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 Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 6:23 am
Okay, I'm a newly awakened bi...I think.
I have a friend that I am now going out with and her name's Amanda. We haven't gone on a date yet because I'm so busy right now.
But to tell the truth, I'm terrified to go out with her. My dad doesn't know I'm bi, and I think my mom would flip if I told her I was going out with a girl.
I want to go out with her, but I get way too nervous, and to make matters worse, when we got off the phone yesterday she said 'I love you' before she hung up. (She's had a crush on me for a long time)
I don't know what to do, but if I worry anymore, I'll make myself sick.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 8:24 am
Perhaps you need to put a little more trust into your parents. If they truely do care about you they will eventually accept you, even thought at first they may seem reluctant to accept the way you are. Just find a way to come out to them and do it when you feel the time is right. And also if you like someone, go ahead and go out with them, and until you decide to come out to your parents, just keep it a secret and don't call it a date in front of them. In the end it should all work out for you.
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Posted: Thu Jul 21, 2005 2:25 pm
*thinks* There's always the option of not telling your family that it's a "date" and saving the "coming out" for a later...time (I almost said date!) That way you can get the chance to figure out how to tell them so that you're not a nervous wreck and they're not worried about you.
Or take Tenaku's advice! You know your parents better than anyone and you know how they would react!
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 12:49 pm
Yes, I agree with Fadia. Don't tell them that you are going out on a 'date' with this girl, just say you guys are going out to have a good time... you know like you and your other friends would normally do. And if you haven't done that before then just tell your parents that you would like to go out with a friend. Tell them where you are going and how to reach you and what time you'll be back, that sorta thing. Then things should be okay with your parents... as far as they know wink
And about your girlfriend. Be totally honest with her. It's your first time dating a girl and you are nervous. That you would like to wait a while before you say 'I love you' because I'd like to know for sure that I do. And the thing you must do in situations like this is to take things slow... Let me repeat myself. Take things Slow.
Heh. If you don't think that you can go out with her by yourself the first time ask if you guys could go out with some friends to break the ice. Then move up to going alone.
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Posted: Fri Jul 22, 2005 11:14 pm
Raizel Thanatos Yes, I agree with Fadia. Don't tell them that you are going out on a 'date' with this girl, just say you guys are going out to have a good time... you know like you and your other friends would normally do. And if you haven't done that before then just tell your parents that you would like to go out with a friend. Tell them where you are going and how to reach you and what time you'll be back, that sorta thing. Then things should be okay with your parents... as far as they know wink And about your girlfriend. Be totally honest with her. It's your first time dating a girl and you are nervous. That you would like to wait a while before you say 'I love you' because I'd like to know for sure that I do. And the thing you must do in situations like this is to take things slow... Let me repeat myself. Take things Slow. Heh. If you don't think that you can go out with her by yourself the first time ask if you guys could go out with some friends to break the ice. Then move up to going alone. Yup! Just remember "Baby Steps"! wink pirate
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Posted: Sun Jul 24, 2005 10:43 pm
Yup, baby steps usually work.
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 5:39 pm
Tenaku Yup, baby steps usually work. *nods* I really hope that our advice is helpful! 3nodding Whatever you decide and whatever the outcome may be..just know that you have friends here! wink
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 10:12 pm
Fadia Stalyr Tenaku Yup, baby steps usually work. *nods* I really hope that our advice is helpful! 3nodding Whatever you decide and whatever the outcome may be..just know that you have friends here! wink Yup, we are all friends who support you ^-^
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Posted: Mon Jul 25, 2005 11:00 pm
Oh that happy note, get out there and go girl! blaugh heart pirate
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 2:19 pm
I have to agree with everything that was said here!
And really, you might not want to tell your parents. I told my parents and now I'm starting to regret it, although at first I Thought it would be fine.
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Posted: Tue Jul 26, 2005 10:58 pm
Fadia Stalyr Oh that happy note, get out there and go girl! blaugh heart pirate Yeah, c'mon, go for it.
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Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2005 12:21 am
LibidinalCatharsis I have to agree with everything that was said here! And really, you might not want to tell your parents. I told my parents and now I'm starting to regret it, although at first I Thought it would be fine. What happened? Did they react THAT badly?
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Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2005 6:55 am
Thanks guys, but currently I have to hold off on dating, no driving for me til school starts, so that screws things up a little.
Wonderful advice. *feels loved*
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Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2005 8:53 am
Cloth Roses Thanks guys, but currently I have to hold off on dating, no driving for me til school starts, so that screws things up a little. Wonderful advice. *feels loved* You should feel loved, we all love you ^-^ lol
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Posted: Wed Jul 27, 2005 12:28 pm
Tenaku Cloth Roses Thanks guys, but currently I have to hold off on dating, no driving for me til school starts, so that screws things up a little. Wonderful advice. *feels loved* You should feel loved, we all love you ^-^ lol Yea c'mon group hug! *hugs* biggrin domokun ninja
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