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 Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 2:33 am
Heres my story.
For years I assumed I was straight, its a pretty basic assumption since the large majority of the population like the opposite sex I assumed I was one of them. However recently I have come terms I like females too. Now your thinking well ok your bisexual. But I keep switching between liking guys and liking girls and I don't know what I am. Bisexual? Lesbian coming to terms? Straight going through a phase.
I keep getting advice like just wait and you'll eventually know but I want to know now and when I say that people tell me to have sex with somebody and find out, I'm not willing to do that.
Any experiance? Advice? Stories?
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 12:26 am
i'm going threw the same thing you are. i don't know what i am yet.
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 1:27 am
Well, I'm bisexual. I was attracted to a boy for the first time when I was six. I was attracted to a girl for the first time when I was 12, but I had fantisised about being with another girl since I was little. I thought that was normal until I realized I was bisexual. I have a wonderful, loving girlfriend right now, and I've had boyfriends before. I love my girlfriend more than I've ever loved either of my boyfriends, I went out with one boy because I felt sorry for him. Maybe I'm not being much help, but I thought I'd share my story. sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri Aug 31, 2007 10:37 am
Duuude! I know better than I can explain where you're coming from. In addittion to having sexuality ambiguity, I'm also having self identity crisis related problems which clouds my mind and divides my heart. I came across an interesting idea called "Affectional Orientation" I have a little blurb about it in my journal that serves as a spring board for a deeper study. I'd suggest checking it out, it has helped me to pull together the unravelling threads of my sanity for a little while longer.
U can also pm me when ever, if ever too smile
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Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 10:52 am
see with me personally, for the longest time, i liked guys and liked girls but thought nothing of it. i never told my parents because i have grown up in a very straight family. then when i was about 10 or 11, my older brother came out as bisexual to my parents but gay to me. at the time i was like, "wat is gay or bisexual?" so i checked out books at the library over the next couple of years trying to figure it out. well my mom found out and almost kicked me out for it. when i was about 13 or 14, i came out to people about me being bi. at that time i understood alot more after having long conversations with my brother about it. my parents found out and almost had a heart attack because they already had one gay child, but now two! i have been struggling since then as to wether im bi or lesbian. but very recently i came out as a lesbian. after talking to my friends about it after i came out they all said they knew that before i came out. thats because, i was interested in guys, as long as they were clean shaven, no chest hair, and kept their pants on. i could never go any where past kissing with a guy. but with girls is where i got most of my experience. you know how they say the stories at band camp, well my stories came from girl scout camp! my first year there my 9th grade year, half my cabin was bi, so we had LOADS of fun. i got into a relationship with one of the girls while we were there and we experimented some. it was fun. im currently in a relationship with a girl right now. ive noticed that i can go as far as i want with her, which i could never go this far with ANY guy. we are happy and in love. we've been going out for 3 months, 1 week and 3 days. thats my longest relationship ever. ive been around the block several times trying to figure my sexuality out, you may want to know now, but thats not always going to be that way. it took me 7 years to figure out my sexuality, since the day my brother came out. im 17 right now, and i finally know my sexuality. it takes some time and alot of experience. dont rush into trying to figure out your sexuality. let it come to you, because believe me, in due time you will know. i hope this helps! if you have any questions you can pm me anytime. im always here to talk to. ive got a lot of experience with this topic so dont be afraid to message me.
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 4:20 am
Yeah thanks for the support and advice. I'm pretty sure i'm not lesbian because I had a boyfriend and we did some stuff but never went to the point of me seeing him naked but he managed to turn me on so hrmm. The research was a good idea, I didn't think of that and its right up my alley since I'm a bit of a nerd razz
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Posted: Wed Oct 10, 2007 2:34 pm
I'm bisexual. I found out my sexuality rather oddly. I was wrestling with one of my girl friends and.. I was sitting on her stomach and I had her pinned down.
Dot. Dot. Dot. whee One look at her pinned under me and I was one of two emotions:
"Yay, I knew I would win. Now she has to get my ramen."
"Ah, damn I won and now I..."
So I rolled off of her and looked at TV, just carrying on with life. I came to terms with it at the same time I discovered it.
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Posted: Mon Oct 15, 2007 1:57 am
SaiyouSai I'm bisexual. I found out my sexuality rather oddly. I was wrestling with one of my girl friends and.. I was sitting on her stomach and I had her pinned down.
Dot. Dot. Dot. whee One look at her pinned under me and I was one of two emotions:
"Yay, I knew I would win. Now she has to get my ramen."
"Ah, damn I won and now I..."
So I rolled off of her and looked at TV, just carrying on with life. I came to terms with it at the same time I discovered it. Well I had a crush on my best friend whos female for awhile but apparently having a crush on your friend is normal weither it contradicts your sexuality or not. But you seemed to know pretty well and i'm happy for you smile
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Posted: Thu Nov 01, 2007 12:28 pm
Heh. I say that "I knew I was bi before I knew there was a word for it." Pretty much, I've always felt it was normal to covet both men and women. biggrin
The interesting part is that it wasn't until junior high or so that I put together the word "bi" and my worldview... This caused me no end of grief, as "bisexual" had a very distinct negative connotation. In fact, based on what I had been told, I even agreed with the assessment. (I'll not elaborate what sorts of things were common belief growing up, perpetuating them at all sets us all behind...)
It took many years before I could actually say that I was bi. Luckily, the question always came up as "Are you straight?" or "Are you gay?", to which the answer was an honest "No." And that was always the right answer to whoever was questioning. smile heart
I actually feel bad for kids today, where the media's double standard has gotten even more twisted and obvious. Growing up, there were no "bisexuals" on TV, and obviously gay characters existed but no one commented on it. (And this was a BAD thing, remember... sad Though, I feel it was a good thing in disguise. I'll either post here or in my Journal about it at some point, depending on how long the post is...)
Nowadays, we've got men who are either polarized as gay or straight, and women are in an even worse boat... As far as I can tell from what little media I expose myself to, we have only "straight" and "bi" for women... "Lesbians" in the media are always still very much into guys. And bi women are only partly bi; they always seem to prefer men and need permission to flirt with girls. And men are encouraged to seek bi women, for sexual reasons. This, of course, makes a disproportionate number of "bi" women... I've come across quite a few who claim to be bi, but would never even consider kissing another woman! Whereas I know plenty of guys who are straight one night and gay the next. (Or in some cases, replace "night" with "hour"... heart )
I'm sorry for veering off-topic, but maybe it will help some of the questioning in here figure out the causes of their questioning. smile Ignore the media, go with your gut. 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Nov 04, 2007 11:55 pm
Update! So well now I'm thinking maybe I'm lesbian... It just kind of came across in my head. I was thinking about this crush i currently have on a girl and how attracted i felt towards her when i thought well when was the last time you felt attracted to a guy? and there it was. The more I think about it the more I find potholes in my attraction. Everything i've found intensly horny or attracting revolved around me. He was giving ME the attention. Everything sexual I did was just because it seemed appropriate to do and its not like i didn't like it. Kisses and hugs are pretty much the same with each sex, arn't they? My male crushes we're also heavly based on admiration and just liking their personality.
I keep thinking maybe if I just had some male porn, or had sex with a guy I would instantly know.
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Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 8:50 am
are you attracted to the male body and/or the female body?
how far have you been able to go with either sex before you couldn't go any farther?
Bisexuality is personality based rather than body based. You can do things with both sexes, and are attracted to people based on their personality.
in short, anyway.
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