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yuh i figure i should put this down somewhere, so i can refrence it later.

So curtis and I got married last year in oklahoma, and s**t went from bad to even more bad. We moved back to california, which i am a native of, he's from alabama. things were okay and then they got bad which eventually led to him leaving me, januaray 12, 2006. He went back to alabama.

He told me to think of it like a vacation, he'd go there, get a job and that way we'd still have money so i could find us a place. My end of the deal is i work and go to school and find us a place in california. sounds good right?

well his family hates me.

he got onto the gray hound bus the 12th of januaray and arrived in alabama on the 15th. he didnt call me. so i called him and no one answered.
i just found out yesterday that his family has blocked any phone calls i make to his area. from my area code. i mailed him a letter telling him that i found us a place but i don't know if he will get it. I dont know if he got the messages i left for him.

I called the bank yesterday, he tried to close down the bank account.
well actually he put in a change of address at the bank so he could get the bank statements, it was fine with me i told him to do that, and then he took the money that was in there and closed down the account. it doesnt add up, so i opened the account again, anyways it went negitive before it could be closed.
the bank would have told him that and he knows i check the account all the time. Hopefully, he did it hoping i would open it again after i found out.
remember he got there the 15th he did this on the 17th.

makes no sense. his family i assumed played more than a little role in all of this.

so i called his aunt, she said "Curtis is where he belongs now, home with us. Don't call here again." and i told her i called just to talk to someone, haha. reasons behind me calling was actually to find out the mind state of people there. i dont understand the south. So i continued to talk to her and she said the family has no idea what is going on between curtis and i and that he is okay and they dont care what is going on all they want is for curtis to be there and be with them.

he's 21, turning 22, married, and they want him to be there, and not out with his wife making a life for himself.

on top of that he cannot drive, so someone had to give him a ride to the bank.

i don't want to divorce him. i'm not going to. I'm going to hold to my end, getting us a place, saving money and finishing up school.

i graduate in march. i figure after i graduate since i will have enough time between graduation and my state board test date i'll be able to go see him, since they've cut any communcation i can have with him.

but then since he is easily suaded by his family i worry that i might get a divorce paper in the mail. well he has no money to pay for one, so if his family does it and i get the paper, i'm going there. I plan on going into the court room, or meeting with the judge and my husband and talking to him to find out where he is at on all of this and i will tell the judge of everything we've been through and ask if we can do marriage counsling before settling on being apart forever.

why alabama you ask? well that's the only place that he knows people. and its his family. they hate me cuz im from california.

so i don't know. but i'm just going to do my part and see what happens.