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I helped my friend move out of her mother's house today.
They told her that they would help her, they would pay for her car, for college, they would help her, but only if she dumped her boyfriend. She chose him over her family, probably the biggest decision she has ever made in her life.

I've met him a few times, and I talked with him a bit today. He seems like a really nice guy. I was worried, when she said that she was moving in with him, maybe because I'm still a little old fashioned in someways, but I think they'll be okay. The last thing he said to me was "I'll invite you to the wedding." and I think he was serious. I hope he is. She gave up everything for him.

Now, her mother is a bit of a psycho, there's no denying it. She over reacts to every little thing. I know my friend, and I know to take whatever she says with a grain of salt, but I believe her when she says her mother grounded her for getting a little toothepaste on her dress. Anyway, her mother was worried because she thought that my friend's boyfriend could be the abusive type. My friend is an adult, and her mother went too far, trying to tell her who she could and could not date. No doubt about it, her mother was in the wrong. But the woman has been through two abusive relationships, and I'm going to remember her warning.

Still, I told her that it was going to be okay, that this was an end, but also a beginning. The first day of the rest of her life. I told her that she would be fine, that it really looks like he loves her, and that they will do just fine together.

If that boy makes a liar out of me, I swear to God, and on every good thing in this universe, I will find him, and I will hurt him. If he ever hurts her, I will make sure that he knows her pain twice over.

I know to take my friend's words with a grain of salt, and I'll admit, he doesn't seem to be the type. He is very charming, but aren't they all? I will NOT be sucked into that trap. I will believe her, if she says that he is abusing her. When it comes to her word against his, I will ALWAYS take hers. And then that's it. I take her away from him, and then I will hunt him down.

I hope that it doesn't happen like that.
I hope that they will be happy together.
But I will watch him.

My prayer to God this night will be that I never relax, that I never forget to watch for the signs. Because if it happens, and I don't realize it in time, I will never forgive myself. And I will never forgive him.