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 Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2007 8:33 pm
My boyfriend, Marc (observe the angel in my signature), is in the Navy. Two months ago, he left for boot camp in Illinois, and for me it was a long, endless struggle with loneliness. I finally saw him two weeks ago--for exactly three days.
Now he's gone again, gone to go learn how to be a nuclear engineer. He's in South Carolina, I'm in Maryland.
I want to be able to go live with him, and not have to pine away for him here, alone and miserable. I just don't understand....
He says that he'll ask me to marry him soon. He says he's not ready to ask me yet. I'm a little hurt by this, because I was patient, I waited for him, I did nothing against him.
I don't know... I realize I'm being selfish, but all I really want is to be by his side. If he and I were to get married, I'd be able to be where he is.
What do you guys think about this?
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2007 8:38 pm
 I don't think your being selfish one bit.
But men are men, so what can you do about it? Sure you can nag but It wont get you anyweher.
I sugest just to wait more,I know how hard it is. But stay strong, hard work usually pays off.=] 
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Posted: Sat Jun 16, 2007 11:15 pm
This guy at work loves his girl to death but when we mention the word marriage, it scares the hell out of him so we poke fun of him for that xd But um he'll come around eventually. Alot of guys are scared at the word marriage.
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Posted: Sun Jun 17, 2007 5:17 pm
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Posted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 12:28 am
Give him some time.
Men can be shy around the whole 'marriage' subject.
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Posted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 2:58 pm
*sigh* He had said in desperation that he and I should just go get married.
Later, he explained that he said all that stuff because he was unsure of what was going on and was sort of at the end of his rope. Needless to say, I was a little hurt.
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Posted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 3:40 pm
I dont think your selfish
Like what the others say, marriage scares men.
But sometimes.. you gotta think you cant wait forever .
But in this case, since he says its soon he'll ask you, I think you should wait and stay patient =]
It could be worth it ^^
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Posted: Mon Jun 18, 2007 4:49 pm
mariage isn't something you should rush...he obviously loves you, and that should be able to help you hold out until he feels it's right...hold in there. you love him, and it'll happen
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 10:19 am
I'm not rushing. I just think that if I'm going to move my a** all the way down to South Carolina from Maryland, leaving behind everything I know and care about, the least he can do is give me that kind of commitment.
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 2:33 pm
 If you guys are meant to be together you can deal with it. Seriously.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. I live in Virginia, and he lives in NY. There is always a way.
I think you are sort of being selfish. A relationship is always a two way street, if he's not ready, you need to deeply respect that. Marriage is a huge commitment. That needs a lot of thought. I've never seen a heart that I couldn't break.
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Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 8:10 am
While I respect your opinion, I just don't feel I can agree with you. I know we're meant to be, okay? I know that I have to wait, I just wish that he understood how important it is to me. I still don't think I should move from where I am comfortable, to live alone in a place I don't know, and not have that kind of commitment, because he could always change his mind about me and where would I be then? Lost.
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Posted: Wed Jun 20, 2007 1:07 pm
Havoc In Heaven While I respect your opinion, I just don't feel I can agree with you. I know we're meant to be, okay? I know that I have to wait, I just wish that he understood how important it is to me. I still don't think I should move from where I am comfortable, to live alone in a place I don't know, and not have that kind of commitment, because he could always change his mind about me and where would I be then? Lost. Then you shouldn't rely on him so much. You need to be strong.
You should never rely your whole life on someone else except for yourself. (And not to be mean, but especially men, they change their mind like they change their underwear.)
I'm sure he does understand how important it is to you. But just like you, he's somewhat putting himself before you. In which you should always do.
It's a two way street. If he's not ready, then you should understand, and not think "It's not important to him." because I'm sure it is, if you love eachother as much as you say you do. He's just not ready, and if he's not ready, then neither of you is ready. Because it's a group commitment, not just one person.
I've never seen a heart that I couldn't break.
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Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 6:42 pm
Hah, I'm in the same position! I guess the best thing you can do is... wait. I know, it's hard and it totally sucks, but if you push it, it could really make him run... so, just have patience biggrin
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Posted: Mon Jul 09, 2007 2:33 pm
PlastikStars Havoc In Heaven While I respect your opinion, I just don't feel I can agree with you. I know we're meant to be, okay? I know that I have to wait, I just wish that he understood how important it is to me. I still don't think I should move from where I am comfortable, to live alone in a place I don't know, and not have that kind of commitment, because he could always change his mind about me and where would I be then? Lost. Then you shouldn't rely on him so much. You need to be strong.
(And not to be mean, but especially men, they change their mind like they change their underwear.)
...never? o__o;
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Posted: Wed Jul 11, 2007 9:22 pm
The Dessert Shark PlastikStars Havoc In Heaven While I respect your opinion, I just don't feel I can agree with you. I know we're meant to be, okay? I know that I have to wait, I just wish that he understood how important it is to me. I still don't think I should move from where I am comfortable, to live alone in a place I don't know, and not have that kind of commitment, because he could always change his mind about me and where would I be then? Lost. Then you shouldn't rely on him so much. You need to be strong.
(And not to be mean, but especially men, they change their mind like they change their underwear.)
...never? o__o;
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