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 Posted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 1:35 pm
This isn’t really a life issues thing.. but I need to let off steam so badly. And I always find it easier talking to people on the internet who I don’t know.
Suggestions and advice is helpful.. But as I said, it’s not really life issues.
My dad and his girlfriend ALMOST used me as a punch bag. I stood up for myself, and my mum, and they didn't like that. They shouted, they screamed, all because my mum filled out some pathetic passport form out wrong. They couldn't take it out on my mum, so they took it out on me. They called my mum some of the worst names I could take. So I shouted back. My dad doesn't know me, he's missed out on so much. That's what my mum also says. He thought I was being 'cheeky' and I should 'keep quiet'. The person I dislike most in the school probably knows more about me than he does. He doesn't even know my favourite type of music. I admit, I am jealous. I am jealous of every person out there that has a relationship with their dad. I cry just thinking about it.
My mum found this out, and she text my dad. Something she shouldn't of done, because it made things worse. Mum said there's no point even saying I have a father, or a brother. She says sometimes it feels like I only bother to go to my dads house because of my brother and my dog.
My dads girlfriend talked to me after this, and she made out that she was innocent, she did no wrong, and I was the bad person, making their lives misery. It's not my fault I have the parents I have, but I suppose this is just the way it goes.
After 12 years of being seperated, the divorce is finally coming through in a few weeks. I still hope sometimes that my mum and dad will get back together and everything will be happy familys.
I dislike talking about it, it makes me feel uncomfortable, and makes me want to breakdown. I push it into the back of my mind. I prefer it. So many people confront me about their family, telling me about how much they hate their parents because they got grounded, or they never get their own way. My dad can't even ground me. And then they ask me about mine. I can't even tell them what job my dad has. I don't even know.
I’ve tried talking to my dad, and sitting down with him. But every time I do so, he shakes it all off and pretends to listen. I make out to my friends that we have an almost-normal relationship, by saying I give him silent treatment because he annoys me, but that’s not it. We just don’t talk. I hate that.
I'm not doing this for attention, or asking for special treatment, I know plenty of other people in this world are in the same situation as me, or don't even know their dads. I know I should feel even the slightest bit lucky for knowing my ol' man.
So yeah, sorry about ranting.
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Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 12:57 pm
Awwwwwwwwieee, that sucks so much.
I think it's time to move on. Are you living with your mom or your dad? Move in with your mom if you're with your dad and just don't talk to him. It will be hard at first, but just remember that everyone here at PPS will be here for you =).
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Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 2:52 pm
Don't be sorry! It's good to rant, gets it off your chest.
Well it sounds like your dad is being an idiot, if he's not listening to what you're saying. Sit down with him and his girlfriend and tell them that you don't appreciate them insulting your mum, and you want to have a relationship with them, you want to get to know them. Be calm and adultlike, and if they say no then they are the childish ones. Believe me, i know what adults are like, but if you try hard to get your point across, even if they don't appear to be listening, it would have sunk in.
If they say no. Screw them. It sounds to me like you have a great mother, and she's more than enough, spend time with her, and enjoy her company, don't dwell on the fact you don't have your fathers. If he isn't willing to make an effort, he obviously isn't a good person, and he's not worth it.
x-Good luck-x
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Posted: Thu Jul 26, 2007 3:00 pm
Thank you both, it's helped<3
I do live with my mum, seeing as she has custody over me. I see my dad once a week, on a sunday.
My mum is great, and you're right, she's all I need. But at the moment I have to carry on seeing my dad until I'm 15 or something, that's when I can legally say I don't want to see him anymore and the courts can let me break contact with him.
So for now, and that's like a year away, so during that year I'm going to stick it out and see if matters improve.
Thanks again <3
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Posted: Fri Jul 27, 2007 3:14 am
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