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 Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 8:19 am
how do you deal with the loss of a parent? i just recently lost my mother this month and it's been hard knowing she'll never be there anymore
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 9:33 am
[There's a killer on the road...]
I haven't lost either of my parents, so I wouldn't really know.
[... His brain is squirming like a toad...]
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 4:56 pm
It's been 12 years for me, and though I question if you ever really deal with it you do start to become numb to the pain eventually and think about it less as time goes on.
I still try to call her when the kids do something important, but then I stop myself and remember that I don't need to pick up a phone and hope she's home, I just talk to her as if she were next to me. Because I feel like she is and somehow she already knows.
Keep talking to her and you'll keep the connection and lose the pain. Don't wallow in the loss, use it as a private more intimate link and it will help get you thru it.
It's gonna hurt for a long time, but don't lose yourself in it. Losing mom was enough, keep yourself grounded. Cry when you want to, scream if you need to, but get it out and the pain will be replaced by the love and memories you will always cherish. And talk to others who will listen and just let you get it out.
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 8:24 pm
Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that.
I've kinda lost my mom in that she has alzheimer's and has good days and bad days. On the bad days she won't even register that you're talking to her.
On the good.. well I'm lucky if she recognizes me and can for more than "Hi mom, how are you?" ... It's hard.
But Queen's right, ya can't lose yourself to it. Let the emotion out when you need to but remember the good times and eventually you'll be okay. <3
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Kiss in Digital Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2007 9:19 pm
Sorry to hear about your mom. neutral
I don't know how it feels, but I rarely see my mom and it's been that way for about 10 years (nothing bad, it's just that I moved far away). So, if she died,...uh...I don't know...I'm sure I'd feel bad, but it would be worse if we were closer and I saw her all the time. I've sort of grown to live without her and whatnot.
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Posted: Mon Jun 11, 2007 2:52 pm
Sorry to hear about your mom.
I have not lost my parents as of today, but I have been around a couple very important people in my life when they lost a love. When my father and I found his dad at after he past away, it was a very hard time for my father and some what for myself. My father and his father didn't always get along but it was his father.
I was their when my wife lost her mother. She took it very hard and almost lost herself in the process of dealing with the pain. So, I would take to heart of what everyone has post before me. They have all had great thoughts and advice. But do remember to look to the people close to you and around to try to help you deal with the emotions of the loss of your mother.
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