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Love at first sight cannot possibly exist in any meaningful way. You don't know the person. Love at first sight is going on physical appearance only, and should therefore be classified as attraction or lust.

As far as future husband, my only demands are that they work hard, are a strong Christian, and want a lot of kids, seeing as how I want at least 4. My current boyfriend actually fits into that quite well. And they have to be able to act like a kid and still enjoy childish things like playing on a playground. Because I am and always will be a child at heart.

Age is probably somewhere around at least 20, but by 25 because of my desire for so many kids.

Love at first sight is very much a Hollywood idea. And I blame it for the reason the divorce rate is so high in America. It focuses too much on sex appeal. The same thing with soul mates. It just doesnt seem to work. Relationships take work. You're not going to have just one person it will work with like magic. Both sides have to want to make it work. I didn't make it a year with my current boyfriend just by playing around and stuff. We talk about everything, no secrets. And if we disagree about something we talk it out. It works.

I don't have a set in stone description of my future husband, since I haven't met him yet. He just needs to be a Christian that can be my best friend. I don't want to have kids when I'm still pretty much a kid, but I don't want to be having to raise children when I'm 50, either. Not that there's anything wrong with really young or old parents, but I don't want to be one.

Ok, so I read this book that a real life father wrote. It's full of advice that any decent father would want to give to his daughter. And there was this chapter on fate. It totally cleared up the whole love thing for me. If anybody wants to read it, it's called BOYS WILL PUT YOU ON A PEDASTAL (SO THEY CAN LOOK UP YOUR SKIRT) : A DADS ADVICE FOR DAUGHTERS

I don't believe in love at first sight. It's just infatuation, based off of physical appearance, and sex appeal. Even though infatuation can lead to love, but it's very unlikely. I do however believe in soulmates. I just never understood until recently that they were more of a 'destination' instead of a 'starting point'. A person can only be your soulmate if you have helped each other grow as individuals and as a couple. And since soulmates are made, then you could end up with almost anyone on the planet.

I have no idea how old I want to be when I get married, but most likely before I'm 30. I do want kids, and I want plently of time to raise them, and then plently of time to spend with my husband after they leave for college. I want to travel at least some.

The only things I want in my husband is for him to be a Christian, a sense of humor since laughter is some of the best medicine, opinionated (preferably some opinions different than mine) so we can have conversations to last a life time, and I would like him to at least understand music (particularly vocal music) since it is such a major part of my life, and so he can critique me.

>.< I love you guys! I wish everyone had such good standards! I like a bunch of the stuff you guys said, and I definitely want to read that book... which is odd because reading isn't really my thing.
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I don't believe in love at first sight. I believe in the slight chance of a crush at first sight that can develop into love.

My future husband...I have no standards for a husband, because I'm not planning on getting married. I don't want kids, and, honestly, I want to work. I know getting married would still give me the chance to work but...

Is eloping wrong?