Cliques.
The very word may sometimes send some into a rant about how they're against cliques, and have never been in one.
However, if you look hard enough, almost everyone has.
The anti-cliques often turn into cliques themselves, I have noticed. Its like people who scorn trends, and blindly follow the 'anti-trend', claiming that they are different and original. But they're not; following the anti-trend is the same as following the trend.
Why can't people just enjoy what they enjoy, regardless of whether its popular or 'mainstream' or not?
But back to cliques.
In my oppinion, cliques have levels, or 'layers'. I have illustrated this with my very scientific diagram:
The black signifies the 'core members', who do all the planning of social events, accepting of new members, and laying down the often subconscious rules that all clique members must follow.
The dark blue signifies the main members, who attend all the social events and follow the core members. They have been with the clique for a long time.
The light blue are the people on the outside who either are: -new members OR -people who are accepted and attend social events every once and awhile, but either have other people who they hang out with or they just don't feel like getting into the 'cliquing' experience.
As you can see, this 'cliquing' buisness can get quite complicated. And the funny thing is, half the time, people don't realize they are in the cliques until they've been in them for ages! It has happened to me. It can happen to you.
So this is my warning to everyone: Be on the lookout for hidden cliques!
They can suck you right in, and spit you back out. They can make you feel worthless and unloved. They can make you dependant on being included, when you should also learn to be able to appreciate solitude.
Hanging out with them is fine, if you know what your doing. Cliques are groups that should be handled with care; if you aren't careful, you may get burnt. So this is my awareness message, to just watch out.
Kay?
Kay.
strawberry jelly · Sat Apr 09, 2005 @ 04:57pm · 6 Comments |