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So I was talking to my boyfriend (who gets this a lot) about how I would like to lose weight, I'm too fat, etc.

The odd thing is I've lost weight within the past two weeks, and I've been eating the same things, though perhaps in moderation more... less fast food 'cause I'm trying to save money, and I've eaten coldstone ice cream two out of the past 3 days (where I've lost 4lbs in) as well as ice cream I have at home...although with that I'm just having a couple spoonfuls and being satisfied.

The weirdest part for me is that I'm used to my weight fluctuating, but it's at the lowest it's been in months.

I'm lucky that I am one of those people who has come to like themselves at the size they are, to be able to see the good things in themselves and to realize that they are sexy, but I still would like to lose weight. I've been looking at photos of these really skinny girls, who I think are beautiful and I'd love to look like, but I will never be that skinny. Luckily I'm okay with it, I think chubbiness on girls is sexy, too.... but while these girls might be size 3s... probably I would, at the smallest manage a size 8... and that's giving myself a lot of credit. I honestly think I'll have done good and look great if I manage a size 12. I will consider myself skinny enough because I have big bones, and muscles... I'm always going to be bigger. Although I will admit, I saw a photo of myself recently and even though I could see the positive things, I worried I'm getting the the point where I'm at a size that I don't find attractive on me.

So what is your perfect size? Mine would be probably a size 10... I think if I was a size 10 I would be very happy with myself, although I'm sure I'd still find things to be unhappy with myself about... in fact, I know I'd have some.

What is probably the most realistic size you could possibly manage? I think a lot of girls fail to take into account their build and bone structure... I think most of us here could never be a size 0, and if we managed it I promise it probably wouldn't look good at all. Really thinking about it, do you think your perfect size is a realistic goal for you?

Or are you one of those who thinks you'd look better with a few extra pounds?

I really think a major problem is that girls pick an ideal size with no regard for their body type, and that's a shame... because they won't be satisfied and they won't necessarly look their best. It also makes it easier to hate yourself when you aren't honest and realistic with yourself.

Also, I don't know very much about guys... but feel free to answer the questions xp Do guys feel that most guys tend to pick an ideal body that isn't possible for them? I've noticed a lot of guys saying they want to look like the guys from 300... and I did find those guys attractive, which is very rare for me 'cause I dislike muscle men... but I think most guys would not look good with all that muscle.... and I think most of the guys telling me they want to look like that aren't the right body structure for it.

My perfect size is a 10 or a 12... I dont want to be skinny because I like my boobs and most people look aweful super skinny. I know I would never want to be a zero... there is something frightening about not exsisting. 10 or 12 is good.

I think my goal weight is 145 pounds, cause I'm short. And I wish I were petite too. I've got a ways to go, but I think I can do it. I hope I can. Soon. I dont know what size I'd like to be. Jeans? And 11 I think would be good. I was happy in that size, and life was good. That's the goal.

A 12, I guess. I don't really think about it very much. I would like the measurements 40-30-38, since I do want to be larger than the "perfect" girls, but I would like to take some inches off. I'm more concerned about my shape than size, even though I'm pretty happy with how I look.

The thing that worries me most is my health.

I want to be a uk 12.
Like Lily Allen.

I'm glad everyone that's posted has been pretty realistic.

My grandmother was an inch taller than me, and 125 lbs at about my age.... but I can't ever imagine myself being that thin.

eh for me.,i fall in the 38-40 range (which is on the bigger side. most guys ive seen lately fall in the 34-40 range)
phew, guys sizes are so much easier to figure out haha.
my personal ideal size for me is to lose my love handles sweatdrop a little on my gut and my arms. ive always been a big guy and i know that. i just want to be toned. having a crazy muscular neck never did it for me. i just want some definintion and im there.

as for a girl. i always thought the right size was around a 10-18 (i dont know how big of a gap that is but thats what most girls ive been attracted to say that their size was...well...those that were 'brave' enough to tell me anyways XP)

For me I can manage being a 8 but at this moment my ideal is a size 12...womder if I will ever get that small?