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Seranin

PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 3:34 pm


So if anyone didn't see my other little sticky/post/thread thingy.. It was about how my parents treat me like crap and how I'm fed up with it.

Well, today was no different, except I didn't take it like I usually would.

All I did, was go up to eat some lunch. I ate leftovers, no less and he bitches at me 'cuz he was gonna eat it and didn't get to it first. I waited 3 days until I ate it. It was sitting in the fridge for 3 days until I decided to eat it.

Anyways, then I wasn't speaking to him, or replying to anything he was saying (as he was just yelling at me more and more), and he was like "What are you purposely keeping your mouth full just so you don't hafta answer?"

And I looked at him. That's all I did. I just looked at him. And he bitches at me for looking at him! "Don't give me one of your stupid looks!"

And then, when I was done eating I cleaned my dishes, set them in the sink, stood there, looked at my dad, blankly, and said "Good pep talk, dad" and started walking towards the door, and he went crazy.

I was walking out, and he starts telling/yelling me what I already know.

Says "When is your life gonna be more than just anime huh" and "You can't afford all this crap you're doing." and "You're just mad 'cuz we're yelling at you and you don't like it" and "Grow the ******** up"

And really, the list just goes on and on.

And I looked at him, looked at the door, and said "I'll see ya later".

And he was like "NO! IM NOT DONE" BLAH BLAH BLAH *insert more screaming and profanity here*

And I just walked off. Simple as that.

Then he goes: "MOVE OUT THEN! SEE HOW HARD LIFE REALLY IS"

And I heard other things, but I can't remember them. Actually, I just ignored them.

So PPS, here is my question:

Is this a personal victory for me? Or did I just make things worse?

I feel pretty good about it, because I'm finally not taking his crap, and I'm finally standing up for myself, without even having to yell back at him.

Did I do the right thing?

I would like to know.
PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 3:41 pm


Sometimes in a situation like that, you can't really do anything but be silent. My mother gets like that sometimes, where she'll like fly off the handle for stupid things. If you try to do anything, even defend yourself, she just screams more and takes it as trying to "undermine her authority". I hate being yelled at, so I usually start to cry, and then she takes that as an admission of my guilt. rolleyes

The problem is, in that situation, there's nothing you can do that will make them happy. If you respond calmly, you get screamed at for being sassy. If you yell, you get accused of being a child/rebel/whatever. If you don't say anything, they think you're not listening and yell at you for that, or they yell at you for not saying anything. So really, there's no right answer.

If you feel good about what you did, then I would say you made the right choice for you. Perhaps the more you stand up to him, the less he'll start doing it.

Sailor_Chibi


Seranin

PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 3:46 pm


Sailor_Chibi
Sometimes in a situation like that, you can't really do anything but be silent. My mother gets like that sometimes, where she'll like fly off the handle for stupid things. If you try to do anything, even defend yourself, she just screams more and takes it as trying to "undermine her authority". I hate being yelled at, so I usually start to cry, and then she takes that as an admission of my guilt. rolleyes

The problem is, in that situation, there's nothing you can do that will make them happy. If you respond calmly, you get screamed at for being sassy. If you yell, you get accused of being a child/rebel/whatever. If you don't say anything, they think you're not listening and yell at you for that, or they yell at you for not saying anything. So really, there's no right answer.

If you feel good about what you did, then I would say you made the right choice for you. Perhaps the more you stand up to him, the less he'll start doing it.


That's pretty much how things are right now. I'm in college, and I have a job. What more can they ask for?

Apparently everything in the world, it seems.

I feel I did the right thing. My friend said that if I start standing up to him more he'll give me less s**t. I can only hope he's right >.>
PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 4:22 pm


if you feel good about it, then you did the right thing.
you shouldn't have to listen to him b***h and moan when you did absolutely nothing wrong.
right on, sista.

[heart attack]
Vice Captain


Seranin

PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 4:25 pm


[heart attack]
if you feel good about it, then you did the right thing.
you shouldn't have to listen to him b***h and moan when you did absolutely nothing wrong.
right on, sista.


Good >w<

I'm adding you to my friends list <3
PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 4:29 pm


did i charm you with my...wit and wiles?
>>

[heart attack]
Vice Captain


Seranin

PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 4:57 pm


[heart attack]
did i charm you with my...wit and wiles?
>>


Yes, and your sexy avatar <3

But.. I think you're really nice ;-; And I'm glad someone agrees with me. I just wasn't sure if I opened up a can of worms that'll bite me in the a** later ><;

And even if that does happen, I'm hoping that I'll be able to handle whatever comes 3nodding
PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 7:48 pm


I agree with all of the above. You did do the right thing. You didn't turn it into a screaming contest, and you left before the situation became volatile. Good job. heart

Sonic Butterfly


skulliepanda

PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 7:54 pm


I say you did the right thing.
My sisters get yelled at all the time, and they just yell back, they don't learn. D: And it just turns into a screaming fest.
PostPosted: Wed Jul 25, 2007 12:44 am


I think this falls under you being the calm mature one.

You did the right thing. Well done. wink
Mike is a timid insecure girl.

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