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 Posted: Wed May 09, 2007 4:55 pm
okay, I'm putting this in here, because my friends have access to nearly all my other guilds, and I don't want them to get freaked. First off, I was born female. I'm 16 years old if that helps in some way. I'm also asexual ((meaning I'm not atracted to men or women in a sexual way. I can't reproduce by myself ; ) )) So, I've always had problems with my gender. I heard of transgender a while back, but it didn't fit, ((Ha, I got you there, didn't I. You thought I was going to say that's what I am.)) because I really don't want to be male, `cause that's kinda icky. No offence to any of you males out there. Later I found out about being genderqueer/androgyne, and it fit. So you don't have to google search: Quote: Androgyne (pronounced AN-dra-jine) [genderqueer] is the term used to describe persons who are androgynous. Androgyny, first and foremost, is a state of mind, not just an attitude or fashion statement. The notion that only androgynous-looking people can be or are androgynous is a misconception. Androgynes can be said to have the gender identity of both a man and a woman -- or neither. Some identify with both traditional genders, while others see their identity as more of a synthesis and consider themselves to be agendered, as in "other" or "none of the above." Some androgynes go as far as to call themselves "gender outlaw" (a term popularized by Kate Bornstein). From: http://androgyne.0catch.com/Then just recently, I found the term Neutrois. So you don't have to google search it: Quote: Neutrois means non-gendered class. A Neutrois is someone who identifies as being non-gendered and seeks to lose the major physical signifiers that indicate gender to others (breasts, facial and body hair, crotch bulges, etc). Neutrois are not androgynes, but do pursue an androgynous appearance. They are uniquely bound by their gender dysphoria in that they find both male and female orientations wrong [for them]. Because of this, transitioning from an assigned gender, to either male, or female identities is not an acceptable solution. From: http://neutrois.0catch.com/defin.htmIt really seems to fit. I've always been uncomftorable with my breasts ((and all my other female things)); I've considered getting them removed when I turn 18. ...I guess there really isn't a question here. I'm just looking for someone to talk to about this. I can't really ask if you all think I'm neutrois, because I'm supposed to figure that out by myself. I'm worried that my parents will freak out about this if they ever find out; according to them, I should be comftorable female, because god made me that way. ((I also should be atracted to men in a sexual way.)) I can't talk to any of my friends about this cause they freaked when I came out as genderqueer and asexual to them. Does anyone else out there have gender identity issues or know someone who does? Sorry this is so long. XxX
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Posted: Wed May 09, 2007 5:27 pm
[♥]her bone structure screams... Hmm..
sorry to say but I don't know if I have any advice on this topic.
I don't see why your friends would freak out, I mean its not like you're saying your the devil or something confused
I think if you told your parents or you frends they would accept it. 3nodding
I do, it makes no difference to me, I still feel the same towards you.
Then again,some people are weird whee
Talk to Semok about this. 3nodding Semok would have very good advice I think 3nodding ...touch her,touch her![♥]
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Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 1:03 pm
OMG YOU'RE LIKE ME!!!!! *glomps*
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Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 1:37 pm
but semok, i thought you just wanted to be a guy. hmm...advice...hmm...i don't know, i can't really imagine feeling that way so i really can't imagine what id do. it doesn't matter to me if my friends or family told me that they felt that way, but then again, im a very open and logical person so i don't know, as nikki said, a lot of people are weird like that. I say you shouldn't keep it a secret from your family and friends because your friends should be supportive of you and if not then id hate to sound cliche but "maybe they're not really your friends" and well, your family should have unconditional love, so im sure they would understand eventually and support whatever decision you make about your situation. 3nodding
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-RandomRadRainbows- Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 1:45 pm
Well, I wanna look like a guy but not have a...yeah. And I wanna be a guy with really long hair and no facial hair or muscles and all that, so it's like a femanine guy, so technically it's both and neither gender at once.
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Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 3:12 pm
wow, somehow, even though i know you only through the internet, that sounds perfect for you!
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-RandomRadRainbows- Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 3:17 pm
That's because it's weird, like me. I hate to say this, but I wanna look like a really skinny pimp, with like really tight bell bottom pants and long hair to my hips, and all black with vests and ties and all that. I hate sayin' I want to be thin though.
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Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 5:58 pm
lol, well that part's not weird...a lot of people want to be skinny rolleyes me, i just want to be healthy. that and i kinda want a killer bikini bod xd sweatdrop
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-RandomRadRainbows- Vice Captain
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Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 6:10 pm
Yeah, but I think my obsession for bein' thin is creapin' back again. I've already made a list without thinkin' of how much I should weigh each day in order to way a certain amount at a certain time as well as graphed it on my calculator with the appropriate slope so I can see how ahead or behind I am. sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 4:11 pm
oh my eek is that healthy? confused
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-RandomRadRainbows- Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 4:16 pm
Well, I'm not doin' what I used to do, so it's healthier? I'm such a hypocrite.
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 4:21 pm
in a way i think everyone can be a hipocrite...it's hipocritical for me to say that because i don't consider myself a hypocrite..but now i have to cause it's obvious that i was just being hypocritical eek and im glad you're being healthier about it now. I'm attempting to lose a few pounds myself. Although im not making the hugest effort, just kinda keepin active and attempting not to go crazy with food...which i did today as you already know from my thread in the main forum.
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-RandomRadRainbows- Vice Captain
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 4:23 pm
Yeah. But I keep goin' on rants of how diets never work and all this other stuff. I guess it's true that people talk the most passionately about things that are actually their own faults. Wait a minute...I rant more about drugs. eek
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 4:37 pm
don't do drugs...drugs are bad xp lol, we all rant about things that we do wrong, but being hypocritical is slightly natural to a certain extent..or maybe im only sayin that cause i do it a lot sweatdrop
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Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 4:37 pm
I wouldn't do drugs if my life depended on it. I don't even take cough drops anymore.
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