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 Posted: Wed Jul 04, 2007 7:24 pm
It's hard for me to ever picture myself having sex. I think the only reason I'd ever do it would just be for the experience, or possibly not to disappoint whomever I'm having a relationship with. Maybe even because it'd be embarassing to be a "40 year old virgin".
Will I ever change, or will I always be like this?
Do you guys think you'll have sex?
Have any of you had sex before? Is it as great as everyone claims it is?
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Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 2:38 am
I've never had sex. I planned to, only to make my significant other happy. I'd feel bad depriving them of that, just because I don't enjoy it. However, the thought of it repulses me to no end. But.. I'm a giver, not a taker, and I like to put others before myself.. so I always figured I would put my boyfriend before myself and have sex with them to make them happy.
But I can't help feeling like my relationships are based on sex if I had sex with someone. And I really don't like that.
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Posted: Thu Jul 05, 2007 2:14 pm
I imagine sex to be boring. My friend jokingly suggested that we have sex to prove it.
But I can't picture myself having sex, either. I may, I may not — only time will tell.
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Posted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 4:26 am
I...really don't want to. Though of it disgusts me and all that.
I can't think of any reason I would. Maybe to keep my partner happy, but at the moment I think I'd rather be alone than have to do that.
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Posted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 9:17 am
No... I don't want to... eww... scary... disgusting... *runs off crying like a little girl*
Ninja: Miku, you are a girl.
Miku as a "scream": SHUT UP!
ninja
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Posted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 2:27 pm
I'm really weird. Sex in itself does not bother me - seeing it, discussing it etc. But I can't do it because I don't like to be touched in any form. If someone shakes my hand I have to fight the urge to wipe it on my leg because it comes across as rude. I don't think other people are dirty or anything, I just can't stand the feeling of someone's touch. I hate sitting on warm seats on trains or using the toilet after someone else.
If I thought I was attractive then maybe I'd be autosexual XD
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Posted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 5:11 pm
And you'd be a narcissist.
What about handshakes? Those make you feel icky as well? Or do you insist on bowing to avoid handshaking?
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Posted: Fri Jul 06, 2007 8:38 pm
Sex seems like an overhyped concept to me. I have doubts that it's really as exciting as everyone claims it to be. And beyond that, I just find it to be unclean, and I don't like the feeling of uncleanliness.
I don't know if I will ever have sex. Maybe I'll try it sometime just to prove or disprove my notions regarding sex. Or maybe I'll do it to keep my partner happy. But at this point in my life, I don't know if sex is an experience I will ever undertake.
I'm much happier on my own right now, anyhow.
@RandomDent: I kind of know how you feel about the physical contact issue. I'm not normally one for hugs or handshakes either, let alone any other form of physical contact.
At my grandfather's funeral, I almost had an anxiety attack because I had to shake the hands of so many strangers.
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Posted: Sun Jul 08, 2007 3:45 pm
Sadakai
At my grandfather's funeral, I almost had an anxiety attack because I had to shake the hands of so many strangers.
I wave as a greeting.
I have no problems shaking hands with my friends though. I seem to be different from other asexuals in that I don't mind being touched (hugs/ handshaking, etc.).
Unless I'm already panicky, I usually like it. Though sometimes I have a problem with strangers.
However, I have had panic attacks because I was in a crowd.
I don't like just being brushed against either.
I think you're right about the hype, though I imagine for some people it is all that great.
Not for me. ninja No, I plan to never have sex. Sex makes me panicky too. *Clings to Mikusagi.*
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Posted: Sun Jul 08, 2007 9:59 pm
Ikonik Angel Sadakai
At my grandfather's funeral, I almost had an anxiety attack because I had to shake the hands of so many strangers.
I wave as a greeting.
I have no problems shaking hands with my friends though. I seem to be different from other asexuals in that I don't mind being touched (hugs/ handshaking, etc.).
Unless I'm already panicky, I usually like it. Though sometimes I have a problem with strangers.
However, I have had panic attacks because I was in a crowd.
I don't like just being brushed against either.
I think you're right about the hype, though I imagine for some people it is all that great.
Not for me. ninja No, I plan to never have sex. Sex makes me panicky too. *Clings to Mikusagi.* On the contrary, I think there a good number of asexuals that are perfectly comfortable with general physical contact and some forms of affection. I've seen a few people in the guild mention that they enjoy hugging or cuddling, etc.
I know that for me, my reluctance towards physical contacts stems from my minor case of germaphobia and my socially-apprehensive tendencies, which I fear will develop into full-scale social anxiety.
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Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2007 2:06 pm
I like cuddling. I'm just too scared to cuddle with other people, that's all.
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Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2007 7:25 pm
Xumbra I like cuddling. I'm just too scared to cuddle with other people, that's all. *Huggles the Xumbra.*
You should just hug people if you want a hug. ^_^
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Posted: Tue Jul 10, 2007 5:21 pm
Aw. Thank you. [huggles back]
I just respect personal space. It's rude to hug people without asking, methinks.
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Posted: Tue Jul 10, 2007 9:13 pm
A quick note about contact:
George Washington bowed in public greetings to avoid shaking hands. I don't think he liked strangers/people getting too friendly with him, either. ^.^See Related I've never had sex. I planned to, only to make my significant other happy. I'd feel bad depriving them of that, just because I don't enjoy it. However, the thought of it repulses me to no end. But.. I'm a giver, not a taker, and I like to put others before myself.. so I always figured I would put my boyfriend before myself and have sex with them to make them happy. But I can't help feeling like my relationships are based on sex if I had sex with someone. And I really don't like that.
But I'm definately never for "Sex for just sex". Nope. Too old-fashioned and spiritual for that.
For now, I kind of like what I have going on with my best friend. We're affectionate towards each other, cuddle and whatnot, and I even sneak an occassional kiss. We can still joke around and do all the things friends should do, but the simple extra things are all I'd want from a "relationship" right now anyways. There's no pressure for anything more...It's good, and I'm content. 3nodding
'Sides, you should only be willing to deal with a partner's issues after you've gotten a hold on most of your own, heh heh...
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Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2007 8:03 am
Xumbra Aw. Thank you. [huggles back]
I just respect personal space. It's rude to hug people without asking, methinks. ninja
Um...
I hate people asking for a hug, to be honest. I kind of...ask with gestures most of the time (like holding my arms out).
I think we're a little different about that sort of thing where I live. Can't be sure though.
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