I am strong and I believe in you, why can't you believe in yourselves? Hmm? Think about it.
I'm not a coward anymore; I may have been at the time but I'm dealing with my problems now, and will deal with any problems that come my way.
What I meant was, some people weren't brought up believing in themselves. If you tell a 5 year old enough times that they're worthless, they're going to believe it, most likely. Some peoples parents weren't around enough or didn't give a s**t enough about their kids to teach them they can be strong and how to be strong when they needed it, and since parents are a gigantic key to a child's growth, that can be detrimental.
I can't explain it very well, usually when people are susceptible to getting hurt by shitbirds, they haven't had any prior experience with them, so because of that, they don't know how to deal with it. At least that's what I've observed.
You can't just will away problems magically, especially psychological issues. If I could just snap my fingers and all my problems were okay, I'd be the most chill person on the earth right now.
Once a psychological problem sets in, it's very hard to get out. Yes, I agree, don't let that s**t get to you.
I never said anyone wasn't strong here. Self esteem issues/Anxiety is basically you hating yourself, right? Every time you do something, you beat yourself up over it. Yes, a person can stop this on their own, do they know HOW to stop it all the time? No. Self esteem issues usually morph into Anxiety, which is a mental illness. Some people have to learn how to combat it, much like kids need to learn to fight back against their shitbird.
The answer to "If I am strong and I believe in you, why cant you believe in yourselves?" Is hard to put into words but I shall try: Friends can really really help people with Anxiety and the like, but a lot of the times,
they don't believe you believe in them.They think they're a burden to others, and doesn't want to bother them, which is basically them setting up their big glaring brick wall into fixing their issue.
No, I didn't mean some kids can't be as strong as others fresh out the v****a, I'm sorry if it came off that way. Yes, everyone can deal with their problems and it's ultimately up to them. But, it is not always their fault if things get to them, and sometimes they need help with dealing with issues before it morphs into them not being able to themselves at all.
