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 Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 10:52 am
She is two weeks late on her period and she took two pregnancy tests today. One of them didn't work properly and the second one showed positive. She's worried, stressing and everything. She doesn't know what to do because she doesn't want to tell her mom, she knows she'd kill her.
I really want to help her, she is my best friend. I just don't know what advice to give her or what will help her. She really doesn't want the baby and she's only 16. What should I tell her to do?
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 10:53 am
She needs to tell her parents. There is no question about it.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 11:20 am
I'm mentioning this first, please read the new edited rules. This should've been posted in the pregnancy sticky. Please read the rules again, and then read my thread titled "Sorry to go b***h-mode on you all". If it happens again, you'll get a warning. Same applies to your birth control thread, that should be in the birth control sticky.
Regarding your friend, she has to tell her parnets. Tough for her, she shouldn't have been having sex if her mother was going to kill her in the case she got pregnant. If she's old enough and mature enough to be having sex, then she is old enough and mature enough to deal with the consequences.
She needs to tell her parents (or at least her mother), and then go see a doctor as soon as possible The doctor can either give her a pregnancy test or do another kind of test to find out if your friend is pregnant. The doctor can also help her decide whether or not to keep the baby. If she doesn't want it, or doesn't want to try adoption, then abortion might be the option for her. It'll be up to her though, of course.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 11:23 am
I don't go on Gaia frequently so I appologize for my ignorance.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 2:27 pm
she needs to tell her parents. ive been in a situtation like that before but i made some wrong disitions. The longer she waits to tell her partents to tell some adult the worse it will get for her. depretion, stress, and all the sucky pregnant things (morning sickness ect.) are a terable combination. tell her to tell her rents about it and not do anything rash or to harm herself and be there as some one to talk to.
I'm sorry my spelling is awful.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 11:12 pm
samui_blood I don't go on Gaia frequently so I appologize for my ignorance. It's fine, now you know. 3nodding Just giving you a heads up.
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Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2005 4:53 pm
I should tell you to tell your friend to have a talk with her mother. However, that's probably not going to happen, so I'll give her some advice that she can use. Your friend needs to go to a doctor (gynecologist, specifically) as of yesterday. She can go without her mother's permission. The doctor will not tell her mother. Planned Parenthood is usually the favorite option in this instance. She can find the location closest to her at the website. http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/They'll talk to her openly and honestly about her options: keeping the baby, adoption, and yes, abortion. Abortion is a touchy subject, and I'm not going to advocate a certain stance because I don't want this thread to become a neverending argument. Anyhow, Planned Parenthood also has the benefit of being cheap. Besides, she can get a much more accurate pregnancy test at a doctor's office than she can get from the drugstore. Also, if she IS pregnant, she needs adequate care in order to keep both of them healthy.
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Posted: Tue Sep 27, 2005 6:37 pm
i know from experience that she needs to tell her parents. They need to decide what will be done with the baby. Abortion? Adoption? Keeping it? I kept my baby, and I love her to death! But its difficult to balance Tusita and school. I'm actually thinking about dropping out.
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Posted: Fri Oct 21, 2005 12:31 pm
I know a lot about this my BFF (14) has a 5 month old son...she told me in November that she missed her period but denied pregnancy then in january she told me that she was pregnant...she does have to tell her mom...maybe there is a school for teenage mothers in your area
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Posted: Wed Nov 16, 2005 2:41 am
If your friend's parents would kill her literally or MAKE her have the child, then I suggest that she has an abortion, and that you help her out. You can get the money together to do it, and set up an appointment. Depending on the state that you're in, you can get an abortion without telling your parents, which is good if your parents will devalue your life or make you give birth and parent against your will.
I always say, if she doesn't want the child, she shouldn't have to give birth to it if she's in the early stages of pregnancy.
You'll just have to save up the money, she can suck it up, and get what needs to be done, done.
Maybe afterwards, she could tell her parents.
I've noticed that when it comes to parents, the kids usually have a good idea of when to trust them and when to keep quiet. Decide what is the best mode of action and then take it.
NOTE: I am NOT advocating lying or keeping secrets from your parents. But I do think that if this girl is seriously afraid of her parents for various reasons (they might kick her out/make her have the baby against her will), then she should be able to get what she needs done before it is too late.
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