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 Posted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 4:06 am
i'm kinda at a loss right now D:
my best friend claims that he loves me but there are also other girls who are closer to him than i am.
sometimes i doubt his love for me and think that perhaps its time to let go.
what do you think i should do?
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Posted: Tue Jul 03, 2007 7:10 am
ask him directly the question you be ready to ear the answer than to live we doudt
sorry for my english but i hope you unsdertend my mining
you better know the true and cry a bit then live in doudt and cry in secret
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Posted: Fri Jul 13, 2007 7:36 am
As a Male Creature I would like to say this.
If you have doubts about someones love and feelings toward you then you should ask them. In my experience girls like to play games with guyes and they try to get information in round about ways which can cause issues. Most guys dont get girls methods of information retreaval because our minds work differently.
If you want to know how he realy feels then talk to him and ask him directly.
As a Note
And dont do anything that you may regret just because he says that he loves you. Having sex at a young age is not a good idea especially if you have doubts about him. (Not saying you will but Ive had many friends that have and they have been hurt)
Signed~Edward D. Age 15
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Posted: Tue Nov 20, 2007 12:13 am
Ok well I tried to cover quite a bit here.
As always a small problem gives a light to the larger problems beneath them. So naturally there is a lot to discuss.
We kido it's really hard to give advice with such a vague predicament.
You really have to watch how the guy conducts himself.
How many girlfriends do you know he has had?
How many do you think he has had?
Have you met any of these girls?
Do you think he told them he loved them too?
Do you think he really has a decent understanding as to what love is?
Guys that are drawn to many female companions are more likely to:
1) Have a girl friend ready in case you break up
2) want to try a three some
3) neglect you
4) slip up and fall for one of his friends
This is not to say that one or all of these will occur.
Also any one of those girls could be plotting to seduce him.
There is always the drama too. If you don't seem to fit in to what the girl friends think he should be with prepare for trouble.
I know a lot of that can make you feel really uneasy but it's rampant in social places like school and work. If you are dating out in the open you are open to drama to follow your relationship. Fortunately life out side this is much better. You don't have to be a jellious girlfriend to keep a man but might want to make sure he wants your trust. Give it to him openly and he will walk all over you. Pull too tight and he will be like sand in your hand. The more you squeeze the more slips through your fingers. To drive this point home a guy wants you what he is doing but does not want to be restrained. Does that make any since to you.
Honesty saves a relationship. Don't get to emotional but let him be aware or your anxiety. There are a lot of other people out their and a lot of reasons to break up. In any relationship if you want to make it last you have to be willing to talk to each other openly about any problems or future concerns. Again not everyone has the same understanding as to how the relationship is going. So give each other a heads up every once and a while. Talk about good things too. Don't close off from each other and don't let the other close off from you. It is ok to step back and think about why you are angry. Make sure you think about the others point of view. You do not need to yell to get your point a crossed.
Oh and guys are smarter than you think. They can find ways to understand if they are willing enough. Remember that people are not perfect. Remember the golden rule. Over reacting is like bad medicine. You might think it is helping but it only makes both of you sick.
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Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 3:11 am
Guys can be pretty oblivious at times, especially when a girl is trying to be subtle.
Subtlety doesn't work with the guys, ladies. At least, not for things like this. Just be blunt and honest and ask him directly what he means. Ask what he means by "love" when he says he loves you and ask what that entails. Ask what the standing of the other girls is with him. Ask him to clearly define what he feels about you and what sort of relationship he wants with you (friends, ftf, couple, etc.).
Basically, don't beat around the bush. Ask straight out and make sure that you get a direct and honest answer. If he tries to sidestep a question, make a mental note of it. If the answer matters enough to you, I suggest you wait til you get a straight answer before taking any action.
Ultimately, what you do is up to you, but at least give things some thought and consideration.
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Posted: Thu Dec 13, 2007 1:08 pm
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