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I've posted this in another Christian Guild (not to us) so if you're there this might look familiar. I just need to know that people are praying about this. I scared that Jon will never understand what I'm trying to tell him, and that could lead to a break up, which I still dont think will happen. I dont think it's a plausable thing, but it's important that this is given to God. Thanks guys




I've been dating my boyfriend (Jon) for over a year now..and I'm kinda worried. It's not like I think that our relationship is falling apart. It's mosr certainly not. But there is a snag, and a rather large snag it is.

See here's the thing, Jon is a Baptist and I'm not. Actually, I dont belong to any denomination at all. I attend a SDA (Seventh Day Advantist) church, but do not belong to any one denomination. I think that denominations seperate Gods people and are stupid. I' never call myself SDa. I call myself Christian. I also have no right calling myslef SDA since I dont believe half the stuff they do anyways.
Okay, so a lot of people think that SDA churches are cults. This url explains why this is so. It's mostly about this lady names Ellen White. Many SDAs believe her to be a prophet, and she believes some pretty weird things, and I'd say she's just about as wack as that Mary Baxter lady with her divine revelation of Hell.

Jon and I never had any problem before with the churches that we attend. We both think that so long as the bases of our beliefs are correct, the small differences dont matter (ie - opinions on hell, women peaching in churches, etc.) since God will use us both to persuade the other person to the truth. We're both kinda stubborn about our faith, but either way, God uses the ones we love to get to our hearts, and that's how we know that eventually we'll have the same beliefs.

All of a sudden, Jon's mom shows him this web site (the one in the link in one of the other paragraphs) and now he's scared for me since I attend a SDA church. However, he doesn't seem to understand that my church doesn't believ more than half that stuff either way. No one in my church believes that the atonement wasn't finished at the cross, that we shouldn't eat pork, that Satan bears our sins, Or that ee are saved through grace plus works. We dont believe any of that stuff, that's all practically anti-christ. But Jon doesn't want to accept the fact that I attend an SDA church who doesn't even advertise itself as one. He cant understand that when visiters come, they dont think that we're SDA. He's having a very hard time trusting my judgement on what is Christian and what is not, and he's having an even harder time accepting that my church isn't satanic, and that it's not a cult.

As you can imagine, this is very frustrating for me since I've explained over and over that my church isn't a cult, doesn't believe half the SDA beliefs, and isn't satanic. Even though I've said this in more ways than one, and in plain english, he just can't wrap his mind around this concept.

So my request is that you would pray for me and Jon. I'm scared for what conclusions he might draw about me, and it doesn't make me feel very good. I feel very untrusted, frustrated, and scared. I've given this to God and I think this is the most I've prayed in one hour. I know that God is faithful and true, and that if he wants Jon and I together, he will help resolve this issue, but I need confirmation. I know it's true but I'm still scared, which means that something inside of me is doubting. I dont want to doubt, I just want to trust God with all my mind and heart. I need to trust that he'll take care of me and Jon.

Huu~ ...I'm gunna go pray more...thanks guys

Yeah, I'll definately pray for you in your relationship and with God's help and you'll both be able to sort these matters out smile .
Personally, I'm not in a denomination either, the church I go to is based solely on community, Bible study, and our love for Jesus. Basically, we just try to appeal to everyone when it comes to different worship styles, along with modernizing our worship (like skits, videos, and powerpoints) that can help teach God's word to appeal to anyone and everyone, instead of relying on the old rituals and traditions.
Like I said in another post, we used to be the Church of Christ demoniation (which is believed to be cult-like because of thier non Biblical beliefs) but our church split up because half of us (including myself) didn't believe more than half of what that demoniation was getting at. So, because of that, we got to keep our building and changed our name from a Church of Christ to Community Church.
Well, forgive me for sounding judgemental if I am, but from what I've read, it seems strange to me that your church calls itself SDA but, all or the majority of you don't believe a lot of what the actual SDA teaches. Name change? Well, I guess that's really up to God confused . To me, it just sounds like they follow the right way on the inside, but still causing much confusion on the outside due what the name of that church is, and how people still percieve it to this day.
...Feel free to flame me for saying any of that if it sounded offensive, but I'm still steadily growing up in Christ lol 3nodding .

P.S. On a side note, sorry for repeating myself if any of you read this somewhere before wink