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i have a friend that i really like and i feel like we are really close but i havent told him i am gay yet and i dont know how he really feels about me

he lets me hang off of him a lot and he does the same to me sometimes and he knows i love hugs and cuddling and we have messed around a little bit but nothing to serious but i really really really want to kiss him

would it be to soon or is there a way to tell if it is ok?

if it is ok when and where shoudl i and how i mean is there a secret to kissing or something?

I have to say I agree with Rain here. If you feel comfortable enough with him, talk to him. Trying to kiss him before knowing where he stands could chase him away, and you dont want to chase away a friend. Who knows, he may feel the same about you. But, just like Rain, don't take this advice as the end of all advices.

I can advise talking to your friends about being gay though (close freinds of ether sex). All of my close friends now know about me, and if anything our relationship has grown stronger for it. The only friend I have that does not know (and one of the few regrets I have) is my best friend. He joined the army before I got a chance to tell him, and im not willing to tell him via e-mail. If you do feel really close to this friend you might want to let him know how you feel before there is not the chance to tell him.

That, and in order to kiss someone you have to have a level of comfort with them that goes beyond simply "messing around" or even close physical contact, because there is a lot of meaning behind a kiss (at least when I give kisses to those I love). But I think you are thinking of a passionate, fireworks inspired, first kiss, am I right?

Just from what I know of you, don't be like, "Okay, so now that you know I'm gay and you're okay with it, lets kiss. Come on! Please! Why not!?" xp

Just remember, he has to be okay with it too, and if it turns out he's not interested, you just need to relax and not push it. If something is going to happen, it will happen.

Well, it may be a little awkward, but have you tried talking to them? It could be that they are a little intimidated by the act. Or maybe they are just waiting for the right moment. A romantic moment first kiss in a relationship will mean more then a "Ok, why have you not kissed me yet?!?!? Kiss me already!" kinda kiss. If you think they might be intimidated talk, otherwise maybe you should wait it out. smile

im sure youll do great and it will all work out

at least i hope it does

good things should happen to good people

Kissing on the lips is just another eventual progression of showing affection. Sometimes it is best to lead up to kissing on the lips or finding otherways to display your love and affection without actually kissing. In my family, we have "blessings" which are affection without any sexual connotations.

The first method of "blessings" is grasping the other persons hand, and gently rubbing the thumb over the back of their hand in a soothing motion. My parents did this frequently with me when I was sick or needed to get a shot. It can also be used to absentmindedly calm the nerves of something suffering from stress, because of the gentle physical contact.

The second method of "blessings" are kisses in "safe areas" such as on the cheek, top of the head, forehead, or even back of the neck*.

* In my family, this is often called "angel kisses," and is related to a common birth mark in my family on the back of the neck, in the shape of a pair of lips that share the same name, "angel kisses." Of course, this birth mark usually fades after a few years, which is why my family feels the need to replant the mark over and over and over again.

Remember, kissing is just one way to show affection for the person you love, and if you feel they might be uncomfortable with it, try and find other ways to make them feel special and loved. Play nice, have fun.