|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
 Posted: Mon May 21, 2007 6:03 pm
I'm sorry if this dosen't give enough detail, or shouldn't be posted here. I have never told anybody this except my two closest friends, and it is a really personal subject.
My parents are on the abusive side. I don't get hit every night or pushed down the stairs, but it happens enough to hurt. I didn't think it was a big deal until my friend said, "Elise..my parents have never layed a single finger on me." Thats when it hit hard. About once or twice a month, a big fight will occur in my house. My parents push me (a freshman), my sister (a senior) and my little brother (a seventh grader) around quite a bit. They say the most awful things. We've gotten things such as 'I wish I never had you.' & 'I could give a s**t if you killed yourself.' They will throw glass objects, or break my computer, and they are normally drunk when this happens. I don't understand how me, being a straight A student, varsity soccer player, and sca officer dosen't please them.
It has gotten to a point of horror. I came home from my friends house, and they didn't believe me when I told them I was there. It started out with just some arguing until they hit me in the face. I tried to walk upstairs and they pulled me back down and beat me to the ground. I hit him back, and I feel like I deserved what was coming. I deeply bruised my elbow, and didn't tell anybody when I realized I had a mild concussion from my head being slammed into the ground. (I've had them before and know what they are.) I ran to my friends house with only my shirt, jeans and no shoes on in the snow. I slept there for the night.
I've tried to ignore it, and tell myself they don't mean it. I really do. I know my life isn't awful. There are kids who get beaten every night. I'm not dieing from cancer. I'm okay. I just wish I could change it. My boyfriend dumped me because he thought I was changing, and my friend got mad when I couldn't explain the bruises on my arms, until the other night and I confessed. I don't want to get them in trouble. I'm not going to tell an adult, or a friend. They have offered to call the cops, but I don't want that.
If they leave, I won't be anybody. I will have nothing. I need them. And I hope they love me.
I just want to find out a way to please them, and I really want my friends to support me and help me. They don't seem to care.
-Elise.
|
 |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Mon May 21, 2007 7:21 pm
You need to tell someone whether you want to or not. No responsible person is going to try to give you advice on how you can better please criminals who beat their children. Abusers are abusers. It does not matter what you do. You think every kid who gets beaten every night deserves it? Do you think it's his fault? Do you think if he only tried harder to please his parents they wouldn't beat him? Of course not. They beat him either way, right? No matter what.
You need to be willing to tell someone even though it's hard. Honestly, if I were your friend in real life and you told me that you were not willing to stand up and tell someone, I would not support that decision either. I don't blame your friends one bit for not supporting that decision and for not giving you advice on how to please them. I don't support it, and it sounds like they don't either because it's a bad decision. It's illogical and dangerous.
You don't need anyone. No matter who is in your life or not in your life, you will still be you. No one can take that away from you.
I have no tolerance for people who beat children, and I don't think anyone else should either. I hope you find strength and a safe place.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Tue May 22, 2007 2:12 am
I totally agree with Lorien. If I were your friend and I knew about this, I'd call CPS and you and you siblings would be removed from your parents for awhile and be SAFE while your parents went through necessary counseling to fix THEIR problems.
It is never okay to beat your child. Every day, once a month, or once in their entire life. NEVER. NEVER EVER is it okay for them to beat you.
Do you know how they can prove to you that they love you? By doing what's best for you and NOT beating you or your siblings. That's not love. It's ILLEGAL.
Please get help. What if they do permanent damage to you, your sister or your brother? What if they accidentally KILLED one of you? You can prevent that from happening by getting your parents the help they need.
Go tell a school counselor, a trusted teacher/adult, or the police. Please.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Posted: Wed Apr 15, 2009 3:43 am
I know they're your parents but you really need to leave that home. If you have any relatives that live near you, I think you should move there. Try seeing a counseller and i also think that you should report this incident to the cops. I know that it will be hard, but one day they will do one too many things and one of you could die.
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Reply
