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 Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 8:57 pm
I'm naturally a shy girl who stays home a lot because I enjoy the things I do at home, like, reading or drawing, and the internet.
But lately, I've been feeling like I really need to go out and do more things. You know, get to know new people, better hone my social skills.
Outside of school and those friends I met at school, I only have two people that I see or even hang out with.
I really think it would be good for me to go out more. However, there are things that hinder me, like, I don't drive yet, I don't have a job, I don't always want to do the things my friends like doing.
So, does anyone else feel the same as me?
Do you need to be more outgoing?
Are you shy?
What factors prevent you from going out?
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Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 9:24 pm
I was once like that. Still kind of am, because I do still love reading, the internet, sleeping, and even drawing. I love my alone time and work wears me out.
I definitely think that once you hit a certain age, where your friends or you have a car, it's a lot easier to be more outgoing. Ask your friends, even if it's just those 2 that you hang out with(I can relate, I'm very busy so I really just hang out with a couple different people), to go to the movies or to get a bite to eat. Then once you get a job it'll be a lot easier because you'll meet more interesting people. I personally found school to be the worst place to make friends.
If you don't like doing what your friends like doing: food is always a good start. 3nodding
My friends and I could spend hours in a restaurant just chatting, laughing, and eating. Good times.
When I was younger, it was shyness, lack of transportation, and being too lazy to be social that prevented me from going out.
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Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 9:32 pm
Yeah. I think in the coming year I'll be a lot more out going. I'll have a car and hopefully a job, and then I will graduate high school and go off to college.
College will probably be awesome as far as meeting new people and being social. I can't wait.
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Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 10:12 pm
I got no cash, i can't drive, and therefor I can't go out.
Which bombs, because I want to do so much.
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Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 11:33 pm
Social lives aren't all they're cracked up to be. They contain drama, which most of the time isn't worth it. The more people you know, the more people you know who can hurt you.
But that's just me being bitter.
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2007 2:58 am
Most of my friends, I met at school smile And currently its the summer and I'm being quite the social recluse, I just can't really think of what to do you know? ^^;;
Alas, I know that when results come out I'll see them LOADS smile So I'm not too worried, so long as you do have some friends, theres nothing wrong with being on your own some of the time, I just find in the holidays it becomes more obvious that I don't really go out with friends really often. But I don't let it bother me smile
In Oct I'm off to uni! So I think my social life is gonna be pretty radically changed when I get there ya know? For now I'm appriciating the calm before the storm smile
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2007 8:32 am
College killed my social life.
I've met good friends there, but my true friends I had in highschool and still hang out with.
I had a fan club, according to my friend/ex-roomate... but I was still a recluse... so I don't know how that worked exactly.
I did have a semi-stalker, though.
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2007 11:28 am
I don't need to be more outgoing, anymore and I'd be a stunt man. domokun
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 7:35 am
People tell me I need to stop being so queit and need to be more outgoing. But I'm just not wired that way and there's no need to change this late in my life...at 22.... talk2hand
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 7:42 pm
Headhunter People tell me I need to stop being so queit and need to be more outgoing. But I'm just not wired that way and there's no need to change this late in my life...at 22.... talk2hand
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 8:59 pm
The Dread Pirate Ghosty Headhunter People tell me I need to stop being so queit and need to be more outgoing. But I'm just not wired that way and there's no need to change this late in my life...at 22.... talk2hand Ain't that the truth.
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Posted: Wed Aug 01, 2007 10:46 am
i can be pretty outgoing at times.
its weird....ill either take the reigns at social events or ill kick back off to the side and enjoy the whole of it.
XP
my biggest (and right now only problem i think) problem would be my own self esteem.
i think ive botched up two potential relationships because i cant help but point out my shortcomings in sarcastic jokes. self deprecation can be a pain in the a**.
XP
i do it unconciously too. stare
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Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 1:29 pm
pawntakesknight i can be pretty outgoing at times. its weird....ill either take the reigns at social events or ill kick back off to the side and enjoy the whole of it. XP my biggest (and right now only problem i think) problem would be my own self esteem. i think ive botched up two potential relationships because i cant help but point out my shortcomings in sarcastic jokes. self deprecation can be a pain in the a**. XP i do it unconciously too. stare Oh god, me too. I do the same things. People tend to get irritated by it and then they don't want to be around me.
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Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 5:05 pm
C r i p t i k a pawntakesknight i can be pretty outgoing at times. its weird....ill either take the reigns at social events or ill kick back off to the side and enjoy the whole of it. XP my biggest (and right now only problem i think) problem would be my own self esteem. i think ive botched up two potential relationships because i cant help but point out my shortcomings in sarcastic jokes. self deprecation can be a pain in the a**. XP i do it unconciously too. stare Oh god, me too. I do the same things. People tend to get irritated by it and then they don't want to be around me.
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Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 2:16 pm
((Oof! Haven't been here in a very long time!))
Yeah, I'm very similar. When I'm with my friends I'm usually able to get up and say something, but if I'm with anyone else I'm very reserved and really wait to be talked to. I didn't get out much either...cause well... there just wasn't anything to do.
But in the past year, since I live close to a more urban area, I've been walking a lot to see movies and getting stuff at le mall. Getting lunch at the little locally run for 30 years Sub and Pizzaria. Heh, I'd have to say half the fun though is listening to my music in le music player device as I walk. I couldn't stand walking for 30 minutes without any music or radio.
But I don't know if you've got places within walking distance. sweatdrop That's kind of the key for the thing I do.
Oh, one thing about shyness though... buy a microphone, play on a game that has voice chat, and just yell out everything you say. It lets out so much stress, everyone online things your hilarious, and over time you get a little bit more comfortable with letting out those crazy urges to jump into a conversation.
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