The day before yesterday, I gave my boyfriend a b*****b for the first time. It was also my first time giving one, period. It was a little embarrassing at first, but eventually I got the hang of it. I could tell he really liked it, and I kind of did, too. He didn't c**, even though I was at it for a little under an hour. I chalked this one up to my lack of experience, and the fact that my sister was coming home in ten minutes. Even so, he kissed me and said "thank you" after he had me stop.
Yesterday, I tried again. I worked with what I learned from the day before, combined with some reading I did. He went nuts; I was so proud of myself. But again, even though I was at it for a really long time, he didn't c**. About twenty minutes in, he told me to take a break and stretch (I cramped up one of my knees really badly the day before), before I popped a piece of mint gum and went back to work. Ten minutes later, he grabbed my hand and pulled me up to cuddle for a little while. I said I wanted to try just one more time to make him c**, and he didn't have any objections. I tried and tried for at least another fifteen minutes, but still nothing. I thought he was going to a few times, but nothing. Eventually, he sat up and and told me to stop. He said that he wanted to c**, but he didn't know why he couldn't. I thought it was my fault and got a little upset, but he told me that it couldn't be my fault. The saddest part is he feels like it makes him less of a man.
I want him to feel better about himself, so I'm asking for advice and opinions on why he can't achieve orgasm, even though he wants to, and what I can do to help him get there. Is it my fault, even though he says it's not? He said he was a little nervous, but he was definitely relaxed and comfortable enough to get to that point in the first place.
Before anyone asks, the last time he came normally was three weeks ago (I asked him just to be sure), and he's 19.
Let's just say... it was a good weekend. wink
Yesterday, I tried again. I worked with what I learned from the day before, combined with some reading I did. He went nuts; I was so proud of myself. But again, even though I was at it for a really long time, he didn't c**. About twenty minutes in, he told me to take a break and stretch (I cramped up one of my knees really badly the day before), before I popped a piece of mint gum and went back to work. Ten minutes later, he grabbed my hand and pulled me up to cuddle for a little while. I said I wanted to try just one more time to make him c**, and he didn't have any objections. I tried and tried for at least another fifteen minutes, but still nothing. I thought he was going to a few times, but nothing. Eventually, he sat up and and told me to stop. He said that he wanted to c**, but he didn't know why he couldn't. I thought it was my fault and got a little upset, but he told me that it couldn't be my fault. The saddest part is he feels like it makes him less of a man.
I want him to feel better about himself, so I'm asking for advice and opinions on why he can't achieve orgasm, even though he wants to, and what I can do to help him get there. Is it my fault, even though he says it's not? He said he was a little nervous, but he was definitely relaxed and comfortable enough to get to that point in the first place.
Before anyone asks, the last time he came normally was three weeks ago (I asked him just to be sure), and he's 19.
Let's just say... it was a good weekend. wink
