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 Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 1:53 pm
How can you tell if your boyfriend is cheating on you?
Because I know he cheated on his ex girlfriends, in his previous relationships, so, I'm just curious.
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Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 1:10 am
There's another older thread on this same topic, just too lazy to go look.
The rule of thumb should be that you should trust him, and if that fails, then ask him. If he lies about it or won't come clean, maybe he's not the one for you.
Some red flags might be that he's evasive when you ask questions. Maybe you ask who he's hanging out with or where he's going. Just be careful not to be too aggressive, otherwise he might just back off completely and get upset. Maybe he's out at all hours of the night, or saying he's out with "a female friend" or whatever. Everyone is different. You'd know him better than any of us, so go with your gut. If you think something is up, then ask! And go from there.
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Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 1:01 pm
The first thing you need to ask yourself is - why did he cheat on his other girlfriends? Was it just because he felt like it, because he wanted to break up with them and was too afraid, was it due to extenuating circumstances that you know for sure won't be repeated, or something else?
Basically, you want to figure out if whatever caused him to cheat on his other girlfriends would also make him cheat on you. Don't assume that you are special, that he didn't care for them but he does for you - because chances are that all his other girlfriends thought the same thing. You really want to think about this carefully.
If you decide that it's possible that he would cheat on you (ie: whatever situation made him cheat on his other girlfriends hasn't been resolved yet), you need to decide if it's worth trusting him.
Personally, if someone cheats once, I think it's OK to forgive them. I can understand a one-off thing. But given that he's cheated on multiple girlfriends, this looks like it's something he sees as perfectly acceptable and the chances of him continuing go way way up. "Twice a cheater, always a cheater." But that's just my opinion. It's really important that you examine your personal situation very closely and make your decision based on that.
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Posted: Mon Jul 23, 2007 5:45 am
Thanks.
He said he was immature then - he said he only cheated once.
Then he felt bad because once he told the girl she attempted suicide so he learned his lesson.
That's what he said.
I really do think he likes me...
xD Update, update.
I do trust him.
:3 Thanks for posting.
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Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 12:05 pm
Good, I'm glad this has been resolved. Just remember, it's important to stick to your decision. If you've decided to trust him - trust him. Don't go spying on him, checking his phone messages secretly, or agonizing about whether he's cheating on you or not. A relationship cannot function without trust.
That's not the same as saying that you should be blind. If it's clear he's cheating, that's a totally different matter. But yeah, I think you know what I mean. Best of luck to you and your relationship!
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Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 1:06 pm
If he cheated once before he would cheat again, I would not believe a word he says since he was not faithfull in the first relationship. But thats just me and i have learned things the hard way, so i live in a harsh way of looking things like this. Cheaters, abusers and rapist should be treatied hard and strict.
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