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 Posted: Thu Jul 28, 2005 9:29 am
I know this is the same as everyone else but i need help, my parents totally dont know that i am gay. I really need to start to tell people and it bugs me like hell someone help
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Posted: Thu Jul 28, 2005 10:03 am
Do you have any close friends? It might be easier to tell them first. Then you might be able to feel more comfortable talking about it. That might make it easier to tell your parents. How have your parents reacted to things you've said in the past? How do you think they will react now? Do you have a good relationship with them?
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Posted: Thu Jul 28, 2005 11:38 am
tell your friends first.
if worse comes to worse,
you could always get
new friends, but new
parents are hard to
come by, ya know?
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Posted: Thu Jul 28, 2005 10:09 pm
Nios Do you have any close friends? It might be easier to tell them first. Then you might be able to feel more comfortable talking about it. That might make it easier to tell your parents. How have your parents reacted to things you've said in the past? How do you think they will react now? Do you have a good relationship with them? I agree here. Hell, i left my mom a note on her coffee pot, and then came out to the entire highschool that day.
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Posted: Thu Jul 28, 2005 10:26 pm
primaBALLERINA you could always get
new friends, but new
parents are hard to
come by, ya know? The truest thing I've ever heard. If you don't think they would react well, you don't have to tell them right now. If you were straight, you wouldn't go out of your way to tell them, so why do it now? It's really no one's business but your's.
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Posted: Fri Jul 29, 2005 12:17 am
Okay, this maybe seems irrelevant...but I think it's kind of important: how old are you?
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Posted: Sat Jul 30, 2005 6:50 pm
Astri Okay, this maybe seems irrelevant...but I think it's kind of important: how old are you?
This isnt irrelevant in my eyes... Age was a big part of my decision to finally come out to everyone. My parents found out that I was gay at the age of 13. They sat me down and explained that I wasnt to tell anyone in my middle school (I am in highschool now) for the simple reason that something like this shouldnt be prancing around the halls like other rumors may be. They wanted me to wait till I was out of college to worry about it, but those who know me well enough would already guess that would never happen.
I am 16 now, and have come out to my closest of friends. Those who I know wont totally disown me like some other ignorant people would. And although parents are usually the first some few kids come to when they come out, I suggest that you tell your closest friends first as I did. Parents usually take it harder than colleagues would. Why? I wouldnt understand, other than the fact that you were brought up to be who you are today by the hands of your gauridians, and something along those lines seem to twist about when you finally break the news to them.
But Im only going to start to ramble.
Its totally up to you when and who you come out to, but I would wait until you are in highschool (if you arent already) to really claim the title for the small fact that its around the time that others like you are coming out as well, the "Years of Self Discovery" as my mother put it. And if you ever need someone to talk to, or spill thoughts and feelings to, I am always here *Swoon*
All I can do now is hope all goes well for you.
And wish you Good Luck~ <3
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:17 pm
I came out to my whole school before I came out to my mother. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:24 pm
I think that's completely normal Astri. If your peers are accepting then you feel more confidence to come out to others.
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:30 pm
I came out to my girlfriend first. sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:35 pm
Oh haha. That's funny actually. Hehe I feel bad for her. My now ex boyfriend's last two girlfriends broke up with him saying they were lesbians and then he dated me of all people. I wouldn't be surprised if he never dates again.
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:41 pm
Yeah... she was kind of pissed off at me.
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:45 pm
It's not like it was your fault. Although I imagine it would be a bad feeling to know that you were "just an experiment." Going a lil off topic but I think I want someone to break up with me. I've never experienced it before and I feel like a jerk because of it.
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:46 pm
At least you told her, though. My best friend did that. For her...well, it took dating a guy to convince her that she was not -- and would never be -- interested. The guy was kind of a jerk (nutcase) anyway, so... sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Jul 31, 2005 9:52 pm
Being broken up with sucks, but so does being the one to break up. Meh.
Yeah, I didn't really tell her in a nice way. She said she already knew I was, so she was just waiting for it.
She wasn't really an experiment quite as much as she was an attempt at convincing myself and my parents that I was straight.
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